In defence of Kunal

Although there is no such justification for Kunal. People are saying that he was just lusting over Nandini, which can be very much true. But I think Kunal's act can be justified by a simple reasoning that he was never in love with Mauli. I guess everyone will agree with that. So what's wrong if Kunal doesn't love his wife? You can't force someone to love. It happens naturally. I firmly believe that true love is very rare to find in this world. What happens mostly is compromise in the name of marriage. Even if it's love marriage, the couple gets bored of each other after a point of time, and the romance dies. People keep on changing at different stages of life. Their thinking, mentality and choices also change. What you like to do today, you may not like to do after 10 years. Same happens with marriage.

So what's wrong if Kunal has got bored of Mauli and wants to move on to greener pastures? Yes, he's being selfish, but being selfish is a human trait. We all are selfish in one way or other. Please don't give me the bullshit that there should be a limit. We are no one to set limits for a any individual. Moral fiber is subjective, it differs from person to person. Some people consider eating non-veg as a sin, but others eat it delightfully. Who's wrong and who's right, we are no one to decide.

Yeah, it's also very much possible that Kunal doesn't love Nandini either, and just lusting over her. Tomorrow he might also leave her. So what?It's his life, his choice. He can do whatever he wants.

Problem is that our society has made marriage a big deal. But you can see that in Bollywood, alot of celebs have extra-marital affairs and open marriages. Why? They are not any worse human beings than us. They just have a choice to live that lifestyle. We common people don't do that because society doesn't allow. If a common person indulges in extra-marital affair, they are shamed like Kunal and Nandini.

A perfect married couple in love living happily ever after, this only happens in fiction. In reality, couples do get bored of each other after some years in Marriage. What Kunal did, it's the whim of almost every married guy out there. No one wants to eat dal chawal daily. You can call it ugly, but that's the truth of life.

Kunal's only fault was that he didn't tell Mauli about his affair. He betrayed her. But maybe he was going to tell her everything, and was just looking for the right moment.

Please no personal comments.

It was mouli who kept on bringing nandini infront of kunal. Poor guy he tried to control his emotions kept on fighting his inner self but he failed.

What he said on fridays episode was rt and mouli was also rt.

But by showing EMA as gods will, destined for each other the makers destroyed the divinity of marriage.

This is an Indian show, ppl are not bold enough to handle this story and trp aunties will support mauli.

Thats why KANK received lot of backlash.

Here they didnt show both the parties guilty. They were happily romancing in public.

Thats where the execution failed.

He was waiting for the right moment to tell Mauli..the consummation also happened, may be he was waiting for N to get pregnant n then tell Mauli...just Joking 😊

1] kunal is lusty man - not trustworthy man and not a good husband

2] i support that - it is his choice to sleep with any number of women / prostitutes / s**ts...he has freedom of choice ..and we have no right to question his lustful thinking...but before his lust journey he must need to give divorce to mouli..

3]mouli deserved much better and loyal and ethical companion..

But what about commitment? Humans should honour commitment, otherwise there's no difference between us and animals.

Secondly, I agree that Kunal has no justification. And people aren't buying Kunal's justification for cheating because there was no instances shown for Kunal falling out of love with Mauli. In fact, before this, both were shown to have a perfect marriage and deeply in love with each other and suddenly bam, he sees one rain dance of Nandini and suddenly falls in love and has sex with her within a few days without having interacted a lot (all due to poor writing). There is no emotional depth to their affair. It looks like lust and nowhere near love. So why can't people feel disgusted at Kunal pervert tendencies and fickleness.

Lol, Kunal has all rights to fall out of love with Mauli but he has no right to hurt Mauli. If his love for Nandini is as pure as he claims, he should have the guts to tell Mauli directly before he proceeds. His actions has a lot of psychological implications for Mauli. As Mauli rightfully pointed out, only both of them gain and only she has to lose.

Yes Kunal is selfish. Nandini is selfish. If the CVs dared to portray them as the grey characters they are instead of offering nonsensical justifications for their affairs, the story would have been better accepted. Don't blame the audience for this. This was the same audience that accepted other EMA stories like DSJZ and Hasratein. So it has nothing to do with the audience and all to do with the execution.

And your argument about morality is dubious. Yes, human beings are selfish. I believe you are alluding to about the philosophical theory of "selfish-gene theory". Do take note that philosophers have noted that this selfish gene theory has many flaws. One being that it doesn't explain the various instances of human altruism. As much as human beings are made to be selfish, they are also made to care for each other and co-exist as a society so that humans can thrive and their lineage can continue.

Moreover, morality may be subjective for each individual. But as a society, we do have various moral and ethical codes and even laws to moderate what can be done and not done in society. Societies without these ethical codes are dystrophic and often catastrophic.

As for EMAs, I don't get your argument essentially that if Bollywood celebs, why can't normal people in society do it. Are Bollywood celebs a standard of morality? A standard of morality that should be adhered to? EMAs are frowned upon due to the pain and devastation they cause to the familial unit. And why shouldn't it be? Why should kids and partners suffer for their partners' selfishness?

If Kunal had the guts to tell Mauli the truth and separate from her legally before doing whatever he wants with Nandini, no one would have any issue. And glorifying such a betrayal as divine love makes it worse. If you fall in love with someone else while you're married, tell them outrightly and leave them. No matter how selfish you are, this bit of decency can be expected.

Exactly

The problem isn't EMA. We knew what were getting into when we started seeing the show. We were ready to see characters with flaws. But the show isn't giving us those characters. Every character in this show is mahaan: be it Mouli or KuNan.

The biggest problem with this show is the contradiction between what its showing and what its trying tell.

What its saying in the show is: look at these two star-crossed lovers who have to sacrifice their love because of "halatein".

Whats its showing is: two people who with no guilt or shame indulge in EMA. We have not seen any decent conversation between Kunal and Nandini where they talk about what they are doing. Forget Mouli for a second, have they thought about society? Arrey, kaha hey unke sacrifices? Kaha thi unke concerns? Like even if they show us KuNan feeling guilty now, it'll be guilt, its isn't concern about Mouli. If they had given us few scenes where Kunal atleast said something in the lines of "it feels weird to go home to Mouli now" or "i can't look Mouli in eyes these days and i hate it" it would have made a huge difference. At least to me. If Nandini had once tried to either be extra nice to Mouli ( to make up for sleeping with her husband) or been distant with Mouli altogether (because of shame) it would have atleast seem like they were worried about Mouli in some ways. But no, blushing or staring se time mile tab na. They didn't even think about Mouli.

In this regard we the viewers have been cheated too because we aren't given the show we were promised in the promos. We were promised a mature (and somewhat tragic) lovestory between two responsible adults and we are left with a divine lovestory where the lover dont frigging talk to eachother (like seriously can we have one adult conversation between KuNan?). Maybe thats why we can relate to Mouli so much.

Fall in love. Marry. Fall out of love. Again fall in love . Marry . Fall out of love. And the vicious circle continues.

So yeah it happens.

1. Made big talks about opening a clinic after leaving his job, only to sit around doing nothing, whilst his wife worked extra hours to make his dream come true, then he feels sad when she is giving less time to him, when instead it could have been him working those extra hours to make HIS OWN dream come true, and he could have sat down and talked to mauli to make a plan to spend time together. Instead he did none of those stuff and did his besharmi. If your partner starts spending less time with you with a valid reason, you are an idiot to just go out and cheat on them. You need to talk and understand as well, including come up with a solution with your partner.

2. Was completely happy and in love with mauli, had no problems in his relationship with mauli, and he knew well he had the most perfect, supportive, loving and understanding wife in mauli. He knew he was lucky. I repeat... he was completely happy and in love with mauli, up until seeing nandini.

3. He gets attracted to nandini way too quickly and within a mere few days of knowing her, decides that mauli is purana farz of his and that nandini is his love now. Just wow! I repeat, he was completely happy and in love with mauli, right till nandini entered, and he started getting attracted to her. Put two and two together, and think whether he really is out of love with mauli, or just heavily infatuated by nandini that he has become blind to mauli's existence, and he has taken mauli for granted, including his love for mauli having taken a back seat, currently being overpowered for his lust for nandini.

4. He is so caught up in this infatuation towards nandini, that he hasn't thought once whether he and nandini are actually compatible enough to actually sustain a long, stable and happy life together where he is emotionally supported, understood and encouraged, the way mauli is for him. Nandini may be attractive to him, and good for him to mess about with, and have meaningless emotional talks with that are all centered around crying about her problems, but is nandini the strong woman who can hold herself and him when he falls weak and defeated? Is nandini the one who can actively support him in his dreams and goals and help him get the best out of himself? Is nandini the one who can be patient and understanding with him but whilst balancing that with advising him and pointing out where he is going wrong? Or is nandini just going to egg him on in everything he does and just stand back letting him do anything he wants just to keep his royal highness kunal happy because she feels indebted to him for showing her some affection? Has he at all thought whether nandini has everything that he is looking for in a partner who he would want to spend the rest of his life with, apart from just a face and saree-clad body he can stare at and play with like a toy all day? 😆

5. He hasn't thought about whether he will be happier living with someone who is his equal or even stronger than him emotionally, or whether he will be happy in the long run living with a girl who is too emotionally fragile herself to offer him emotional support, a girl who will be like a responsibility and a baby who needs constant protection and security. Again, you can "love" someone, but compatibility issues can make two people sick of each other, or one person sick of the other.

6. If mauli is in fact purana farz, he doesn't love her anymore, and nandini is his love, where were the times showing him falling out of love with mauli, realising he doesn't love mauli and never has truly loved her maybe? Why didn't kunal have any moments where he realised he didn't love mauli and realising that she isn't right for him or there's something in his relationship with mauli that he wants and is heavily lacking? KANK was at least good in that it correctly portrayed why they had no love left for their partners or their relationship. If he truly is in love with nandini, why was he never shown realising he is out of love with mauli? Tha;'s something to think about. Kunal had no complaints for mauli, had nothing lacking in his marriage with her, had no problems that couldn't easily be resolved by talking etc, yet he claims he loves nandini. Bullshit.