~~ long comment alert as it contains real experience~~
I had a long term committed relationship.. for about 6 years.. Me and my BF. Everyone used to say we are example of the perfect couple. We trusted each other blindly.. and then boom, On the eve of our 7 years anniversary and when we were planning to get married, he cheated on me with a common friend .. Even she was a divorcee, a broken from previous relationship woman, whom we both used to console just like Kunal-Mouli . BUT that did not justified the damage they did to me.
I used to wonder "why people commit suicide when a relationship fails? " , " Why people cry for a breakup?", "Why people can't move on from an unworthy partner?" and then that harsh reality taught me , You can NEVER understand how it feels if you've not gone through this. Seriously, you can feel bad for someone BUT you will NEVER get the idea of that pain.
My whole world just crushed down when I came to know about this. Remember, In the old BW movies they used to show a glass breaks down whenever they wanted to show a broken heart? It actually felt like this. Something in me just broke. I did not cry at that moment. I became a Zombie. He said he did this because I was "Fatty", I am more of an independent woman, more of a careerist woman NOT a Gopi bahu like her or a Nandini "whose masumiyat took his heart away". Now I know these are bullshit but at that time I thought "Oh yeah, yes, Problem is within me" . Mind you, I am an Engineer, working in a senior post in a company -- and he made me felt like this, even though I invested my 6 years on him , I did all his homework in varsity, all his report are written by me, I managed a job for him, I helped him financially whenever he needed, I became his best friend plus the GF. I was always the GF his friends wanted to have. YET, he made me feel like this.
When I tried to move on what he did (And for SURE what Kunal will do), he came back to me, he told me it was a mistake, he loved me, he will leave her and marry me and all. And when I got convinced, he again cheated me. This happened 2/3 times, imagine, same pain, same situation -- I had to endure 23 times.
At that point I tried to commit suicide, I, who always advocates against it. At that time , my family came to know about these all. And Thank God, they knew. They immediately supported me, helped me in my healing, protected me , did everything possible without judging me. At that point of my life I realized parents will always be parents, no one can love you like them, and siblings are blessings...
Now, I am married to another broken soul , yes, we are not the "perfect couple" but we are best for each other. At least, we are at peace, we respects each other and now I came to know what true relationship means.
BUT
true tell you the truth, something in me permanently died. That romantic girl who can do anything for her loved one, died. Emotions now comes to me late. I am now more realistic. I feel guilty sometimes I cannot give that "Bepannah" love to my husband that I used to give to my ex. The girl who used to blindly believe in trust and love -- doesn't believe it in those at all.
Drashti Dhami is my favorite actress BUT I am with Mouli. I know how it feels. I cannot forgive the actor, actresses and the PH - because all they want to do justifying cheating. And cheating doesn't always mean having physical relation, if you give all the attention, love, time, thought, imagination etc that your partner deserves to another person - this is also cheating and yes , this does not compare with friendship with another gender.
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
