Consent|Marriage|Flaws|Conditions|Episode 133- Review up !!

Love is not enough. Life goes beyond this circle of roses and thorns. Regrets, dreams, beliefs, hurt, betrayal, happiness, care... everything being a delusionary mirage of it.

Perfection is a myth.

Nothing but a feather flying in the sky of imperfection.

Flaws are real. They are necessary because they are the driving power to seek that perfection.

Anokhi is flawed.

Shaurya is flawed.

But then there are humans and it’s good to witness characters who are flawed and not hiding under the cover of perfection yet still being flawed. These two are not just words but actions.

Actions that are prominent and evident in outshining their flaws yet covering up for their strengths.

So when I have not backed out in pointing out the times when writers messed up, I definitely do not want to hold back when it’s time for me to appreciate them beyond.

The way the entire thing was written and the way these two episodes were worked upon specifically, they definitely deserve all the appreciation...all of it.

Now I can go on and on in providing a full episode review while mentioning about their expressions and lines but I will limit this to certain points only.

You see- To be invested in love, it is not necessary to be equally mad in love, one can be sensible as well.

Anokhi is not responsible for his insecurities then why should she be the one to bear the burden of it.

People in love should not necessarily be judged based on their decisions with respect to the other person. Even when in love, your flaws and strengths should be your own, yes the perspective can be altered but the idea can never be changed.

You will still be your own person.

And for the first time on ITV, I see the idea of ‘Love is not the limit’ to be appreciated like this. Because certainly, love can’t be the sorrow to drown in, it has to be the sky that awaits rainbow yet settles for the rain.

So when I see people questioning her investment in love and comparing that to Shaurya, I wonder where the basic concept of being a human first loiters?!

Yes, they are in love but do voicing out her concerns and insecurities makes her a person any less in love. She never asked him to prove his love. He is the one going ahead with it.

All she said was- Why didn’t he try giving his mother a chance?

(And it was not her curiosity to know why he didn’t? For now, it was her apprehensions, the fear that when he never tried to give his mother a chance what is the possibility that he will be any different for her?! But you see the beauty of it, for her to compare herself with Aastha and his equation with his mother to their own equation and drawing a parallel from it shows how she acknowledges his sufferings and investment towards his mother as well.)

All she meant was- She is scared of turning into another Aastha.

All she lacked was- Her not being aware of his side of the story.

(But then I ask myself is she really responsible for his reason of bottling up his pain and emotions?! When she is not the reason behind those bottled-up emotions then why should she be the one to get tainted with them?!)

And on top of that, his intentions might not be wrong, but his decision was. From love or for love, their marriage is non-consensual for her. Even if he is not malicious about it but he never asked. And I am glad, really glad to witness a forced marriage where the significance of it is questioned by a female lead.

Shaurya loves her, I know. She loves him back, equally and fiercely but that does not snatch her power to question the wrong in general.

Also, even if she sounds wrong in putting him on a pedestal where he is not left free for himself to decide if he wants Aastha back but Anokhi Bhalla told him to take as much time as he wants. All she seeks is growth in him, so even if she does not come there with a direct intention to mend the broken part of him then it does mean she is not free to strum the broken wires as well.

Plus, no human should be burdened with the responsibility of mending another human. Because you can’t and you should not. His journey is his own. Her journey is her own. Their journey together is just a part of them. Individually and together. Not completely them.

A shade of the spectrum. Not the entire blossoming rainbow.

So when she falls harsh on him and questions the wrong because she has been done wrong with him, I give her and her flaws a chance because I know where she is coming from. I get it.

Another is one character who trades between just Black and White and Shaurya is the same shade of grey, she has not traded with before. And when she will, there will be growth, individually and in their relationship.

Having said that, I think this forum is also aware of my love for Shara Bear, so I will hold that back today.

And now I will end this with a piece of poetry I wrote a few days back in my diary but now I will give a part of it to ShaKhi-

What am I?

A shade of Pink

What are you?

A blur? Or blink?

I approach the truth, shining of lies.

You capture the crook, forming allies.

For fear of turns, the path walks ahead of me.

For smile of churns, the destination beams at you.

I hold the thread of a kite that flies.

You roll the wind that makes me dive.

I question the fire, you smirk of ashes.

I answer of light, but you shine bright.

And as I fall to the twist of grey,

I wonder about the lack in black?!

Something that leaves me in wreck.

~ Akanksha

Brilliant post dear!

This is something I have been harping from a long time. Shaurya and Anokhi before being Saakhi are themselves. Anokhi before being Shaurya's love interest is a human being herself. She is not his therapist or the reason for his issues that she needs to devote herself to that forgetting her own life.

She has her own dreams, her own aspirations and loves him too. No wonder she lashed out like this.

If he could override her consent and forcefully put sindoor on her, why should there be any guarantee that he won't override her wishes in the future?

I have always despised the fact about Aastha that while she left (that was her call and I understand), she took 25 years to come back. The show never really specified why she couldn't meet him amidst this. Devi toh 24/7 nahi rehti na uske saath 😒

Same is Shaurya's case. He is hurt, mad and angry. Fine. But to keep that inside him for years and burn in it is not maturity either. Fine, he couldn't go to meet her due to his egi and hurt. Ok. He could have at least taken therapy to sort out his issues. Because he definitely has some serious issues.

One of them being, he doesn't frankly listen to the other person's pov. I adore Shaurya, his layered character is so similar to my own life that I shouldn't say this but I understand him intimately.

Which is why I say this - it is not the responsibility of someone else to shoulder the burden to change us. We have to do it ourself. And since Shaurya is resolute, Anokhi's question is perhaps the only way he will even try to know this side.

I have already been there, where Shaurya is right now and I feel for him. But it is at times better to rip the bandaid before it starts to decay the wound. It hurts, but the closure is necessary. A clean break helps in moving on and the other relations stabilize too.

Wow what a wonderful review. Couldn't have explained better.

I fully agree that they r both human, their own individuals. Have their own insecurities.

Shaurya did what he did out of his insecurities, seeing her leaving him telling him that they should end their relation made him do what he did. Not saying it was right but just pointing where he came from.

Same for Anokhi, she has her own fears, her own family life from which she ran from, she is worried about getting in a situation where she has to again fight alone. Her perspective is totally understandable.

They r both dealing with their problems in their own way.

Kudos to the writers, actors fir such superb episodes 👌👏

Loved ur review on it😘😘

Looking forward to their journey of winning over their fears, fighting for their love and growing as a individual as well as a couple.

It will be a wonderful journey indeed.

Love Preet ❤

Originally posted by: mistofshadows

Brilliant post dear!

This is something I have been harping from a long time. Shaurya and Anokhi before being Saakhi are themselves. Anokhi before being Shaurya's love interest is a human being herself. She is not his therapist or the reason for his issues that she needs to devote herself to that forgetting her own life.

She has her own dreams, her own aspirations and loves him too. No wonder she lashed out like this.

If he could override her consent and forcefully put sindoor on her, why should there be any guarantee that he won't override her wishes in the future?

I have always despised the fact about Aastha that while she left (that was her call and I understand), she took 25 years to come back. The show never really specified why she couldn't meet him amidst this. Devi toh 24/7 nahi rehti na uske saath 😒

Same is Shaurya's case. He is hurt, mad and angry. Fine. But to keep that inside him for years and burn in it is not maturity either. Fine, he couldn't go to meet her due to his egi and hurt. Ok. He could have at least taken therapy to sort out his issues. Because he definitely has some serious issues.

One of them being, he doesn't frankly listen to the other person's pov. I adore Shaurya, his layered character is so similar to my own life that I shouldn't say this but I understand him intimately.

Which is why I say this - it is not the responsibility of someone else to shoulder the burden to change us. We have to do it ourself. And since Shaurya is resolute, Anokhi's question is perhaps the only way he will even try to know this side.

I have already been there, where Shaurya is right now and I feel for him. But it is at times better to rip the bandaid before it starts to decay the wound. It hurts, but the closure is necessary. A clean break helps in moving on and the other relations stabilize too.

IKR! I hate it when when people say that she should try to mend him because now they are in love. No, she should not. Why should she? She already has a lot in her plate as well. She loves him. She has not adopted him.

Also it is unfair to Shaurya, he doesn't need her to treat his wounds...yes she can share his pain but his wounds still solely belongs to him. It should be him who needs to set himself free not because she said so but because he felt so.

OMG!!

This is how I feel precisely. Thank you for putting it across so beautifully. This is a journey of two flawed characters who fit together like pieces of puzzle.

"Anokhi is not responsible for his insecurities then why should she be the one to bear the burden of it."

- THIS IS SOMETHING that every person needs to understand especially those parents who believe that marriage is the solution for their "bigda hua beta" and that the "bahu" will save him.

Coming back to SAAKK, Yes, Anokhi can be his solace, the person he can go to while he is healing but she surely is not supposed to do the work of healing.

I did see a lot of people on TT and IF feeling that AB should not have put forth a condition or that Shaurya did say he will not come between her dreams, then why did she focus on the word "allow".

My answer to that is - just the way all of us cried with Shaurya when she left and triggered his abandonment issues, the word "allow" took her back to her past wherein she needed permission even to educate herself- basic right an adult should have !

Also, had she not prodded, SS would never have chosen any route that had Astha. This step is mandatory for not just his healing, but while she is a witness to this process, she will learn to see the story from his side. That will be her growth. As you rightly mentioned, AB still oscillates between black and white and does not understand grey!

Does she need to? Yes, for sure! But that will be her journey and it will be a marvellous one for sure.

Moreover, I firmly believe that two individuals are complete on their own and when they come together they complement each other !

This episode is the first episode in ITV that I saw more than 4 times esp since it did not have any cute romance between the leads.

SS made me cry with and for him and AB filled my heart with pride and joy !

When these two amazing people meet halfway, their love story is going leave footprints on the sands of time ❤️

PS : Once again, thank you for tagging :*.

LOVED every word, for it resonates with how I feel after today's episode. ❤️

If AB does not discover the beauty of grey and the lack in black, she will surely be in a wreck 👏

This entire thread is ❤️ Loved everything you wrote Akanksha, couldn’t agree more! Your writing is precise, deeply moving and almost poetic .🙌

Everything I wanted to say has already been so beautifully presented in the comments here. Rumi’s quote that KV posted on his IG is so apt here..

“ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.”

Loved everything you wrote Akanksha!🤗

What AB did was actually necessary for both of them to grow. They never really encountered each other's past, their triggers, their fears and insecurities. They will be together in it but at the end of the day, some battles are of our own and we need to fight it alone. Nobody should be a rehab for any other person, one must tackle his/her demons by himself. Thanks to you for writing such a beautiful synopsis ❤️

Originally posted by: glowgetter

OMG!!

This is how I feel precisely. Thank you for putting it across so beautifully. This is a journey of two flawed characters who fit together like pieces of puzzle.

Hieeee Shree🤗

"Anokhi is not responsible for his insecurities then why should she be the one to bear the burden of it."

- THIS IS SOMETHING that every person needs to understand especially those parents who believe that marriage is the solution for their "bigda hua beta" and that the "bahu" will save him.

Exactly the concept of it is entirely wrong. This is the root cause of why women are restricted with the chains of patriarchy because parents believe they are supposed to go to a new 'home' so they should not rebel and compromise on their dreams and in life. So before marriage it's because of them going through parenting while after marriage it's about them parenting a person, not necessarily their child.

Coming back to SAAKK, Yes, Anokhi can be his solace, the person he can go to while he is healing but she surely is not supposed to do the work of healing.

Definitely ! And why should she?! Who is she ?! She loves him but that doesn't mean she will stop being her own person. And he is no tattered cloth that needs stitching. He is a human who beats and bleeds, so the scratches solely belong to him. She can bring him aid but she can't be his aid. Period.

I did see a lot of people on TT and IF feeling that AB should not have put forth a condition or that Shaurya did say he will not come between her dreams, then why did she focus on the word "allow".

My answer to that is - just the way all of us cried with Shaurya when she left and triggered his abandonment issues, the word "allow" took her back to her past wherein she needed permission even to educate herself- basic right an adult should have !

+1

Also, I think people are always too quick to fall soft for Male leads. One tear from their eye and they forget everything. With Shaurya I know he is no other male lead. I love him with all my heart. His flaws and his softness but with whatever intentions and no matter how much he love her, HE DID WRONG. HE MARRIED HER WITHOUT HER CONSENT. And she doesn't have any right to fall harsh on him ?! Why ?!

But then even if I think about the entire set, (Aastha Part) it was written in such a way that Anokhi did fall soft for him when needed while questioning him at the same time.

Also, had she not prodded, SS would never have chosen any route that had Astha. This step is mandatory for not just his healing, but while she is a witness to this process, she will learn to see the story from his side. That will be her growth. As you rightly mentioned, AB still oscillates between black and white and does not understand grey!

The story needs to progress.

Does she need to? Yes, for sure! But that will be her journey and it will be a marvellous one for sure.

Yes, there will be growth when they will share space. When they will witness the brown with naked eyes, the green will succumb to white and she will not be a pink anymore. She will fall for grey. Turn into a better human. With less flaws.

Moreover, I firmly believe that two individuals are complete on their own and when they come together they complement each other !

This episode is the first episode in ITV that I saw more than 4 times esp since it did not have any cute romance between the leads.

SS made me cry with and for him and AB filled my heart with pride and joy !

The pause he took ...before saying okay !! 💔

When these two amazing people meet halfway, their love story is going leave footprints on the sands of time ❤️

PS : Once again, thank you for tagging :*.

🤗

LOVED every word, for it resonates with how I feel after today's episode. ❤️

If AB does not discover the beauty of grey and the lack in black, she will surely be in a wreck 👏

This forum is full of talented people. You people write so well. I enjoy reading your thoughts. The way you put up your views. Amazing post. Very beautiful poem.

Thank you

Originally posted by: Akanksha29100

Love is not enough. Life goes beyond this circle of roses and thorns. Regrets, dreams, beliefs, hurt, betrayal, happiness, care... everything being a delusionary mirage of it.

Perfection is a myth.

Nothing but a feather flying in the sky of imperfection.

Flaws are real. They are necessary because they are the driving power to seek that perfection.

Anokhi is flawed.

Shaurya is flawed.

Probably quoting you after a long time 🤭😄 & yes, appreciation for the post first

Yes, love is certainly not enough & when you're in the 'Pyaar mein paagal' which could otherwise be called 'Madly in love' phrase; that's what peeps like Shaurya can do. Ignore rest of the problems like the plague 😆 He needs to have a 360° transformation because its high time to open his eyes literally! Flawed people are easily relatable plus everyone except few people in this world could be exceptionally good or intelligent at what they do (That's what they think) but that's also a myth. So basically Shaurya & Anokhi are flawed in their own way & needs lots of love

You see- To be invested in love, it is not necessary to be equally mad in love, one can be sensible as well.

Here I've a different view point Akanksha but anyone can agree to disagree, each to its own 😊 If its love, its necessary for both parties to love eo equally. To sustain a relationship, equal amount of trust, love, nurturing & care is important & if it doesn't go this way the relationship is bound to be broken & end up being shallow. I've witnessed this with my own eyes, many times & that's why I understand it. Sensibility is something else. But I think what you're trynna say is Anokhi is the sensible one here & I totally agree girl. That's a fact! 😆 Shaurya maybe experienced with age but he has his share of issues, insecurities & terror.

Anokhi is not responsible for his insecurities then why should she be the one to bear the burden of it.

People in love should not necessarily be judged based on their decisions with respect to the other person. Even when in love, your flaws and strengths should be your own, yes the perspective can be altered but the idea can never be changed.

You will still be your own person.

Exactly! Shaurya as an individual shouldn't be the reason for another individual to feel disappointed in her choice & this is the best thing about Anokhi. She's not scared to speak about her intentions, dreams. Their individual perspectives about their lives should be taken in to matter & understood. This applies to both sides at the end of the day

Yes, they are in love but do voicing out her concerns and insecurities makes her a person any less in love. She never asked him to prove his love. He is the one going ahead with it.

All she said was- Why didn’t he try giving his mother a chance?

This! That's what some viewers I noticed aren't understanding. Being in love & confessing it doesn't mean the problems b/w them or with their lives would be solved magically. Anokhi will never compromise her education for anything at any cost, be it her family or love. Shaurya is acting like he's at gun point & he'll do whatever it takes to prove his love for her. Anokhi only asked him to stay away from her because she can't be committed to a guy at the stake of losing her identity but hell to the power NO for Shaurya 😂😂 He's the one going ahead with it, so he better deal with it well 😎

(And it was not her curiosity to know why he didn’t? For now, it was her apprehensions, the fear that when he never tried to give his mother a chance what is the possibility that he will be any different for her?! But you see the beauty of it, for her to compare herself with Aastha and his equation with his mother to their own equation and drawing a parallel from it shows how she acknowledges his sufferings and investment towards his mother as well.)

All she meant was- She is scared of turning into another Aastha.

All she lacked was- Her not being aware of his side of the story.

Ikr. I mean we all know Anokhi is unaware of the back story though on his b'day Shaurya literally told her that his mom has never been involved in his life for all these 25yrs. She should be knowing the back story before making judgements but yes, I understand the perspective behind her questioning. She knows she'll become another Aastha, an ambitious woman who earns for a living, so her problems with Sharuya is jsutified (Also I hate some really immature people who still thinks she spoiled the proposal, confession or whatever it is. What's inside their brains? Nothing? 🤪)

And on top of that, his intentions might not be wrong, but his decision was. From love or for love, their marriage is non-consensual for her. Even if he is not malicious about it but he never asked. And I am glad, really glad to witness a forced marriage where the significance of it is questioned by a female lead.

Yeah, I think for the first time such a marriage has happened where the girl who actually loves the guy, doesn't want to be the wife he wants right? That's cool! Shaurya being the stubborn person he is acted upon really quickly because he was scared of letting go of Anokhi but he's not understanding the depth of his mistake because he's blinded by love

Shaurya loves her, I know. She loves him back, equally and fiercely but that does not snatch her power to question the wrong in general.

Also, even if she sounds wrong in putting him on a pedestal where he is not left free for himself to decide if he wants Aastha back but Anokhi Bhalla told him to take as much time as he wants. All she seeks is growth in him, so even if she does not come there with a direct intention to mend the broken part of him then it does mean she is not free to strum the broken wires as well.

Anokhi is right in her mindset because she wants assurance, the trust placed & Shaurya to willingly accept her for who she was, what she is & shat she'll become. Which is why when he said he'll let her study or work she vehemently denied saying I don't need anyone's permission to do what I want in my life.

This is so me in real 🤣🤣 I've had no issues with career choices, education whatsoever but when it comes to other things in life, I end up doing whatever I want whether or not someone elderly gives consent because my life, my rules 😎😆

Plus, no human should be burdened with the responsibility of mending another human. Because you can’t and you should not. His journey is his own. Her journey is her own. Their journey together is just a part of them. Individually and together. Not completely them.

What I said in a previously. That's why Anokhi is rich in ideologies & her stance. Spirited & educated properly to take a stand, make a point & when she's refused of an opinion, she knows how to walk away. Shaurya & Anokhi as individuals are interesting to look at for this reason. They can love eo deeply but the crux of the issue should be solved first before they take another step. Love is on one side where identity is on the other

What am I?

A shade of Pink

What are you?

A blur? Or blink?

I approach the truth, shining of lies.

You capture the crook, forming allies.

For fear of turns, the path walks ahead of me.

For smile of churns, the destination beams at you.

I hold the thread of a kite that flies.

You roll the wind that makes me dive.

I question the fire, you smirk of ashes.

I answer of light, but you shine bright.

And as I fall to the twist of grey,

I wonder about the lack in black?!

Something that leaves me in wreck.

~ Akanksha

Lovely poetry Akanksha ❤️

Also girl, I've opted out parts from your post & replied under what I wanted to reply to. Great thoughts & yes, Shaurya & Anokhi will anyhow, somehow come out this webbed puzzle called 'Game of Life' together one day, which will be a beautiful journey