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You Told Your Wife You Are Going To Work

But you Went To Her Best Friend's House Whose Husband Is A Soldier.

Her Husband Comes Back And You Hid Under The Bed.

The Soldier Sends His Wife Off To The Market.

While You Are Still Hidding Under The Bed.

You Heard Him Inviting A Lady Over With His Phone.

The Lady Came

Shortly, His Wife Returns That Her Clothes are stained And She Wants To Change Them.

Before The Man Opened The Door.

He Asks The Lady To Hide Under The Bed.

Now, the Lady Turns Out To Be Your Wife.

And Both Of You Are Looking At Each Other Like Rabbits.

In School, We call it REUNION

In Social gatherings, we call it GET TOGETHER

In Mathematics, we call it Simultaneous Equation

In Psychology, we call it "What goes round comes around"

In Chemistry, we call it Chain Reaction

In Economics, we call it Demand and Supply

In Physics, we call it Nuclear Fusion!

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Avan Aval Adhu 617

Gayatri's passion for photography had started when she was in her 6th std and she had come back home after a visit to the Bombay museum, and had requested her late father gift her a camera for her Birthday which was just a few months away and much to her delight, Prem had agreed to fulfil her wish.

' A small cheap camera will do for now, Dad ' she had told him and he had asked her, ' Why, Gaya baby? You are my little princess and your daddy is working hard and building this empire for you and for your future.'

' Thank you, daddy. But no, thank you. The reason why I am asking for a small, cheap camera is that I first want to see where my passion will take me for there is no telling what tomorrow will bring and there is a chance that I might drop photography and follow something else.'

Pinching her nose lovingly, Prem had told her, ' Gaya baby, if there is one thing I know for sure about you, it is your stubborn and dogged nature to finish what you have started. I am certain that one day you will become a world famous photographer.'

He had then asked her, ' Do you know how to operate a camera? ' and Gayatri's reply had been, ' No. Not right now but I will learn and you know I am a quick learner, dad.'

Prem had purchased a camera and had not stopped with just that and had gone a step further and had introduced his daughter to a leading wildlife photographer who frequented their private social club " Bombay Gymkhana " every Sunday. The man had kindly agreed to teach her how to use a camera and also how to shoot excellent pictures with it.

Gayatri would never forget what her first teacher in the field of Photography had taught her and he had taught her well.

' Little one, the most important virtue that a photographer must have is patience. For like in life, patience always wins out in the long run and in the end. If you want something, then you need to earn it and to do that, you have to wait for the right moment.'

Pointing to the pigeons and crows that were loitering on the lawn of their Gymkhana club, ' What do you see in that lawn?'

' I see a lot of birds pottering around in the grass looking for worms and stuff to eat. But, my eyes are on that single black raven that is sitting on that metal bench and the way it is looking at something below it '.

Her teacher had looked at the black raven and had whispered, ' I see it too, little one. Now, raise your camera and see the world through its lens and if you feel like it, click some photos.'

Gayatri had clicked and the photos were not just captured moments but a story, a song told through the lens of a camera and from her soul.

For all that is great, fantastic, weird and wonderful about the brain, it is but just a jelly like substance that lies cocooned inside a hard bony skull. For the brain to do its job, it needs inputs and for it to tell Gayatri what to shoot and when to shoot, it first needed to see the subject and the world that lay outside its eyes.

Her eyes saw everything and missed nothing. Not even the slightest or subtlest facial expression escaped the lens of her eyes and especially not when you were sitting in front of her. Directly in front of her.

Gayatri saw everything about the old lady Clementina including the movement of her eyes and the micro expressions on her much wrinkled and weathered face. She saw the owner of the curio shop " Soleil " freeze for a moment upon seeing the card reveal its face to her.

Gayatri deciphered the faint expressions on her host and tarot reader Clementina's face and understood that they were both a mix of surprise and shock. Although both were nearly similar to each other like identical twins, they still differed on certain levels.

Both 'surprise' and 'shock' refer to the state of feeling amazement as a result of something unexpected. However, while 'surprise' can cause a positive or negative feeling, 'shock' is specifically associated with negative feelings.

Gayatri's first thought was to why Clementina's face had shown shock and then her second thought was ' has she seen something bad in my fate and in the immediate future. Is this the reason why I dreamt of Beedi man?'

*The Zeigarnik Effect*

You pull out the key to open your house. You unlock the door and get inside. Then several hours later you're looking for the key and wondering where it is. And you discover that you have left it behind on the door. Has this happened to you?

To understand why it happens, let’s flashback to Bluma Zeigarnik, a Russian psychologist. One evening, Zeigarnik and her friends went out for dinner to a restaurant. They had a lovely meal. Guess what the highlight was? It was the service. More specifically, their waiter. He had an amazing memory. So as everybody placed their orders, he remembered every little detail, without writing anything down. He remembered who ordered what. And how they wanted it. Zeigarnik and her friends were all amazed by the waiter's memory.

After the meal, they were driving back when Zeigarnik discovered that she had left her jacket behind in the restaurant. So she turned around, drove back to the restaurant and sought out that friendly waiter who she knew would be happy to help her locate her jacket. Imagine her horror though when she found the waiter, but the waiter didn't even recognize her. What happened?

It got Zeigarnik thinking. And her research then showed how our brain tends to work. When a task is completed, our brain hits the delete button. And our memory gets wiped clean. Our short term memory struggles with space to retain information. So it keeps only the unfinished tasks alive. And the minute a task is completed it hits the delete button. And that's why waiters at restaurants will remember every little detail of your order. But only until the bill is made. That’s why when we photocopy a document, we pick up the copy and walk away, leaving the original behind. This has come to be known as the Zeigarnik effect. A term that describes how our short-term memory deletes completed tasks. Fascinating, isn't it?

The Zeigarnik effect might explain why at a bank’s ATM, you are now required to pull your card out before collecting the cash. They know Zeigarnik will be at play and once you collect the cash, the task is finished and good chance you will forget to take your card back.

It's something we can all put to good use. In serials, every episode ends tantalisingly. Each episode ends at a point where you will say ‘wow, what happens next’? You want to know, you want to come back. There is no closure at the end of that episode and that's what brings us back all the time. Had there been closure, chances are we’d quickly forget about it. Maybe a powerful idea for all of us. If there is something you want to make sure remains alive, keep it just a bit unfinished. Writing a book? Make sure you end every writing session at a point of suspense or tension. Don’t resolve it. Don’t finish it. That will bring you back next day to writing again.

The Zeigarnik effect might also explain my favourite piece of communication advice. It’s this. Someone said that there are really two golden rules of communication: 1. Never tell everything at once.

That’s it. Ah, the Zeigarnik effect!

The writer is an author, speaker and leadership coach and former MD of Kimberly Clark Lever BEST BRAINS.

The director of the George Washington University School of Medicine argues that the brain of an older person is much more practical than is commonly believed. At this age, the interaction of the right and left hemispheres of the brain becomes harmonious, which expands our creative possibilities. That is why among people over 60 years of age you can find many personalities who have just started their creative activities.

Of course, the brain is no longer as fast as it was in youth. However, it gains in flexibility. Therefore, with age, we are more likely to make the right decisions and are less exposed to negative emotions. The peak of human intellectual activity occurs around the age of 70, when the brain begins to function at full strength.

Over time, the amount of myelin in the brain increases, a substance that facilitates the rapid passage of signals between neurons. Due to this, intellectual abilities increase by 300% compared to the average.

Also interesting is the fact that after 60 years, a person can use 2 hemispheres at the same time. This allows you to solve much more complex problems.

Professor Monchi Uri, from the University of Montreal, believes that the old man's brain chooses the path that consumes less energy, eliminates the unnecessary and leaves only the right options to solve the problem. A study was conducted involving different age groups. Young people were very confused when passing the tests, while those over 60 years of age made the right decisions.

Now, let's look at the characteristics of the brain between the ages of 60 and 80. They are really pink.

*CHARACTERISTICS OF THE BRAIN OF AN ELDERLY PERSON.*

1. Neurons in the brain do not die, as everyone around you says. The connections between them simply disappear if one does not engage in mental work.

2. Distraction and forgetfulness arise due to an overabundance of information. Therefore, *it is not necessary for you to concentrate your whole life on unnecessary trifles.*

3. From the age of 60, a person, when making decisions, does not use one hemisphere at the same time, like young people, but both.

*4. Conclusion: if a person leads a healthy lifestyle, moves, has viable physical activity and is fully mentally active, intellectual abilities do NOT decrease with age, they simply GROW, reaching a peak at the age of 80-90 years.*

*So do not be afraid of old age. Strive to develop intellectually. Learn new crafts, make music, learn to play musical instruments, paint pictures! Take an interest in life, meet and communicate with friends, plan for the future, travel as best you can. Do not forget to go to shops, shows. Don't shut up alone, it's destructive to anyone. Live with the thought: all good things are still ahead of me!*

SOURCE: New England Journal of Medicine.