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This is a topic that shoudl be discussed with your kids a lot and not just one time. I have two nieces and a nephew and I had started talking to this about what that your body only belongs to you and that one one should touch your body at all. Not even your parents, uncle, aunty, grandparents, teachers and so on.
If you let your daughters and sons go and spend the night over his or her friends home. Okay you might know the mom and dad of that friends child, but what about the grandparents, the uncles, the next door friend that always is around, the older brother or the brothers kids or family friends kids.
They are currently the age of 14-11 and I started talking to them when they were like 4 years old. The moment they could understand and put full sentences together and understand the meaning of things, that is when you should talk with your children.
They live with me and I dont leave them along ever. I never let them go to any ones home alone, they dont go to parties, they dont spend the night over to any ones home. If i am not there then they do nto go. I have explained to them that its because i dont trust others, I trust them with my life, not the other ppl around me.
If you let your daughters and sons go and spend the night over his or her friends home. Okay you might know the mom and dad of that friends child, but what about the grandparents, the uncles, the next door friend that always is around, the older brother or the brothers kids or family friends kids.
You should always tell your children that No matter what and who that person is the second you feel something is not right even before that person does something to you, tell someone or tell everyone. Just keep telling until someone will listen.
I have always made a point to discuss this topic when they where small like once a month just to keep it fresh in there mind because when they are small its hard to make sure they are listenign so its always important to bring up the topic and talk to them again and again. Know that they are older I talk to with about it once like ever 6 months or so. Just to refresh there minds.
There is no age limit and even if your older brother sit and talk belive me when she or he gets older they will thank you for doing that for them and helping them in that way.
I think us the parents need to stop telling our kids to always respect our elders and not to fight or disagree with our elders taht they are right. We are sending a wrong message to our kids.
Okay so when you tell the kids something like that , and then that person that is older from them touches them and does wrong thigns to them, they will feel like i cannot disagree with this person and I cannot fight because he or she is older then me and I have to be a good respectful child.
We need to teach our kids that inside of every human being there is a voice and that voice tells us not to do something that is bad and to avoid the wrong things. Its called a gut feeling. When you get a strange feeling that this person is wrong and is bad then run and run fast the other way.
Arjun
Cricket
