Sona's story line very real.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Unless your in someones shoe that has been abused like the way SOna has or is being abused its hard to say anything or shouldnt say anything.

Its very easy to say I would say this to him, or I would do this to him, but same like a child who is sexually abused by someone they know same an abused women who is being punished each day by her husband, boyfriend. they dont tell because of fear.

Fear of the world knowing there truth, fear of the world looking at them in that way that they are weak individual that how could they allow something like this to happen to them.

Having education has nothing to do with it. Ishan keeps saying that to Sona that she is a modern girl, and educated girl she should leave. Its not that easy. There is a part of her that is still in love with her husband.

This happens within the most briliant people and the most uneducated people also. This happens within the very rich and posh and the very poor and living in the streets. So money and education has nothing to do with it at all.

Same like a child who is being sexually abused by her father, she or he too still loves his or her father even though they know what they are doing to them is wrong and they fear him. Its all mental really. Your body knows its wrong, and your mind knows its wrong and to get help or get out, but some where in your brain its telling you that it will stop or change or you cannot let the rest of the world know this secret of yours that would change your life and the way people will view you.

I am glad that they are doing this type of a topic, I hope they show are more realistic then they were with the brain tumor story .

Every day there is a women in the world, in India that is being physically abused by her husband or boyfriend. She is afraid to tell anyone.. SHe cannot go to ther family in fear of there family values, she cannot go to her friends in fear of what they are going to say about her. There are not a lot of places to go in most countries for abused women because of the way the will be shown.

I wish that people in this forum would stop saying " why isnt sona just leaving him." why is she putting up with him"

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with u, She can't do aythng easily with Abhishek's character...
And her charcter still believing there is sumthng in his mind, some love...

if she want to leave him also. she has to take decision so intelligently, not arguing or fighting...



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Posted: 13 years ago
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I partially agree with u it ain't that easy to come out of the plight.I have read many real life incidents where most educated women consistently bear such kind of physical abuse as abuser overpower there mind they hit the mental strength of a girl or a woman as a result their physical strength is also weakened and they don't try to get out of it NOT due to fear of what other's will think about them or there personal life will be talk of streets but the fear of the abuser is prevailed in their mind they are weakened inside even they have any physical training still they are unable to rescue themselves as they are not willing to do so by themselves its all due to the terror of abuse captivating their mind.There are psychologically complex reflexes associated with it.Mostly uneducated women bear it due to their children.Here also I think child being abused by her father is a different case there is a difference between father and husband.Father is the person whom we are bound to love few girls do hate their fathers got abused by them but they can't loath them to the core.In husband's case so called love fades away with all those troublesome scars and also he is the person whom a girl got to know after getting married to him or only few years before marriage so case is different here.A girl should try to stand firm she need to alleviate the fear of abuser from her mind and can also take help from NGOs for the purpose.They should get instilled with moral strength they should make their dead soul alive.Its difficult but not impossible.Many women bear physical abuse till their demise and somehow they are also responsible...

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Posted: 13 years ago
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A very dear friend of mine, a brilliant, vivacious, intelligent girl suffered similar kind of abuse at the hands of her husband. I saw her transform from someone who is full of life to a person with suicidal tendencies.

Like Pretty said, it is easy to say walk out, but an abuser starts first by overcoming the mind and the will power of the victim. Physical abuse only begins after the abuser has isolated the victim from friends and family. Then the abuser convinces the victim that he/she deserves the punishment that is coming to them.

Unless you've been there, it is very difficult to say what one would do in such a situation.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Great post! 👍🏼

True, domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone regardless of class, gender, or the amount of education they have.

I did a report on domestic violence when I was in high school. I learned that the abused becomes stuck in a vicious cycle of violence and submissiveness because the abuser emotionally tortures them to such a great degree.

Thus, it's very difficult for the abused to get out of an abusive relationship.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Great post!!👏👏👏...

"Same like a child who is being sexually abused by her father, she or he too still loves his or her father even though they know what they are doing to them is wrong and they fear him. Its all mental really. Your body knows its wrong, and your mind knows its wrong and to get help or get out, but some where in your brain its telling you that it will stop or change or you cannot let the rest of the world know this secret of yours that would change your life and the way people will view you."...

ur point is absolutely true..they jst becomes so helpless nd doesnt understand wat to do..evn if they hv enough knowldge or educatn dat,all dats happenin is wrong..they wil not hav a voice to say it to nybdy,or jst leave these people..many people,who dosnt hav enough strength to hold to all dis,breaks down to end their life..

i am not much of a Sona-lover😕,bt d way her life is bn shown is really brilliant...

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think today they showed the psycho side of Abhishek - he may be mentally ill.

I trust they show this sensitively.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with you, domestic abuse is a very serious matter and I do like that they are showing some realistic aspect to it , that the abuser does have a very strong uphold over the victim. I personally have not seen or suffered through this kind of abuse so I wouldn't know about the psychology that goes inside the abuser and the victim's mind...but I am a psychology student and have read several case studies on the subject and it is something that in order to understand completely it has to be suffered firsthand...and after today's episode I seriously think that the police should be involved in this. Abhishek is suffering from a mental disorder and needs to be locked up ASAP

The most logical thing for this track to progress is Ishan coming clean to Suhana about Sona's problem and both of them inform the police and get Abhishek locked up. Realistically that seems the plausible thing to do rather than wait till its too late till Abhishek does something very drastic to Sona
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Posted: 13 years ago
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people think of their selfrespect before thinking what is wrong and what is right and this where the problem starts. i dont think that sona is worried that what people will say i think there is something untold in this story which is stopping her from leaving abhishek.as far as love is concerned then i dont think that sonas love is stopping her becoz she doesnt love abhishek now and it is quite clear.it is not the love for abhishek which is stopping her but it is something else.and yes this track is reality
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Posted: 13 years ago
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yes this is a very common situation in the lives of many women specially in nuclear families... where the woman is isolated from friends and families due to various reasons... so yes there are showing it very well... but i hope they show the solution also sensibly...but i dont know ...i know your arguments are right... but cannot a woman who is educated and worldly wise..do something about it?
there are so many institutions even in india who help abused wives like sona...for submitting to this abuse is also a crime in itself...why is she bearing up this treatment?... now he has even threatened to harm ishaan if he catches sona with him...

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