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Suhana's Corner: Of love and its insecurities

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Hi friends, how are you all? This week, I realised that love manifests itself in the most surprising ways.

Be it with papa feeling insecure about his love for ma when she got excited about her friend Mohit or Ishaan feeling sidelined due to my attention towards Khushi or Disha didi's love for Khushi wavering when her mom forced her to bandon Khushi. I feel love is tough and has a huge range and we have to look inside us and guage ourselves.

This week started off with a punishment - I got punished along with Disha didi for taking Khushi to a mall for a baby contest where unfortunately a stampede occurred. When we reached home and fumbled about our whereabouts, everyone found out that we lied and they were all really angry. Ma and Papa were furious and decided that Khushi will stay with Radha bua for a few days. It was odd that they didn't care that no one was hurt and that Khushi won the first prize.

Later, when I thought about it, I realized we were at fault for lying about our whereabouts. One should always try to be truthful especially with family. God forbid if something bad had happened to us, no one at home would have known where we were, as we hadn't informed anybody.

Staying away from Khushi was very hard. I was feeling withdrawal symptoms, so Disha didi and I tried emotional blackmail, excuses and every other trick to go to Radha bua's room to see Khushi. Radha bua had a tough time dealing with us.

Last week, we had a guest in our house. Ma's childhood friend, Mohit, visited us and it was interesting to hear papa and ma talking about him. Mohit uncle was really excited to meet ma but I guess perhaps papa was jealous of their friendship, so he kept making fun of Mohit Uncle. When Mohit uncle narrated his childhood stories with ma in it, I could see papa totally waiting to jump into the conversation. Inder bhaiya, Ilesh bhaiya and Ishaan had fun at his expense and kept egging papa further. The next day, it was hilarious to see papa in a new look with tight jeans and t-shirt and jelled hair. Sure, it is cool to experiment with looks, but un-cool if it doesn't suit you. We were all shocked to see papa in his new avatar! Then I realised that OMG- papa was insecure about Mohit uncle's presence in the house. Though he is happily married to ma, he is feeling insecure about her love just because she is paying a bit more attention to her friend. I guess love does that to you. No matter how many assurances you have, if your partner pays even a little bit more attention to someone else, it brings out the green- eyed monster in you. I remember being super jealous of Ishaan's friendship with Sonali. Though they were just friends, their chemistry and friendship threatened me. I guess the same is the case with papa and I'm totally with him on this.

Later Mohit uncle insisted on going out for dinner with ma and papa thought he invited only her but he was surprised to know that uncle asked both of them out. I had a gala time teasing ma and calling this dinner her date with Mohit uncle. I guess when you go out for dinner or a movie, dressing up is so much fun. As housewives mostly you don't take that much care of your appearance but when you have to go out and you dress up, there is a certain thrill and happiness in the air- right? I always love wearing good clothes and dressing up before going out.

Despite all my enthusiasm to step out, I goofed up big time when I forgot my date with Ishaan at the movies. Ishaan was very upset with me for not turning up for the movie we had planned. Come to think of it, he was angry before that as well as he claimed I wasn't paying attention to him, after Khushi's arrival in the house. I totally forgot about our movie plans and couldn't answer my phone, so Ishaan was livid at being kept waiting. He said he feels I don't pay attention to him, that I am not bothered about him and don't care about his happiness anymore. We both had a huge fight and I was pretty depressed after that. When I told Badi ma about it, she said fights make relationships stronger but also that I shouldn't fight with Ishaan every day. It was true, later we made up and it was very sweet to see Ishaan smiling again.

Disha didi's mother, however, wiped off all smiles at home when she said she disapproved of Khushi and wanted Disha didi to give away the baby. She even refused to touch Khushi and wants to send her to an orphanage. She has been provoking Disha didi to do what she wants and isn't thinking of her own daughter's happiness. I am very angry with her as she is brainwashing Disha didi.

Everyone at home is upset because she is making things tough for Disha didi. She says blood is stronger than upbringing and that because Khushi was deserted, she will not have a good character growing up. I don't believe that at all. I think a child develops its character based on its upbringing and emulating the people it sees around them -what do you guys think?

Do write to me at suhana@starplus.in. Don't forget to watch Sasural Genda Phool every Monday to Friday at 7.30 pm only on STAR Plus.

Hill Road Media | Tuesday, August 23, 2011

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