Crisp Bytes SC - 8th July 13 - Page 5

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

Escapism is one of Saras' personality traits (flaws?!) . He knows he is weak and not even wrong when he says he cannot have another person dependent on him. I don't think he could handle a relationship right now either. Kumud did everything she could to console him but honestly, I missed the ghamandi Kumud 😛

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

Why should Kumud stop to think about what Saras is going through? Oh wait, she DID. She asked him what's wrong. She told him no matter what she will stay with him. She doesn't care about anyone else, she wants to be with him. She gave him all the assurance anyone would need.

When a to-be Bride is told her marriage has been called off just two days before, I think she has all the reason to be shattered for herself and her family

Originally posted by: happychappy

I agree with every word here, Smrth, but...

Saras is not his right mind, that does happen to people, we are all more fragile than we like to think!

Kumud has a whole family's shoulders to lean on, Saras just has Sunny

She is definitely less fragile than him, has always been, and clearly knows how to deal with the shock, when he clearly does not know...

Originally posted by: happychappy

I understand why every single person is coming from, in support of Kumud...

But, just as Saras is said to have wiped the slate clean on all his promises and commitments, why is it looking like Kumud has forgotten all his gestures of love, and wonder what state he is in, if he is now not listening to her pleas? Does she actually believe him to be that insensitive, insincere and weak when he is in his senses? Then I dont think she loves him at all!

As for him not talking to Kumud, men dont typically discuss their distress with their loved one they bottle up! Discussion as therapy is typically a female trait.

As I said in Friday's CB thread, the main reason for all the high drama is the family, not Kumud herself. If Kumud and Saras were individuals dealing with the problem, she would have reacted differently. The family, as it so often does, amplifies the emotional pitch of the situation...

Oh, I have to confess to a slight bias. I am married to someone who said no before he said yes. He was worth waiting for, and I did. No families were involved, and no drama. Obviously, being the more mundane type of love story, levels of complication were not of tragic levels!! I am always going to be on Saras' side here :)

Originally posted by: happychappy

I understand why every single person is coming from, in support of Kumud...

But, just as Saras is said to have wiped the slate clean on all his promises and commitments, why is it looking like Kumud has forgotten all his gestures of love, and wonder what state he is in, if he is now not listening to her pleas? Does she actually believe him to be that insensitive, insincere and weak when he is in his senses? Then I dont think she loves him at all!

As for him not talking to Kumud, men dont typically discuss their distress with their loved one they bottle up! Discussion as therapy is typically a female trait.

As I said in Friday's CB thread, the main reason for all the high drama is the family, not Kumud herself. If Kumud and Saras were individuals dealing with the problem, she would have reacted differently. The family, as it so often does, amplifies the emotional pitch of the situation...

Oh, I have to confess to a slight bias. I am married to someone who said no before he said yes. He was worth waiting for, and I did. No families were involved, and no drama. Obviously, being the more mundane type of love story, levels of complication were not of tragic levels!! I am always going to be on Saras' side here :)

Originally posted by: neet06

I always look forward to your posts even though I might not comment on them regularly (I'm lazy as hell).. Sometimes when I'm disappointed with an episode, your crispy bytes make me look at it from a different perspective and enjoy the episode. And today, I whole-heartedly agree with your analysis.. Word for word..

Everyone keeps comparing this show to HDDCS.. But I think its more of Devdas than HDDCS.. A distraught Devdas arguing with his father and leaving his house and a desperately in love Paro behind who went against all societal norms just to be with him.. If Devdas sent Paro a letter asking her to forget they ever had any feelings for each other and let all the questions she's asked him remain unanswered, Saras called off their wedding over the phone in the blind distress of the moment.. Again, leaving all of Kumud's questions unanswered.. Like Kumud said.. "Uske paas koi jawab nahi hai.."

In Devdas, Dev returns to watch his Paro getting married to someone else.. And here too, if the spoilers are right, Saras will watch Kumud getting married..

Do I feel Saras is at fault? Yes. Agreed that he is distraught, broken from within, thrown back into the pitch darkness of his past.. The first time he rejected the proposal, I did not have any complaints against him.. He realized his insecurities and was willing to admit his commitment phobia.. But this time round.. I feel its unforgivable.. He knows he can reach out from the pitch blackness surrounding him and he'll find Kumud there.. To bring him back to life.. Yet, not once, did he think of confessing his fears and insecurities her.. He made commitments to her.. Made promises and wove dreams for her.. He had no qualms even in consummating his relationship with her because he loved her so deeply.. Yet at the first knock of his past on his door, he let go of her hand and shut himself off...

I am so glad Sunny held a mirror in front of him and showed him how he was doing exactly what his dad was doing.. All my applause goes to Sunny today..

As for Kumud.. I must say, it really broke my heart to watch her today.. Like you said, she begged, she pleaded, she even begged in the name of her family but Saras was too surrounded by his own misery to see any of it.. I am going to draw a parallel to Devdas again.. Paro waited 12 years for Devdas, loved him beyond love yet he rejected her.. But Paro was not the kind to wallow in her misery.. Neither is Kumud.. She always placed her family and her family's honor above all else.. Whether it be when he first rejected the proposal (she asked him to come say it in front of her family), when they consummated their relationship (she was more distraught at having betrayed her family's trust than having experienced the most beautiful moment of her life) and again, she won't let her family be slighted like this.. Which is why her decision to get married on the same day is in line with her character..

If for Saras, his mother and his past has always taken precedence over everything else, for Kumud, her family gets priority over everything else..

It was a critical juncture..

Saras chose his past and Kumud chose her future..

I am sure.. They both will probably regret their decisions later on but for now.. Their paths are separate.. Maybe parallel but separate nevertheless..

I also have to mention, Guman ke dus chote vaar khaali gaye tho kya? Ek sahi chaal sahi time pe aisi chalayi ki sab kuch bikhar gaya.. I thought she was a very ineffectual vamp till now but kya baazi kheli hai Guman ne iss baar... Ek hi chaal mein saari kahani hi palat gayi..