Khushi needs a 'parent' badly... - Page 4

I am pretty sure this time the problem will be solved, but I am doubly sure that this problem will come back with a bigger magnitude later. Just like the DB track was ended happily with Ranveer making Ragini understand, but since the seed was already sown, it came back with a bigger magnitude in the rift track..

Originally posted by: SPN_JD_Addicted

Itsybitsy-I used to be shy when i was younger and being shy your confidence would also be low.Why would parents think that there is something wrong if any one mentions that?.Rags know that Khushi is a calm and shy child so she must have thought that's the reason and hoped she would over come her shyness if she is given a chance to do something!

Smitha I disagree here. What if tomorrow your child's teacher tells you that your child has low self confidence. What will you do? Just sit back and expect everything to get fixed or encourage your child to come out of the shell and work towards it. Shyness or low self confidence is not a one time thing, it is a trait that needs to be worked on.

So far we have not seen any bonding scenes between khushi and Ragini. From what I have seen Ragini does things for khushi so that she does not feel left out or miss out on her mother, I feel she does it more like an obligation/pity since she is Sadhna's child and does not have a valid parent, not out of pure love for her, the way she has for tammy. I would love to be wrong here. I have seen a couple of motherless children in my life and it is no rule that they have to be sad and shy. Why does khushi need to be sacrificing at such a young age?

Originally posted by: itsybitsy

Smitha I disagree here. What if tomorrow your child's teacher tells you that your child has low self confidence. What will you do? Just sit back and expect everything to get fixed or encourage your child to come out of the shell and work towards it. Shyness or low self confidence is not a one time thing, it is a trait that needs to be worked on.

So far we have not seen any bonding scenes between khushi and Ragini. From what I have seen Ragini does things for khushi so that she does not feel left out or miss out on her mother, I feel she does it more like an obligation/pity since she is Sadhna's child and does not have a valid parent, not out of pure love for her, the way she has for tammy. I would love to be wrong here. I have seen a couple of motherless children in my life and it is no rule that they have to be sad and shy. Why does khushi need to be sacrificing at such a young age?

I think the leap started with Khushi-Ragini scene. lol Its just one day what are we expecting from Ragini here ? Didn't she want to talk to both girls when the teacher told her that she has chosen Khushi for this role and later on she found both girls happy when Khushi was wearing the fairy's dress. She would encourage Khushi when times comes, right now she has to fix Tammy's issue first.

@bold: Don't agree with you here. We have to wait and watch.

Originally posted by: itsybitsy

Smitha I disagree here. What if tomorrow your child's teacher tells you that your child has low self confidence. What will you do? Just sit back and expect everything to get fixed or encourage your child to come out of the shell and work towards it. Shyness or low self confidence is not a one time thing, it is a trait that needs to be worked on.

So far we have not seen any bonding scenes between khushi and Ragini. From what I have seen Ragini does things for khushi so that she does not feel left out or miss out on her mother, I feel she does it more like an obligation/pity since she is Sadhna's child and does not have a valid parent, not out of pure love for her, the way she has for tammy. I would love to be wrong here. I have seen a couple of motherless children in my life and it is no rule that they have to be sad and shy. Why does khushi need to be sacrificing at such a young age?

My daughter used to be an extrovert and talkative since she was 2 years old.She started going to nursery when she was three years and 10 months and honestly speaking I didn't even realise that something was wrong with her for 2 months.I guess I noticed it on her B'day when she just shied away from saying thanks when any one wished.(Hope it doesn't make me a bad mother lol).Anyways,it might be the first time that this issue was brought to Rags?And I agree if she continues to see that she has to do something abt it.As for any meaningful scenes between them,may be its the CT's intention cos as I said everything happens so obviously in Bidaai.May be to show us that she doesn't love both of them equally!But we know first hand what Ragini did by feeding Khushi first.That was such a big step.Who would?And she was happy when the teacher mentioned that Khushi would be doing the role and she l;eft it up to the teacher to make Tamanna understand too but I can't believe that said teacher just blurted it out in front of the class!And Khushi being sacrificing,may be bit of a stretch but some might say its cos of her mother's genes.

Ragini deserves credit for being there for Kushi....she understands her pain and soothes her as much as she can. As far as becoming a mother to Kushi, I dont think she can do that....no body can do that...it is not Ragini's fault. No one can take a mother's place...

But Ragini should have done something about this situation...if she couldnt explain Tammy ( she tried) ..she should have at least talked to Kushi. ...she should have removed the guilt feeling that Kushi had.
In my opinion, the problem with Ragini's character from the beginning was ...she is not strong at the correct time...she can make up later but only certain things in life can be revisited.

It's just been a day.Give her some time lol.Since Tamanna was being so vocal,she is addressing that issue first.May be we will get Rag and Khushi scene today which we were not shown till now!

Have to agree though.After mamaji's insistent Q's abt whether she would be able to do justice,I thought she would be changed.But well,am willing to give some time lol.

Originally posted by: SPN_JD_Addicted

It's just been a day.Give her some time lol.Since Tamanna was being so vocal,she is addressing that issue first.May be we will get Rag and Khushi scene today which we were not shown till now!

Have to agree though.After mamaji's insistent Q's abt whether she would be able to do justice,I thought she would be changed.But well,am willing to give some time lol.

Agree with you. But why is Khushi feeling guilty and she can't see Tammy-Ragini crying ? No one made her feel like that(unlike Kaushi/Nani used to do with Sadhana), Tammy was just upset with Ragini and Ragini was worried for Tammy. These are wrong notions and needs dealt with immediately.
Just like Tammy has to understand that she can't get everything she desires, Khushi too has to understand that she can't make others happy all the time.

Originally posted by: --Anu--

Agree with you. But why is Khushi feeling guilty and she can't see Tammy-Ragini crying ? No one made her feel like that(unlike Kaushi/Nani used to do with Sadhana), Tammy was just upset with Ragini and Ragini was worried for Tammy. These are wrong notions and needs dealt with immediately.
Just like Tammy has to understand that she can't get everything she desires, Khushi too has to understand that she can't make others happy all the time.

I think Kushi is feeling guilty because she thinks she is responsible for Tammy not being selected as Fairy....She thinks Tammy is upset with her....pulling hand in the car etc....I think she understands things at a different level than Tammy because she knows she doesnt have a mother and her father is not normal....even though no one is making her feel like that it is some thing people develop on their own because of the situation they are in.

Originally posted by: agun

I think Kushi is feeling guilty because she thinks she is responsible for Tammy not being selected as Fairy....She thinks Tammy is upset with her....pulling hand in the car etc....I think she understands things at a different level than Tammy because she knows she doesnt have a mother and her father is not normal....even though no one is making her feel like that it is some thing people develop on their own because of the situation they are in.

The teacher could have chosen someone else for this role, there are 40 students in the class. She needs to play her age and have a normal childhood.

Originally posted by: agun

Ragini deserves credit for being there for Kushi....she understands her pain and soothes her as much as she can. As far as becoming a mother to Kushi, I dont think she can do that....no body can do that...it is not Ragini's fault. No one can take a mother's place...

But Ragini should have done something about this situation...if she couldnt explain Tammy ( she tried) ..she should have at least talked to Kushi. ...she should have removed the guilt feeling that Kushi had.
In my opinion, the problem with Ragini's character from the beginning was ...she is not strong at the correct time...she can make up later but only certain things in life can be revisited.

u r right in whatever you said. Like someone else said that Ragini is lot more than any masima will do for her niece. Khushi should be thankful that she has "Masima". I am happy that she can sense others pain and does not want to be the cause of anyone's pain intentionally or unintentionally. Tammy's withdrawing hand from Khushi's is a clear cut away that Rammy is not happy with Khushi being chosen.

Ragini is at a fix, she can neither ignore Tammy or Khushi. But after all Tammy is her daughter, she cannot ignore her happiness for a niece. Ragini has done enough for Khushi and Khushi and Alekh should be thankful, thats what Khushi is also doing.

This problem will be solved for now, but will come back later.