Kokila's upbringing part 2

This is the continuation of kokila's upbringing in the mentioned post. Is her upbringing really good? Both ahem & kinjal are spoilt brats. Ahem had left Anita and married Gopi for his mother but he has no right to spoil a girl's life. Not only that. He also treated Gopi very badly the moment he came to know that Gopi is illiterate. He looked for the ways to insult her and break his relations with her. He also threatened Kokila that he will leave the house if Gopi is staying. He could have taken the stand before marriage. Where was his guts at that time? I don't think he really loved Anita or loved her upto the extent of marrying her against Kokila's wishes. He has not only spoilt Anita's life but also Gopi's. Gopi had tolerated his misbehavior when she was newly married. This went on for one and a half years. Then Gopi was away for 8 years after Meera's drowning case. In this case even Kokila had misbehaved with her and ahem will always do whatever Kokila says. She had brought Gopi only for her convenience. Basically she wants to dominate and be given more importance. Nothing is above her ego. And now she has broken her relations with Gopi contradicting with her regarding Paridhi. Building and breaking relations is nothing for Kokila and even Ahem is doing the same thing. He only opposed Kokila for his convenience. Out of 12 years marriage, Gopi has suffered for 9 and a half years. She could be happy with ahem for just 2 and a half years and even now neither Kokila nor Ahem is by her side. This is now in Paridhi's case wherein Kokila is the root cause for all these troubles. Ahem does not even respect his father.

Although Kinjal countered Kokila's dictatorship, she made a wrong choice and did not accept the fact that Umang is not a right match for her. Dhawal has all the qualities of a life-partner but Kinjal did not have any regard. She went for modelling against the wishes of her family. She along with Urmila fooled the public that she has got supernatural powers to solve all the problems. Her demand for gift in Raksha Bandhan was very childish.

It is quite obvious that when Kokila herself is selfish and self-centered what sanskar she can give her children. When Paridhi proves herself to Kokila then she and ahem will ask for apology from Gopi whereas they refused to forgive her. In real life, it is hard to live with such kind of saas.