Ahem and love: compromising or not?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Hands up if you think that some compromise is needed for a better marriage?

Ahem thinks so.

This has taken him a long while to reach this stage in his marriage. When he got married he did this to please his mother. Little did he realise that there was something that intrigued him about her. He was fascinated by her. It took a long time to learn of her ways even though it confused him at times, as the KKs were unknown to him.

When he worked out for himself of her sincerity and generosity did he then want to get to know and spend time with her. He wanted more. He became her friend. He wanted to see her smile much more and would do anything to see it. When she got hurt, he then realised that he cannot live without her. By then he had fallen unknowingly in love with her and made her a priority in his life and his equal.

Ahem had learnt to love his wife. He assumed that Kinjal would do the same.

To see Ahem sitting on the bed and telling his wife of his concerns was unimaginable even a year ago. He had sincerity in his voice and sought for her comfort. It was not her facial expressions nor her counter discussion that satisfied him but her gentle touch of her hand on his. This soothed and calmed him instantly.

This was a very short scene broken up in two parts but it reflected the development of Ahem in his journey of love. This scene gives us a moment to imagine of them discussing of their daughter's problems.

Thinking back Ahem's statement: Was marriage about compromising for Ahem?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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😆... Swasthi I was thinking the same.. how cann a guy like Ahem say that.. Did he ever try to understand that when his mom brought a beautiful girl ? nooo... a big NO... now he is understanding.. great going Ahem ji..

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Well written Swasthi😃
I thought the same and was smiling when he said "Marriage needs some compromise"😆 Ahem has come such a long way that he now understands that marriage cannot be one person giving all the time. It has taken him time to understand that but to his credit, he has understood and is now living by it.😊
When two individuals live in close proximity and even when they are bound by marriage, there are things that will be very different between them. It takes patience, tolerance, love and the ability to compromise to make sure that things go smoothly.. Ahem learnt that from Gopi and today he is qualified to make that sentence. It sounded good.😛

I also loved that he needed her assurance and his face brightened when she touched him. It is sometimes the feeling that your loved one is with you through thick and thin that makes the horizon brighter.😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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well said swasthi... beauty/ meaning of gohem scene can b fully understood only aftr reading ur post...(main reason y i wait for ur post aftr deir scene...)

Edited by Leki - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Well said Swasthi. But has Ahem compromised? From what I see Ahem moved from his dislike for Gopi, to tolerance, like, concern, indecision then affection. All emotions he would not be conscious of, as we saw when he wrestled with them after the accidental kiss.

As one who has been there, compromise needs a level headed decision and one that you are very aware of.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ani_gr

😆... Swasthi I was thinking the same.. how cann a guy like Ahem say that.. Did he ever try to understand that when his mom brought a beautiful girl ? nooo... a big NO... now he is understanding.. great going Ahem ji..



This is indeed quite a change to Ahem but a positive change.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Well written Swasthi😃

I thought the same and was smiling when he said "Marriage needs some compromise"😆 Ahem has come such a long way that he now understands that marriage cannot be one person giving all the time. It has taken him time to understand that but to his credit, he has understood and is now living by it.😊
When two individuals live in close proximity and even when they are bound by marriage, there are things that will be very different between them. It takes patience, tolerance, love and the ability to compromise to make sure that things go smoothly.. Ahem learnt that from Gopi and today he is qualified to make that sentence. It sounded good.😛

I also loved that he needed her assurance and his face brightened when she touched him. It is sometimes the feeling that your loved one is with you through thick and thin that makes the horizon brighter.😳


You are welcome Harini.

Great complementary comment.

There was something in that moment as he said what he thought. Could it be that he was in a different house? Was it that he was staying with her in her house in which she grew up in? Perhaps, he acquired the bed for them to sleep on? Or was it the smaller sized bed?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Much appreciated Nilani.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Leki

well said swasthi... beauty/ meaning of gohem scene can b fully understood only aftr reading ur post...(main reason y i wait for ur post aftr ur scene...)


Thanks so much Leki.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Xarina

Well said Swasthi. But has Ahem compromised? From what I see Ahem moved from his dislike for Gopi, to tolerance, like, concern, indecision then affection. All emotions he would not be conscious of, as we saw when he wrestled with them after the accidental kiss.


As one who has been there, compromise needs a level headed decision and one that you are very aware of.


My pleasure Xarina.

Great points raised too.

Rightfully so, we witnessed him wrestling his emotions then and when he thought the 'I love u' teddy was for him.

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