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Arranged marriages are never easy. Especially one like Gopi and Ahem's. There was on one side a lot of dreams and wishes about love and there was on the other, a broken heart and duty.
Saathiya started with this premise. Added to that we did have other heart wrenching touches with Gopi being an orphan, a cruel Maami, a strict MIL and a scheming cousin. Not to say the girl was as naive and innocent as a newborn.
And now after all those tears and sorrow, after all the problems faced, I can see a loving husband and wife who know each other to the T and who love each other so much that even if they have differences and they disagree with each other, they help each other out. They
stand up in support even if they are not 100% sure of the others decision. This amount of trust requires years to build and at times it does not build at all.
That GoHem have come to love and trust each other is a big achievement in itself and that too in such a short time. Believe me, marriage is fine and love is beautiful when it happens but trust is not easy. It takes a lot of faith and a leap in the darkness to trust someone implicitly.
I am not saying one should be blind in their trust. Stupidity cannot be masked and named as blind trust. That is more dangerous than anything else. For example, during Anitha's track, Gopi gave her unconditional support to Ahem and her trust in him was complete. To me that was blind given the cirumstances. I know.. I know.. I defended Ahem a lot at that time and will still do it again but that was only because I saw things that Gopi did not see. We got to see Ahem feeling guilty and extremely so for making Gopi go through that stage but Gopi did not. Her blind trust without question irked me. I felt that Gopi did not actually trust Ahem because she was afraid not to NOT trust.
She was afraid of the truth. It was because she had no assurance of Ahem's love. This was a time when Gopi was oscillating between the thoughts of being loved and not being loved, the poor child.
GoHem's love story took time to grow. From hate to indifference to friendship to empathy to attraction to love to soulmate.. The journey is still continuing. But now, I can see the trust that I was talking about before.
The trust that makes you question a loved one without worrying that the person may think the worst of you. The love that makes you care free and secure to voice your opinion. The faith that makes one question the other and rebuke them for their mistakes. The confidence that even if you make a mistake and you most probably will, there will be two other hands that will hold you and help you back to your feet again.The belief that you will always have a shoulder to cry and there will be a heart that cries for you. That kind of love and trust is rare and today GoHem have that for each other. They will learn to love and trust each other better as the says roll on.
Gopi now knows that Ahem will stand by her and help her even when he is not sure she is right. Ahem knows that if he really wanted, Gopi will accept the compromise but he also trusts her to do the right thing and hence supports her. Both now do not blindly follow but
question each other before deciding to go in a particular way.
As Tina says, a marital relationship is a partnership, not slavery. It needs love, trust, faith, fights, disagreements, contentment, freshness with other things,.
Just wanted to rant a bit. Was in the mood.. 😳
Saathiya started with this premise. Added to that we did have other heart wrenching touches with Gopi being an orphan, a cruel Maami, a strict MIL and a scheming cousin. Not to say the girl was as naive and innocent as a newborn.
And now after all those tears and sorrow, after all the problems faced, I can see a loving husband and wife who know each other to the T and who love each other so much that even if they have differences and they disagree with each other, they help each other out. They
stand up in support even if they are not 100% sure of the others decision. This amount of trust requires years to build and at times it does not build at all.
That GoHem have come to love and trust each other is a big achievement in itself and that too in such a short time. Believe me, marriage is fine and love is beautiful when it happens but trust is not easy. It takes a lot of faith and a leap in the darkness to trust someone implicitly.
I am not saying one should be blind in their trust. Stupidity cannot be masked and named as blind trust. That is more dangerous than anything else. For example, during Anitha's track, Gopi gave her unconditional support to Ahem and her trust in him was complete. To me that was blind given the cirumstances. I know.. I know.. I defended Ahem a lot at that time and will still do it again but that was only because I saw things that Gopi did not see. We got to see Ahem feeling guilty and extremely so for making Gopi go through that stage but Gopi did not. Her blind trust without question irked me. I felt that Gopi did not actually trust Ahem because she was afraid not to NOT trust.
She was afraid of the truth. It was because she had no assurance of Ahem's love. This was a time when Gopi was oscillating between the thoughts of being loved and not being loved, the poor child.
GoHem's love story took time to grow. From hate to indifference to friendship to empathy to attraction to love to soulmate.. The journey is still continuing. But now, I can see the trust that I was talking about before.
The trust that makes you question a loved one without worrying that the person may think the worst of you. The love that makes you care free and secure to voice your opinion. The faith that makes one question the other and rebuke them for their mistakes. The confidence that even if you make a mistake and you most probably will, there will be two other hands that will hold you and help you back to your feet again.The belief that you will always have a shoulder to cry and there will be a heart that cries for you. That kind of love and trust is rare and today GoHem have that for each other. They will learn to love and trust each other better as the says roll on.
Gopi now knows that Ahem will stand by her and help her even when he is not sure she is right. Ahem knows that if he really wanted, Gopi will accept the compromise but he also trusts her to do the right thing and hence supports her. Both now do not blindly follow but
question each other before deciding to go in a particular way.
As Tina says, a marital relationship is a partnership, not slavery. It needs love, trust, faith, fights, disagreements, contentment, freshness with other things,.
Just wanted to rant a bit. Was in the mood.. 😳
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