Ahem and love: being nettled

Res.

Swasthi. Another awesome post. Followed up by another gem from shilpa. Now i remember what i have always enjoyed about this forum. Thank you both for this safe haven.

Awesome analysis Swasthi. Just as Gopi's path to Ahem's heart was littered with the thorns of his hatred, Ahem is now finding that the same path is littered too with thorns of his insecurities and hesitancy and that of his own doing. I was hoping that he would clear away the thorns, but instead he will encourage their growth and realise too late his actions and words. Poor, idiot guy.

Originally posted by: sbp1971

Res.

*Edited*

Another wonderful analysis Swasthi.

Up to now the changes in Ahem's life have been gradual.

From the start of the education track, things have progressed slowly in his married life. The more time he spent with Gopi the more he got to know her and the more he liked her.

At first he just wanted to help her, then he became her friend and then the realization of being a husband, The most recent change was the most pleasant for him and that is of being a loving husband.

This also came with another instant change of father to be. His happiness was boundless in that moment, but at the time he had not realize all the complicaitons that will come along with being in love with his wife and a father to be.

He knew his life would change once he admits his feelings to Gopi, but he looked forward to those changes, but he is now realizing just what it would mean to be a father.

He realized that when the child is born he will have more responsibility, his role of a loving husband and son will change.

With all the attention the unborn baby is getting he is realizing that once the baby comes he will have to give up his number one position in the lives of the two women he loves the most, and he is not ready for this type of change yet.

It is understandable for Ahem to have these feelings, this does not make him a bad person, he has never had to deal with things like this, he has always been the given things without asking by Koki and Gopi, but now another person will take this place and he needs to face this.

Ahem needs time to get used to these feelings and realizing that now he will no longer be the apple of the eye of his mom and for rest of the family too.

Eventually he will come to terms these feelings and realize that there is more than enough room for him in the hearts of the two women he loves the most.

Originally posted by: ShaunSA

Swasthi. Another awesome post. Followed up by another gem from shilpa. Now i remember what i have always enjoyed about this forum. Thank you both for this safe haven.

Maybe he needs to start writing letters to himself to get those pent up things out because whenever he keeps 'em bottled in, it's Gopi who has to bear the brunt. Didn't he have a journal? The Great Modi will actually hurt Gopi and hurt himself even more in this process. I just hope that it's not too late when he realizes what he's doing. 🤔

Great post Swasthi. I agree with what others have said before me - your posts add to the charm of Gohem. Let's see what future holds for Ahem - we already know that he would voice his opinion to Gopi (will he know that Koki is there as well) and then we will get a strong reaction from Koki - overreaction if you ask me - she can first try asking him why he feels that way but then SNS thrives on exaggeration and communication gaps 😡.

Fantastic analysis Swasti -👏 ⭐️


Ahem's level of agitation is increasing with each day - or rather each minute with the constant baby talk

we have seen how Ahem reacts to changes in his life and in his routine
and this time he is hit by 2 major changes - one his love for his wife and then then about the baby ...

now the talk of taking responsibility... the kids annoying him ---- everything puja or any activity being surrounding the kid and he is seeing that his mom and his wife's priorities are changing towards him --- his mom is asking him to be a bit more responsible --- now his mom is talking everything from the baby's perspective where as he used to be on the top his Mom's list

let's see - i am just eagerly waiting for the drama to unfold when he says that he does not want the baby ---- and what reason he will come up with ,...as no reason of his will be justified
⭐️


Awesome analysis shilpa👏

Thanks for the post Swasthi.

All I want to tell Ahem is "this too will pass"