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Sometimes I feel like Gopi is the only one in this marriage.
Does Ahem never have any responsibility towards her?
It is always Gopi changing, Gopi accommodating, Gopi becoming the 'Yagya Patni' Gopi learning his likes and dislikes so she can impress him, Gopi getting an education, Gopi getting a make-over
What are the insinuations of this? That Ahem is perfect? Ahem doesn't need to change?
Why does Gopi have to become the Yagya Patni? Why cant Ahem, for once, change and become the Yagya pati?
In my eyes, Ahem is still the arrogant, short-tempered mama's boy he has always been. All that has changed in these last 2 years is his attitude towards Gopi. He went from indifference in the beginning, to hate, to loathing, to kindness to affection and love.
But does he show it? NO!
I'm sorry to say but he is too chicken-shit to confess his love to his own wife, whom he knows is crazy about him.
How can Gopi be a yagya patni when Ahem is hardly her yagya pati? What has changed from the beginning of their marriage? That he actually talks to her now. Thats it.
How is Gopi to know that he loves her? He never pushes Anita's affections away. He never tells Anita 'no'
Why can't we have a track where, instead of Gopi going through an Agnipareeksha again and trying to keep her position as Ahem's wife, it is Ahem's turn to prove his worth as a husband.
We learned from the Modi Bhavan batwara track that Ahem still doesn't take Gopi's support. All the couples in the house were supporting each other and Ahem was fuming away on his own while Gopi looked on concerned.
Why cant we have a track where he learns to not take his anger out on Gopi all the time? He learns to to be calmer. A track where he learns to show his affection a little. He's like a shy little boy. And with Gopi being a shy little girl, they will never come together!
When I think of this, I think of the movie Hum Saath Saath Hai, where Salman Khan and Sonali Bendre played a shy couple in love, but unable to ever confess. Salman Khan is advised that Sonali Bendre is a girl who is exactly what he wants, ready to come to him. All she needs is affection. HE needs to show her his love and take the first steps.
When will Ahem learn to do all that? When will Ahem learn to take the first steps?
From where I stand, I think Gopi is a pretty perfect wife. Her entire world revolves around Ahem, his needs, his happiness. What are Koki and Raashi trying to teach her? To protect her relationship from prying eyes and to learn to keep her husband to herself, right?
Well I think she would learn to do so if Ahem approached Gopi and moved their relationship forward. Gopi would get assurance that Ahem indeed loves her and her protectiveness of the relationship would automatically grow. She would have assurance that her husband is hers only and it would give her confidence in the face of someone like Anita.
I think now it is Ahem, not Gopi's responsibility to move this relationship forward. Gopi is done changing. Gopi is where she needs to be. It is Ahem's turn to change his attitude and his demeanor.
Yuks
PS: *Phew* that was quite the rant. I was in India watching ever single episode, but without internet access to be able to vent it out on the forum. So here is my month long rant!
Does Ahem never have any responsibility towards her?
It is always Gopi changing, Gopi accommodating, Gopi becoming the 'Yagya Patni' Gopi learning his likes and dislikes so she can impress him, Gopi getting an education, Gopi getting a make-over
What are the insinuations of this? That Ahem is perfect? Ahem doesn't need to change?
Why does Gopi have to become the Yagya Patni? Why cant Ahem, for once, change and become the Yagya pati?
In my eyes, Ahem is still the arrogant, short-tempered mama's boy he has always been. All that has changed in these last 2 years is his attitude towards Gopi. He went from indifference in the beginning, to hate, to loathing, to kindness to affection and love.
But does he show it? NO!
I'm sorry to say but he is too chicken-shit to confess his love to his own wife, whom he knows is crazy about him.
How can Gopi be a yagya patni when Ahem is hardly her yagya pati? What has changed from the beginning of their marriage? That he actually talks to her now. Thats it.
How is Gopi to know that he loves her? He never pushes Anita's affections away. He never tells Anita 'no'
Why can't we have a track where, instead of Gopi going through an Agnipareeksha again and trying to keep her position as Ahem's wife, it is Ahem's turn to prove his worth as a husband.
We learned from the Modi Bhavan batwara track that Ahem still doesn't take Gopi's support. All the couples in the house were supporting each other and Ahem was fuming away on his own while Gopi looked on concerned.
Why cant we have a track where he learns to not take his anger out on Gopi all the time? He learns to to be calmer. A track where he learns to show his affection a little. He's like a shy little boy. And with Gopi being a shy little girl, they will never come together!
When I think of this, I think of the movie Hum Saath Saath Hai, where Salman Khan and Sonali Bendre played a shy couple in love, but unable to ever confess. Salman Khan is advised that Sonali Bendre is a girl who is exactly what he wants, ready to come to him. All she needs is affection. HE needs to show her his love and take the first steps.
When will Ahem learn to do all that? When will Ahem learn to take the first steps?
From where I stand, I think Gopi is a pretty perfect wife. Her entire world revolves around Ahem, his needs, his happiness. What are Koki and Raashi trying to teach her? To protect her relationship from prying eyes and to learn to keep her husband to herself, right?
Well I think she would learn to do so if Ahem approached Gopi and moved their relationship forward. Gopi would get assurance that Ahem indeed loves her and her protectiveness of the relationship would automatically grow. She would have assurance that her husband is hers only and it would give her confidence in the face of someone like Anita.
I think now it is Ahem, not Gopi's responsibility to move this relationship forward. Gopi is done changing. Gopi is where she needs to be. It is Ahem's turn to change his attitude and his demeanor.
Yuks
PS: *Phew* that was quite the rant. I was in India watching ever single episode, but without internet access to be able to vent it out on the forum. So here is my month long rant!
