As far as i have seen until now
Gopi : her qualities :
1. tolerance - she is like the bhoo devi... the godess of earth - she can take any amount of pain to safe guard all around her and not flinch at pain
2. Patience - She is patient in understanding others and giving others enough time to understand her
3. Respect for others - She has immense respect for every one in the family including the servant of the house
4. Faith in the almighty - she has immense faith in the almighty to thank him for all the blessings he has given
5. Caring for others - She has the good heart to care for every person and their needs
They say a wife needs to be :
1. "Karyeshu Dasi " - Gopi exactly knows what needs to be done when and is ready with it.
2. "Karaneshu Mantri " - Gopi knows what is good and what is bad and she always tries to avoid the bad in people and only see the good and take only the good from everyone. Although I would say this is where Kokila wants Gopi to get the confidence to assert that her advise is good... that she needs to build confidence in herself to assert and stand for the correct thing in front of others.
3. "Bodeshu Maata" - Gopi is like a mother to every family member who cannot see anyone hungry and tired
4. "Seyaneshu Rambha" - She is attractive and beautiful as the full moon, and we know t;hat Ahem from Day 1 has been attracted to her beauty even when his heart was not accepting her. Although this i would say they have not touched this part of the relation yet and i think this is yet to come.
Anitha : Qualities :
1. Intelligent : Intelligent enough to manipulate things - This we can see in how she is trying to manipulate with Ahem, Gopi and others mind
2. persistence & stubborn : Persistence at not giving up hope on what she thinks is right - She does not want to give up on something that she wants
3. Not a great believer in traditional customs - She is a modern women and values fashion over traditions
4. Wants one to follow her lead - She likes to always direct others and she is ready with the finishing touches
5. Competitive spirit - She is always trying to be competitive and more like trying to prove she is better than what ever and who ever.
6. Believing in the notion 'I me and myself " -
7. Non Compromising - She is not ready to compromise or adjust in her habits of food and clothing even when she is a guest at other's house
Kokila's bahu and what she is looking for :
1. Keeping the Joint family intact - to be in a joint family one would need to sacrifise somethings at times, one would need to able to compromise on things, One would need to be able to understand the feelings of others and not bring their ego into things, be patient enough to keep a heating argument in control and not allowing it to explode. Need to keep others needs a head of your own needs and wants and aspirations.
2. Family Traditions - She needed someone who would keep the family traditions and follow them as she and her co-sister have been following all these years and she believes all these traditions have made them what they are today and these traditions are what have made their boys be come good and successful
3. Hard working - She wanted some one who can attend to any need and every need of every person in the family as much as she can without feeling tired or worried of piling up work.
4. Being a Wife :
- she should not have a controlling nature - as Ahem is very adamant in his thinking although he thinks thoroughly, he is usually a person who likes to take his own decisions- so she did not want the other partner also to be having a controlling nature as his son is as this would only rise the conflicts between them.
- she should not become angry easily - As she knows her son will get angry for if's and but's she wants someone who rarely gets angry
- she should know to cook well - Kokila is very strict in everyone having home cooked food as much as possible, So she knew that her son likes home cooked food and she wanted her bahu to know to cook good food.
- she should be a home maker - As Ahem has no time to think of other things other than work, she knew that another working women would not suite his son and family as then both partners would not have time to appreciate each other or have time for each other
- she should compliment him in looks
According to me - Kokila should have thought through a lot of things to come to a conclusion... she worked on Gopi very hard to bring her upto mark in speeding her way of working on things, in making her accustomed to all the things around the house and what is needed by whom and when.
But, I would still say she needs to give ahem and gopi a little more space to be able to spend time with eachother... we can understand she had to work hard on both of them to bring them where they are as they were poles apart and she had known it from day one that she would have to work on it for this couple to bring them to where they are today... but probably there is a little more time to do that as... Gopi is still uncertain of her relationship and Ahem is still not totally comfortable around his wife and probably Koki will stop interfering in their married part of the life when she can see her bahu and son are comfortable with each other and happy to be with eachother...
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