How Ahem felt due to Gopi's tears earlier????

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shruti aggarwal

@shruts18

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

Was Ahem ever affected when Gopi cried in front of him earlier?

Ahem always said that she is crying just to gain advantage and affection of family members through crying. But when she was crying while taking vows, he definitely looked dumbstruck, helpless and shocked to see her courage. Did it really pain him when Gopi cried and he faked his frustration at her crying through his anger?

She cried when he found her in Switzerland, she cried when she wanted education and when he took her out on her b'day, he was really moved and wanted to comfort her, but his ego stopped him.

When she was leaving the Modi house and her eyes were welled up, did he not look at her just to avoid the pain and guilt?

He was so helpless yesterday seeing her crying, I now think he would have always felt bad when she cried earlier, only his ego didn't let him show even a bit of that.

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doc4ever

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Posted: 13 years ago

U r right it was definitely one of Ahem's problems earlier...his EGO! I guess he wanted someone that would match his intelligence and way of thinking. But now look at him, he has realized the true worth of Gopi now and that she is becoming a priceless diamond in his life!

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@Arnisha

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: shruts18
Was Ahem ever affected when Gopi cried in front of him earlier?

Ahem always said that she is crying just to gain advantage and affection of family members through crying. But when she was crying while taking vows, he definitely looked dumbstruck, helpless and shocked to see her courage. Did it really pain him when Gopi cried and he faked his frustration at her crying through his anger?

She cried when he found her in Switzerland, she cried when she wanted education and when he took her out on her b'day, he was really moved and wanted to comfort her, but his ego stopped him.

When she was leaving the Modi house and her eyes were welled up, did he not look at her just to avoid the pain and guilt?

He was so helpless yesterday seeing her crying, I now think he would have always felt bad when she cried earlier, only his ego didn't let him show even a bit of that.

agree wid u he mustve felt bad in the past when she was crying bt didnt care as much as he did yesrday in the past he didnt lover her bt now he is love wid her...

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Dhabu89

@Dhabu89

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Posted: 13 years ago

😃First good post Shruts. As always you find ways for us to keep our mind active 😆 Thank you for this post, I get to talk about my favorite subject.

There were only three hugs between GoEm and you mentioned them all. And I do feel in all three hugs he was emotionally affected...

1...Switzerland, Even though in those days he hated Gopi, he was truly worried about her. And when he found her he was so overwhelmed by it. He was frantically searching for her and then when he found her you could see the smile on his face from ear to ear...then he ran to her and when she hugged him, he was filled with so much joy that he hugged her back and then came back to his senses and pulled his hands away...

2...The educations track...again here he did not like her and when he learned she had cheated, he did not hold back his anger or his harsh words. But at night in the privacy of their bedroom when she cried, he could have told her to be quite and go to sleep, but he went to stand behind her and ask her in the nicest way possible what happened. And when she hugged him, he was taken aback for a bit. But his face was etched with concern and he listened with so much attention. He cared. He was making mental notes to put two and two together. He told her to go to sleep, but in his mind he had a plan layed out and he would make sure she was not cheated out of an educaton...again.

3...The birthday hug...He followed her to the room and you could see how much he wanted to hold her and comfort her. But again he let his ego guide him. But he could not see her cry and used mock anger to make her come with him and he took her to the one place where he himself found solace many a times. He prodded her to let her emotions run free and when she hugged him, it effected him to the core. He was having a tug-of-war with his ego and his need to comfort her. He almost returned the hug. But his egp won out in the end.

4...Her leaving the house...she cried, she looked at him to see if she could see anything else except hatred and she saw none. But she did not know how much her cries was effecting her. For him, he may have hated her but that did not mean he liked her crying because of him. This is the one place where his ego was ruling him. He did not once look at her. He avoided her gaze. That is only done when you are trying to let the situation effect you and your decision. So yeah, here also he is definetely effected.

So what does all this tell you...yeah it does tell you I have an obsession with GoEm, but it also tells you that her crying is not something he can handle. He does not like to see Gopi cry. Even when he was the reason behind it. Ahem over all is a good and emotional guy. Once some one is under his care he starts to care for them and their well being. I also feel this is another reason he wanted her to leave the house immediately. During Kinjal's wedding he saw how close they had gotten and worked together...he...I mean his ego could not allow that.

Ok. I will not go on anymore...I am sorry for the long rant...incase you all have doubts...I love GoEm 😳

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Shruts a very good post👏 And a superb question..⭐️

Aham, I think expected a wife like Anitha.. Before marriage, the 2 women in his life who even made impact was Koki and Anitha.. Anitha we do not know a lot about but I am pretty sure she was bold enough. There is nothing to say about how bold Koki is..

So Aham I think was first not able to understand this girl who would cry for all things.. I think that was part of his anger in the beginning and he falsely assumed that the tears were false exactly due to that.

Here was this girl who was not able to talk 10 words in a row and who just cried for every small thing. Not understanding her, Aham's frustration would have also increased when he was not able to get the answers he desperately needed then.. Why him? Why is it that his own mother made him marry this girl? What is her motive? Was she a gold digger?

But he saw that her tears affected everyone.. It would have surely affected him too.. But he was loath to look above what he felt was obvious to the pain that resided in her eyes.. But I remember that he still could not ignore that pain completely.. The day she took back the vows, his helplessness at her pain, not understanding why, not sure what he wanted were all the reasons for his anger.. Did her tears affect him? Of course yes..😛

I think the bigger proof is when he offers to help her apply medicine and she rejects. We see him defeated. He cannot understand this girl at all.. But after all these times, his ego did stand tall. He, I think did not want to be wrong. Actually, he did not know what to do if he was wrong..

But staying and living with her wantedly or unwantedly, he saw her and slowly understood her nature. He saw that she was not just like that with him but also with all others. His mom praised her and although he never showed, I think that also affected his thoughts a bit.

Aham's first feeling for everything is anger.. So anger it was for everything she did.. But as days rolled by he could not hide behind anger and his ego when she was in pain. During the cheating incident, he saw the pain she was going through and was gentle with her. He may not have hugged her but he believed her tears then. At that time , she was not even a friend, just another person he had come to accept as a part of his house.

As for her B'Day, his hesitation was I think more about being appropriate than his ego.. Aham is not openly emotional.. He does not do well with words or gestures.. See the way he feels uncomfortable when Jigar hugs him. For Aham to initiate a hug it would need Gopi with whom he has all his defenses down.

At that time last year he was not there at all..

But her tears did affect him.. All the time.. He is a nice man Shruts and this man slowly realized that he was doing an injustice to the woman he had married.

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ANJ4

@ANJ4

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Posted: 13 years ago

Ok now ahem is in head over heels in love with gopi , but ahem does not really know how to show gopi how much he loves her , what can I I have never met a man like ahem

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Munni

@munnihyderabad

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Posted: 13 years ago

Awesome post shruti👏⭐️

As i said before, Ahem never hated gopi, even in his worst days, he never hated...hate is a very big term and i don't think for a fair person like Ahem, it was hate for gopi..., hate is where you wish to harm a person physically and emotionally to gain some self satisfaction..

i would like to add, the slap is not out of hatred, it was an impulsive and emotional act when he came to know she is a gold digger and illiterate...

Ahem gave the space to gopi during early days...later on he saw her being projected as gold digger and illiterate and who committed silliest of the silliest mistakes...even then , it was not hatred..he .was frustrated, angered and worked up.., cursing his fate for putting up with her for the rest of his life...and he was in a state of "why am i stuck with this girl... why do i deserve this kind of punishment and suffocation in a relation..this is not what i wanted" ..

sorry these above part was not necessary here😛

so coming to the post,

even during their darkest days, he payed attention to every word of hers.. he noticed every tear of hers.. it's just that he was having an outward perspective of gopi, he never knew her inner soul...

even after more than a year..he remembered her words about not giving milk to snakes, about diwali fireworks... he was attentive to what ever she uttered...he listened to rakshabandhan story...her tears and her words moved his heart at every instance , but his mind has been delusional to her kindness

his mind, took over his heart...he suppressed his feelings that it hurt him when she cried...even those days..but his anger and frustration was humongous...and love for Ahem is expressed in his anger...

her tears moved him... in every way... but the reaction which he gave was influenced by other factors...Ahem ki gusse mein bhi pyar hain

in all the three instances, which u mentioned.. it was gopi, hugging him and crying, she looked up to him..as a shoulder to cry on... and he gave the much needed support and comfort - even then he let her cry but he did not hug her back... because his hug is for him to her will be only when he goes through the pain and needs her to ease off his pain

As i always say,,, goodness touches your heart,... her goodness invaded his heart, his heart took over his mind, his ego, his fake anger...now all her pains and her tears... hurt him and he is the person who will never let a tear pool in her eyes and he will the person who will never let a pain cross her heart

do i need to say how much i adore them😃 they bring happiness and contentment to my heart😃

- i think i really went tangential with the post... and sorry long rant.. sorry not my fault..its gopi and ahem's😛

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shruti aggarwal

@shruts18

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

The replies of all of you Rupal, Harini and Munni have left me speechless!!!!!! I made this post with just a thought which was coming in my mind again and again. But never knew that it would get some of the most wonderful answers.😊I wanted to revive those most beautiful memories of Gohem through this post and I am glad I did it.

Though we did not have Gohem today, this is just enough to feel their presence. And as Munni says, it is all Gopi and Ahem's fault that I logged in to give answers to these awesome posts.

I had no doubt that Ahem never hated her. He could never hate anyone I feel though. he hated his fate for being stuck up with the illiterate girl for he despised illiteracy as untouchability. She cried a lot many times and each time he looked irritated when in anger in earlier days. Had he hated her, he would have smirked or smiled, but no he used to look lost. So he never liked her crying but he gave his own reasons to not let her cry. But those three hugs made it very clear what he had in his mind for her.

Rupal perfectly explained the inner feelings of Ahem when Gopi hugged him thrice and whole scenes played in front of my eyes. Thank you very much.🤗

Harini you clearly explained that her tears moved him a lot but how his character did not let him show it, how his mock anger or ego always came across. He was never emotional as you said and during yester's scene he perfectly portrayed his incapacity and helplessness at her tears and tried to console her in best ways that he could. Initially he looked little uncomfortable but by the end of the scene as he was wiping her tear, he looked absolutely calm and in control.

Munni you showed the base of their relation, their understanding, how his anger represents his love, how when she cries he knows no way other than to be angry and make her quiet. How when the barriers of his mind once came down, there was no looking back and he only could comfort her in the best ways that he knew.

I have cherished all the three hugs and they are so close to my heart. It's really difficult to choose which is the best of them. I have the same opinion that when he will hug her he will be in pain and will need her to console and comfort him. That would be a treat to watch and it would surely take sometime before we get to see that.

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-neela-

@-neela-

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: shruts18
I have cherished all the three hugs and they are so close to my heart. It's really difficult to choose which is the best of them. I have the same opinion that when he will hug her he will be in pain and will need her to console and comfort him. That would be a treat to watch and it would surely take sometime before we get to see that.

You all really do blow me away 😳

Each hug that has happened so far has had a different effect on Ahem and with each one, he has been able to see even more into Gopi's true nature. As mentioned above in bold, when the hug is initiated by Ahem first, he will surely need Gopi's comfort to reassure him that this is real and Gopi definitely has the same feelings for him as he has for her 😊

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Nandita / Tina

@5cents

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Shruts awesome post👍🏼 followed by wonderful replies. You surely know how to make thought provoking posts and elicit admiring responses 👏

I don't want to write on my fav subject now as am very sleepy. If I write anything it will be obtuse

All I know is...The best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really is. As gold is tested in fire...love is perfected in Pain😭

good night!!

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