Saathiya Love Times - I am same as I was in Holi - Page 5

Originally posted by: shruts18

I don't think he is becoming a "gulaam"😆. But he has realized that she has become a wife for him that noone can become and he has to match her goodness in every sense.

I remember once Baa had said to Gopi " Gopi you should continue with patience and one day he will shed his angry mode and become easygoing and a playful person just like his dadaji who were very stiff but after being with me he became very fun loving and talkative."😃

Feviewer, is being joru ka gulam a bad thing? When we woman can dress up for our man... why can't they? We women are actually a red herring in all this . If we raised our sons better society would be different today. We can endlessly slog for them from clothes to food to oil message to I don't know what all😕. But they can't do anything for their wife & if they do it is termed as Joru ka gulam Maybe I shd do another post on dynamics of relationship😃.

Shruti, why are you defending? It is not not bad to do things to please one another. I hate this taking out clothes bit in reality but love to watch it on screen 😛😆 . Looks very cute on screen.
God never made us equal, we are all unique, but we should be complementary to each other. 😳. Ahem is in foray for being the best hubby in town😳. I wish him all the best😆

Originally posted by: 5cents

Feviewer, is being joru ka gulam a bad thing? When we woman can dress up for our man... why can't they? We women are actually a red herring in all this . If we raised our sons better society would be different today. We can endlessly slog for them from clothes to food to oil message to I don't know what all😕. But they can't do anything for their wife & if they do it is termed as Joru ka gulam Maybe I shd do another post on dynamics of relationship😃.

Shruti, why are you defending? It is not not bad to do things to please one another. I hate this taking out clothes bit in reality but love to watch it on screen 😛😆 . Looks very cute on screen.
God never made us equal, we are all unique, but we should be complementary to each other. 😳. Ahem is in foray for being the best hubby in town😳. I wish him all the best😆

Originally posted by: shruts18

Tina I am not defending him. I am just saying that I don't think he is a "gulaam". No husband who in love is. Yeah if he had just listened to her and had forgotten his mom or other relations then it would be termed a gulaam. But he is a perfectionist and this might confuse some as his weakness which is best thing.😃The younger son of MM household is definitely somewhat near to this title!😆

I was thinking that he told her which clothes to take out and for that he made such a fuss, how cute😆as if clothes would become more elegant with her touch. 😃But I too take out clothes for my hubby!And infact to tell you I packed his laptop seeing Gopi do that and you know what, now my hubby gets on me if I forget doing so.😆

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

tina dear ...agree with shruti ,, he is not a jhoru ka ghulam - completely agree shruti...he is not avoiding any other relations or responsibilities - he is a perfectionist to the core... he just loves her and is trying to cheer her up and that definitely does not make a "ghulam"😛

yeah i say jigar is a joru ka ghulam... i have reasons for later😆

Munni, Why are you guys defending the term JKG. 😛 my question is...Is being a joru ka gulam a bad thing? If so why? Where does it say that if you help out with daily chores or listen or please your wife or dress up for her you become a gulam? Where does it say if you are with your wife that makes you a gulam? Why will the hubby/gulam forget all other relationships 😕 if he pleases his wife? I hate the term gulam & another one is Pati Parameshwar lolz if he is God i am also Goddess...why are we not called patni Goddess😕. I have always argued with my mom on this. Being a Joru ka gulam is not a bad thing at all...it is how you interpret is imp😃😳

Well, Jiggy is a weakling . It is an insult to gulam too. Gulam have certain characteristics😉

Shruti, awww how cute& sweet you do things for your hubby he is really lucky. it is the dynamics of your relationship & nobody can say anything as long as pair of you are happy & content. Well, I can never do shoes, clothes & lunch box but he has no complains & it woks for us . He cooks occasionally but I hate him in the kitchen as he makes a big mess 7 bigger racket. He says cooking a big stress buster for him so I have to give in & clear the mess afterward such are the ways of love 😳

Originally posted by: 5cents

Munni, Why are you guys defending the term JKG. 😛 my question is...Is being a joru ka gulam a bad thing? If so why? Where does it say that if you help out with daily chores or listen or please your wife or dress up for her you become a gulam? Where does it say if you are with your wife that makes you a gulam? Why will the hubby/gulam forget all other relationships 😕 if he please his wife? I hate the term gulam & another one is Pati Parameshwar lolz if he is God i am also Goddess...why are we not called patni Goddess😕. I have always argued with my mom on this. Being a Joru ka gulam is not a bad thing at all...it is how you interpret is imp😃😳

Well, Jiggy is a weakling . It is an insult to gulam too. Gulam have certain characteristics😉

@tina dear...

Originally posted by: shruts18

Tina we are not defending we are saying he is not a gulaam as simple as that. As you hate the term gulaam, I don't like it much either. But in an Indian society if a husband is found appreciating his wife, he is more likely to earn that name and fame for himself.I have gone through this phase as well. Whatever you are saying is right and yeah Joru ka gulaam is a wrong thing for a gulaam means to lose one's self respect and give up all opinions and decisions and obey whatever other says. Here its being about a true partner and lover so the question of being a gulaam doesn't arise at all!😃He is just being her caretaker as she is his. Its a mutual happy going relation.

And people who are "joru ka gulaam" they don't care for anyone in the family and I hate their very character. Ahem is as responsible and caring towards his wife as he is towards his mom and family and that is what makes him stand apart.

Tina no shoes, clothes and lunch box????😲then what do you do?????😆

@shruti

Originally posted by: 5cents

I say he is LOVE GULAAM😳. Please change your prospective on GULAAM dear. I say if a guy loves his family then only he can become a true companion of sorts.I don't care if the world calls him GULAAM for being loving & caring towards his wife😳. For giving importance to wife over others, if a person is called JKG, so be it😉😆. I love my JKG and would not have it any other way😳.
Lolz Shruti, I possibly can't do things on daily basis as it will become a very expensive proposition😛😉 solve the riddle😆. I'll PM you 😳