Aham and Gopi - Not taken for granted

One of Rachna's posts made me think..
We know that Gopi does not expect Aham to love her. Though she sees changes in him, unless he makes a straightforward confession, she will not take it for granted that he loves her. She will be happy and content with his actions, care and concern and consider herself blessed but will never expect him to fall in love..

As for Aham, he has surprised me. Aham is smart. He has seen his wife trying to impress him from the day they married. He has seen her strive hard to meet his expectations and in one corner of his heart, I think Aham knows and is absolutely certain that Gopi loves him. But he does not take it for granted.
Sometimes when they thank each other, I have felt annoyed that they are so formal. But today I see why they do that. We thank a lot of people in our day to day lives but we miss to thank those who really care. Gopi an Aham do just that. He thanks her not because it is a form of greeting, but because he wants her to know that he appreciates her care and effort. The same goes for Gopi..
Aham wants to work on his relation instead of assuming that Gopi will be in love with him. He is still nervous to see her reactions but also confident because he knows that his wife loves him.

That makes this relation such a deep one because this couple know to trust each other but they also cherish each other. They will not be bored with each other. And in the daily monotonous course of life, they will not let the monotony ruin their relation by keeping it fresh.
It is this attitude that will take them afar as without this, we hurt our love ones. It can be as small as going for a friend's dinner instead of eating the meal your wife cooked. It is not a big deal because the wife will say nothing and where would she go? But it usually ends up hurting the person.
But because these 2 respect and cherish these subtle expressions of love in the other, they will not let their love suffer nor will they assume that the other's love is easily obtained..

Too much philosophy on a Thursday But then I would love to know what you guys think...

😊Beautiful & insightful analysis. 👏

I like what you said, but I have to tell you one thing. In reality, it is difficult to be like gohem :D
we do take our partners granted for they are the ones closest to us. But, if we make a conscious effort then may be it is possible what you said. But it is difficult. hehe

I would like to mention one article that I recently read about men that are depicted in Movies and Serials. The nature of the men there are completely different from the actual behavior of men. Men in movies are liked by women because they behave like what women expect from them..emotional. But in reality, men are less emotional than women and hence there are always disturbances in the marriages. But, if we truly love eachother, fix these disturbances and live in peace. The posted this article for your reference
http://www.rediff.com/getahead/slide-show/slide-show-1-specials-revealed-why-men-want-sex-and-women-need-love/20120118.htm

The beauty of gohem relation is that they show exactly this. Ahem resembles a real man rather than a fictional man 😃

Originally posted by: sadiltl

I like what you said, but I have to tell you one thing. In reality, it is difficult to be like gohem :D
we do take our partners granted for they are the ones closest to us. But, if we make a conscious effort then may be it is possible what you said. But it is difficult. hehe

I would like to mention one article that I recently read about men that are depicted in Movies and Serials. The nature of the men there are completely different from the actual behavior of men. Men in movies are liked by women because they behave like what women expect from them..emotional. But in reality, men are less emotional than women and hence there are always disturbances in the marriages. But, if we truly love eachother, fix these disturbances and live in peace.

The beauty of gohem relation is that they show exactly this. Ahem resembles a real man rather than a fictional man 😃

@Bold - So true..Aham indeed is very close to reality. So is Koki.. But that is exactly my point. Even now Aham does not take it for granted that his mom would understand why he did not call.. He is worried and that makes him a good son. I hope he continues to do the same with Gopi 😃

And I accept that it is difficult not to take our relationships for granted unless we make the extra effort... It is not just between a husband and wife.. It is between every relation. But then that is also why sometimes surprises bring so much joy.. 😛 However, that conscious effort will go a long way...

@justlikethat,

did you see the link I mentioned above in the edited post. do read it, it is kinda funny. and if you are married, you will find it more real. hehe

Originally posted by: sadiltl

@justlikethat,

did you see the link I mentioned above in the edited post. do read it, it is kinda funny. and if you are married, you will find it more real. hehe

Just read it..😆 It is really good and it does make sense though I am single.. 😃

Awww...Harini!!! 🤗 love it!

Originally posted by: RachP

Awww...Harini!!! 🤗 love it!

Today, as he was giving her the rose, I had a gut-feeling that he knows that he has feelings for her. Something about the way he held the rose and waited for her patiently because he knew that she wouldn't reject it. Also, I felt like he remembers everything about his behavior and is trying his best, to undo what he has done in the past. I am so anxious to watch them progress further.

Rachna...🤗back..
I got the though from your other post in the Gopi's feelings thread.. Your words were so very thought provoking😃

@Bold - Totally agree.. I think Aham knows that Gopi loves him completely and I think he is just making it easier for their relationship an her by taking it slowly. He is sure of her love but is also hesitant because of the past...
And the precap.. The small sentence of that he will be back by 6:30.. It is so very simple but shows how much he wants her involved in his life.. That is so very beautiful...😛

**super Like ***

@Munni..🤗 back..
Such a great reply 👏⭐️👏 Loved it Munni..
You have broken it all down so well.. The step by step explanation of their journey.. What else can I say but rocking partner 😉
People ask why there are so many fans for SNS.. How can they ignore this fact that we have all fallen in love with the love story that is so very charming...😃