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Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Exactly.. And we know that to Kokila work is God. She does not want Aham to compromise on that for anything.. The expressions that Kokila shows these days are very confusing because I think the director and CVs want it that way.. But if we look closely none of her expressions of what we could consider as anger is never directed towards Gopi. She is just thoughtful and sometimes looks emotional around her son..
I think the CVs deliberately want us to be on the tether hooks where Aham and Koki are concerned. The articles saying that Aham is worried as a friend, he considers that it is his duty to care for Gopi are all to make sure that we don't guess when he will exactly realize his love..
That is fun too because how else can we have so many discussions and character analysis?..😉

Thanks Munni.. I am gaining some confidence..

Originally posted by: Sandy914

Thanks Munni.. I am gaining some confidence..

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

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😆 mee too like ur posts,,, sometimes working sometimes not ... weird

@bold .. thanks to CVs for creating koki because whom we had discussions for more than 2 days... analysis her character left, right and center...

love this ... and u harini... my partner in crime🤗

🤗 Hug back partner and high five...
Our CBP has the most complex and adorable characters and it is always fun to decode them... Love the discussions back and forth😳

OMG Munni & Harini you have found the perfect partner read saathiya in Sandy now lol. I just logged in & went & read the chaos post...man defense team has been on a roll & am rolling now lol. This post is also leading to that. 😛 But enjoying every bit of it...so am back😆

Koki is indeed a very complex character, You may like her, you may hate her, but you defo can't ignore her😃.
Now to clear my stand...Yeah, I love Koki, but I really, do not like her ways too aggressive & dominating for my taste.🤢 Koki is plain confused, depressed & insecure period. How else would you explain her narcissistic ways & her patronizing nature.....I have many examples of that but will leave them for now.
Maybe Koki, I think is a born leader😉! But she had a bad childhood, where she had to fight with her siblings, to be in the race! Then she got married to a chilled out, happy -go-lucky Parag, who did not fit in her stereotypic dimention of HUBBY😛, so she had to constantly battle, to be in the fore front of MM coz the leader in her could never accept defeat. There is nothing wrong in it ...We are all different & unique that is what makes us all so special.

But I don't like her abusing her hubby, in public. He was neither abusive or noncommittal & she had 2 kids with him. Then why did she let him father her kids😕? What, we as audience have seen Koki & Parag's relationshi is that she keeps a "MENTAL LIST" of everything Parag has done & now wants a constant PAYBACK for them from Ahem...how could she blame Ahem the other day saying that Parag's lazy & easy ways are rubbing on him. Thank God the man was not sleazy lol😆

Originally posted by: navyab

Behind Kokilla allowing Urmilla to let Gopi stay behind for another day? She has seen her son lost without Gopi & acknowldeging that if Gopi was there things would have been different...So does she want to see till what extent can her son take his wife not being around & will he do something about it...

In the past Kokilla has seen Ahem leaving Gopi in the peehar & never wanting to bring her back...so does she want to see now that her dil is in her peehar what will her son do now??

Navs dearie, Peehar, Dil, wifey ...none of this is on Koki's mind she like Arjuna's eye just aiming & looking at the MM office chair, which is being occupied by Chirag bahi. 😛
Koki's thoughts...My innocent DIL shd not distract my workaholic SON come what may!!😃

Originally posted by: 5cents

OMG Munni & Harini you have found the perfect partner read saathiya in Sandy now lol. I just logged in & went & read the chaos post...man defense team has been on a roll & am rolling now lol. This post is also leading to that. 😛 But enjoying every bit of it...so am back😆

Koki is indeed a very complex character, You may like her, you may hate her, but you defo can't ignore her😃.
Now to clear my stand...Yeah, I love Koki, but I really, do not like her ways too aggressive & dominating for my taste.🤢 Koki is plain confused, depressed & insecure period. How else would you explain her narcissistic ways & her patronizing nature.....I have many examples of that but will leave them for now.
Maybe Koki, I think is a born leader😉! But she had a bad childhood, where she had to fight with her siblings, to be in the race! Then she got married to a chilled out, happy -go-lucky Parag, who did not fit in her stereotypic dimention of HUBBY😛, so she had to constantly battle, to be in the fore front of MM coz the leader in her could never accept defeat. There is nothing wrong in it ...We are all different & unique that is what makes us all so special.

But I don't like her abusing her hubby, in public. He was neither abusive or noncommittal & she had 2 kids with him. Then why did she let him father her kids😕? What, we as audience have seen Koki & Parag's relationshi is that she keeps a "MENTAL LIST" of everything Parag has done & now wants a constant PAYBACK for them from Ahem...how could she blame Ahem the other day saying that Parag's lazy & easy ways are rubbing on him. Thank God the man was not sleazy lol😆

😆 Tina.. I know Koki's methods do not always find favor. She is stricter than a lot of people and does not giggle and smile all the time.. Life taught her that..
I absolutely do not agree with @Bold. Sorry.😳
- Just because she is not always a happy bunny does not mean she is depressed. Her happiness is shines in her eyes. Watch when she looks at Gopi and Ahem sometimes. Pride and happiness are very evident.
- If Kokila is confused, then I think all the rest in MB belong to the loony bin. Koki is the smartest person there. If you mean she is confused about her relationship with her son and husband, then here are my 2 cents on that.
- Kokila knows completely where she stands with Ahem. I am going to make a few points on her insecurity next, so we will deal with that a little bit later.
- Well with respect to Parag, the way that she told Ahem about his father was yes, very distasteful but they were supposed to be that way. Kokila was trying to make a point and drill it where it hurts.. On the day of the episode I made a point and I make it again. There is no one else dearer to Kokila than her son. If she cannot tell about her fears to Ahem and Gopi, she will not be able to tell about it to anyone else.. I know the concern was demeaning the father in front of a grown son. But then Koki knows her son. She knows that Ahem is smart enough to understand the extent of her anguish and also understand that it was not said to demean his father, rather it was to drive home the reason for her anguish.
Kokila cannot share that with anyone else. Not her own mother, not Mota Bhabhi nor Baa. So when she found her son lacking in work, she voiced her fears to the people she trusts the most.. Every husband and wife's relation is different. Koki may love and trust Parag her own way but she loves and trusts Ahem and Gopi better. It can be hard to take.

- Finally about her insecurity.. Tina, if Koki is insecure about Ahem, she would have stopped Gopi from completely taking care of him. All she wanted Gopi to do was not to sidetrack him from work. And she is being proved right. Rashi does not care for anyone else. Koki hoped to test Rashi to see if she was changed but we know that GoHem just made that impossible..

Finally, a thirty year relationship between a husband and wife has its own twist to it.. It is because Koki considers Mota Bhabhi and Bhai her family that she taunts Parag in front of them. She does respect him but there are times she is not able to take is too much easy going attitude.

Just my 2 cents...😃

Originally posted by: 5cents

Navs dearie, Peehar, Dil, wifey ...none of this is on Koki's mind she like Arjuna's eye just aiming & looking at the MM office chair, which is being occupied by Chirag bahi. 😛
Koki's thoughts...My innocent DIL shd not distract my workaholic SON come what may!!😃

Tina,.. Me again.. 😳
1 st Bold - Yes. Absolutely and I do not think she is wrong to aspire that position for her son. He has invested his life towards that. Every mother wants their son to excel. And Koki just wants that. I think Ahem deserves it too.. If what Chirag said is true, then it seems the office depends a lot on Ahem. So why should she not want her son to be in that chair. He has worked for it day and night.😃

2nd - Bold - It is not that she considers Gopi a distraction. No. Her innocent DIL is not the distraction. As Koki said, it is Gopi's way of offloading household worries that is a distraction to Ahem. And what was the cause they took up? RaJi reunion. The two did not even think once as to whether Rashi was really changed or deserved it. They just jumped into action without thinking things thro'
You will have to agree that if Koki wanted she can be a full blown spanner in works for the GoHemm relation. She can order Gopi to stop serving Ahem. But Koki still wants Gopi to be there for Ahem and support him. It is only when it comes to household matters... Have you ever seen any other Modi men looking into household matters?
It is good that Ahem tried but RaJi union was a wrong battle to choose. This couple need to look at the right cause to fight. Let them first fight for their own relationship before trying to patch up another.😕

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Tina,.. Me again.. 😳
1 st Bold - Yes. Absolutely and I do not think she is wrong to aspire that position for her son. He has invested his life towards that. Every mother wants their son to excel. And Koki just wants that. I think Ahem deserves it too.. If what Chirag said is true, then it seems the office depends a lot on Ahem. So why should she not want her son to be in that chair. He has worked for it day and night.😃

2nd - Bold - It is not that she considers Gopi a distraction. No. Her innocent DIL is not the distraction. As Koki said, it is Gopi's way of offloading household worries that is a distraction to Ahem. And what was the cause they took up? RaJi reunion. The two did not even think once as to whether Rashi was really changed or deserved it. They just jumped into action without thinking things thro'
You will have to agree that if Koki wanted she can be a full blown spanner in works for the GoHemm relation. She can order Gopi to stop serving Ahem. But Koki still wants Gopi to be there for Ahem and support him. It is only when it comes to household matters... Have you ever seen any other Modi men looking into household matters?
It is good that Ahem tried but RaJi union was a wrong battle to choose. This couple need to look at the right cause to fight. Let them first fight for their own relationship before trying to patch up another.😕

Harini, Koki is not in a position to put spanner in works dear! She is the one who chose Gopi as her DIL & Ahem's wife😃. She has told innumerable times to Ahem that Gopi is... Goodness personified, that's why I chose her!! Her illiteracy is not a handicap for Gopi. So Koki has to be on their case & help GOHEM as Koki's mom suggested... that you have to be the catalyst in your son & DIL relationship. Just imagine if we are forced into a relationship in today's day & age how would it be? We'll rebel...I would, I know😉. Ahem rebelled & realized & finally accepted his fate and thought that he'll give his wife a chance & the girl blossomed beautifully under his guidance...the man fell for her hook, line & sinker...can we blame him😉. I don't care for any other Modi man ...to each his own dear😉. If Ahem can or wants to help Gopi in whatever & whenever he wants, he shd be allowed & Koki has to realize this, that what worked with Chirag & parag & Jiggy will not work with Ahem...he is a take charge kind of guy & will give his full support & love to his mom as well as wife.
Helping Rashi maybe wrong according to some but it looked fine to Gohen. Human nature leads people to do what they perceive to be in their best interest.😳 so they helped Raji...they will fail & fall & get burnt, but will learn from their mistakes, why preach a 30yr old son. All I can say is Koki's behavior is extremely controlling at times though she may have the best intentions in her heart. 🤢

Originally posted by: 5cents

Harini, Koki is not in a position to put spanner in works dear! She is the one who chose Gopi as her DIL & Ahem's wife😃. She has told innumerable times to Ahem that Gopi is... Goodness personified, that's why I chose her!! Her illiteracy is not a handicap for Gopi. So Koki has to be on their case & help GOHEM as Koki's mom suggested... that you have to be the catalyst in your son & DIL relationship. Just imagine if we are forced into a relationship in today's day & age how would it be? We'll rebel...I would, I know😉. Ahem rebelled & realized & finally accepted his fate and thought that he'll give his wife a chance & the girl blossomed beautifully under his guidance...the man fell for her hook, line & sinker...can we blame him😉. I don't care for any other Modi man ...to each his own dear😉. If Ahem can or wants to help Gopi in whatever & whenever he wants, he shd be allowed & Koki has to realize this, that what worked with Chirag & parag & Jiggy will not work with Ahem...he is a take charge kind of guy & will give his full support & love to his mom as well as wife.
Helping Rashi maybe wrong according to some but it looked fine to Gohen. Human nature leads people to do what they perceive to be in their best interest.😳 so they helped Raji...they will fail & fall & get burnt, but will learn from their mistakes, why preach a 30yr old son. All I can say is Koki's behavior is extremely controlling at times though she may have the best intentions in her heart. 🤢

I see where you are coming from.
@Bold is the main reason I see her not becoming the negative MIL in GoHem's life..😃. Koki stands by her decisions and proves them right...😊

A few things in her defence for what you call extremely controlling behavior.

- We learn from our experiences and then preach and want our dear ones not to make the same mistake.Koki is a mother. Even if I am a hundred years old, I am still a daughter to my mom. So she will still want the best for me and tell me I am wrong. I may not like it and may rebel. My mom may not like my rebelling but that does not mean my mom is turning bad. Actually Ahem has already rebelled a number of times for Gopi. Koki though she was displeased that his work was affected even then, let it go because she knows her limits. But the cupid thing was too much. Hence her punishments to her son..
- Again, Ahem till now knows nothing about relations. All he has seen till now is Koki and now Gopi. How would a mother let her children make an error of judgement right in front of her eyes. Yes, children learn from mistakes but still a mother cannot watch her children put their hands in a fire thinking that the next time they will learn themself. There is no age limit for mothering.
- I am not faulting Ahem's help.. In future he will be there for Gopi in all ways. But to Koki, this mission was not needed and certainly not worth his sacrifice of work.