Originally posted by: loveanime
that is why i still refuse to believe the love she feels for him is in anyway real true love that stems from understanding, admiration, respect and trust. She doesn't understand him if she did the first she would have known by now he is manipulative pig, i am sure by now even gopi has realized that there is nothing admirable in her husband, if a man doesn't respect you how can respect him back, respect is mutual and so is trust, he has broken her heart a gazillion times now, stomped and spit all over it so how can she trust him that he will ever take care of her the way a husband should. when none of these feelings exist between gopi and aham, how can gopi love aham, she loves some fictional dream husband figure and keeps imagining that. she needs to snap out of it before he crushes her forever.
What's your name @loveanime?
Anyway I agree with you partly, that it's difficult to love someone with no admirable qualities like Aham, good looks and money aside he has nothing to commend him. We have all seen better looking men, so we can forget that, the money his a stingy guy so you are never going to get your hands on his money, so why go through the abuse? So yes Gopi cannot love Aham. (However it's a TV Show, and so we all know Aham in the end will relent and fall in love with Gopi and they will leave happily ever after and she will forgive every bad thing he did to her).
But even in real life, if it was a blood relative who was acting in this way, it's different, as you think you can stop loving them but often it's impossible, it doesn't matter how much they hurt you, in fact the reason it hurts so much is because you love them, if you didn't care about that person, his words would not have the ability to hurt.
I have never experienced abuse from a husband or boyfriend (where it's not a blood relative) so I don't know whether it's possible to still love them after so much abuse from them.
Edited by WintersBloom - 14 years ago