Oh Aham - what are we going to do with you!!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: upasana.diya

i think you are right about Aham's bursting a nerve if Koki starts explaining things to him...

but what made him into a cynic...
he was the one who left his love....
his mom selected the bride and not the other way round
his kaka recognizes his (Aham's) contribution to company more than his(chirag) own child's

what is there for him to be cynical about... evrything has been going his way😕😔

Originally posted by: Eesha2

Exactly Diya I don't understand it either. Everything in life has always gone his way. No one has put a gun to his head. The decisions and choices he made in his life were exactly that, HIS. His arrogance and hot-headed nature prevents him from seeing anything beyond himself.

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

It's what he does as an occupation, I think you have got be cynical and stubborn to succeed in big business, to run a large company I mean. Aham is having trouble leaving that cynicism at the office, remember the 13/12/10 episode (Candles and Flowers) the sarcasm why cover your head you have crossed your limits already "she wants something" what is it? to stay in MM.

Though Gopi took back the vows he has had to do Janmashtami with her, buy her jewellery at Ketki's insistance, dance dandiya with her, declare love to her with a rose(didn't get his way entirely).

Not to forget, his Mom has a Bahu, but that means he cannot marry anybody his tied to the marriage for the Mom's happiness. Because that's the next thing we all will be waiting for now, is Gopi going to leave after the Kinjal Dhawal marriage, what is going to happen when Kokila says to Aham Gopi is not leaving the MM.

but isn't that his problem and nothing to concern with Gopi??? so why is he taking out the frustration he is having with his mom's decision on a third party...
he hasn't done anything for gopi, so why demean her... she is already being abused by people she is caring for... she is not caring for ahem and she is also there on her own sufferance... not like she is very happy being there..

well we basically can't argue for or against a person... Gopi too frustrates me... if i were to get a husband like Ahem and am in Gopi's situation... my silent message would be like "go to hell" and i won't bother with him or his family... my standard answer would be "i don't know, how am i supposed to when u asked me not to interfere"....

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

It's what he does as an occupation, I think you have got be cynical and stubborn to succeed in big business, to run a large company I mean. Aham is having trouble leaving that cynicism at the office, remember the 13/12/10 episode (Candles and Flowers) the sarcasm why cover your head you have crossed your limits already "she wants something" what is it? to stay in MM.

Though Gopi took back the vows he has had to do Janmashtami with her, buy her jewellery at Ketki's insistance, dance dandiya with her, declare love to her with a rose(didn't get his way entirely).

Not to forget, his Mom has a Bahu, but that means he cannot marry anybody his tied to the marriage for the Mom's happiness. Because that's the next thing we all will be waiting for now, is Gopi going to leave after the Kinjal Dhawal marriage, what is going to happen when Kokila says to Aham Gopi is not leaving the MM.

Originally posted by: upasana.diya

but isn't that his problem and nothing to concern with Gopi??? so why is he taking out the frustration he is having with his mom's decision on a third party...
he hasn't done anything for gopi, so why demean her... she is already being abused by people she is caring for... she is not caring for ahem and she is also there on her own sufferance... not like she is very happy being there..

well we basically can't argue for or against a person... Gopi too frustrates me... if i were to get a husband like Ahem and am in Gopi's situation... my silent message would be like "go to hell" and i won't bother with him or his family... my standard answer would be "i don't know, how am i supposed to when u asked me not to interfere"....

Well the post become very serious in the couple of hours I was gone. Will have to come back later to make sense of what people are saying.

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

I agree with you on that one, his frustrated with how his marriage life has turned out, it was his and Kokila's decision, it's not Gopi to blame BUT HOLD ON ISN'T GOPI TO BLAME TOO? He tried to break it off with Gopi (the letter to say he didn't love her, was it in Kinjal's hand or Aham's hand, that Gopi couldn't read because she's illiterate), on Gopi's "mendhi" night Kinjal revealed to her, her brother's love for Anita, on "their engagement" exchanging of rings (when Gopi reached to place the ring on Aham's finger, he offered no encouragement that he cares for her or smile nothing, he did not look at her at all, then Aham jerked his hand away from her causing the ring to fall down, Anita returned the ring to Gopi, then the second time of asking he didn't extend his hand to Gopi at all to put the ring, she waited for a while before Kokila lifted his hand for Gopi to place the ring, the whole time again Aham didn't look at Gopi he look above Gopi's head at Anita). I kind of feel for Anita.

So all three (Aham, Kokila and Gopi) are to blame for the GoHam relationship, perhaps Gopi thought in her kind hearted way she could win him over by following Baa's instructions and whoever else's advice.

I think in today's Aham's conversation with Parag is quite telling, I don't think he thinks much about emotions but is more practical in his approach to everything. Also the reason he does well at the office could be this reason too. Also what's frustrating about SNS (one of the things😆) as it's reported from Gopi's perspective (from a young girl's perspective) and we don't get to see the thoughts of Aham. We see Rashi and Gopi's thoughts only, so we don't know what Aham is fighting, has he started to care for Gopi and his hiding that fact or he steadfast ignoring her.

there is mistake on Gopi's part too... but she was told Ahem loved her by Rashi, whom she still trusts blindly, though she knows some lies that were told to her by Rashi...

but, i can't see how Gopi, an oppressed being, can do anything to stop the wedding... what did Ahem and Kinjal expect her to do😕? go to her mami and say, i can't marry him or just disappear from earth altogether? her mami would have skinned her alive....😕

Ahem being the apple of his mother's eye had more say in his marriage than Gopi ever had with anyone.... even Jitu bhai couldn't have helped her once her mami had her mind setup😔

Gopi wasn't even asked if she was okay with the alliance even by Koki?😲 Kokiji just noticed her, liked her and gave her the shagun... (someone find a brick and i'll break my own head)

from start till now Gopi never got to say what was in her heart.... i don't know what kind of people her parents were... but she never said anything to anyone and no one even bothered to ask her opinion and she was never encouraged to have an opinion... so i don't see how we can blame her for anything...😭

Originally posted by: lovtv

Well the post become very serious in the couple of hours I was gone. Will have to come back later to make sense of what people are saying.

Kaaki, we are never serious serious... just a bit serious... but never severe... right guys😉

Okay the long script is getting too long, i am just cutting and pasting bits.😉