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When Juliet dumped Romeo
How do men cope with a failed relationship when they're the ones jilted?
If men are from Mars and women from Venus, the exes probably exist on Uranus! It's the generation of ubersexual men — attractive, dynamic and compelling. And being confident, masculine and stylish, do they also accept a failed relationship, especially if they were the one's on the receiving end? Err...apparently not.
If men are from Mars and women from Venus, the exes probably exist on Uranus! It's the generation of ubersexual men — attractive, dynamic and compelling. And being confident, masculine and stylish, do they also accept a failed relationship, especially if they were the one's on the receiving end? Err...apparently not.
While Bollywood stars like Saif Ali Khan and Aamir Khan have moved on in life after a failed marriage, there are others like 'Omkara' star Viveik Oberoi who's still nursing a bruised heart. Viveik has admitted that he's now pretty wary of entering a new relationship: "I am not ready for a commitment. I am concentrating all my time and energy on acting. It's is an extension of who I am," he says.
Like Viveik, most men seem to find escape into work an effective antidote to heartbreak. "Most men can't deal with failure. They suppress their emotions and don't know how to deal with it. The best way to overcome it is by distracting yourself. Most of us like to divert ourselves, like taking up a new sport or hobby," says TV actor Samir Soni.
Explains psychiatrist Anjali Chhabria, "Men can't cope with broken relationships; they succumb to it. They'd rather push it behind and not talk about it. Some get immersed in work, others take to alcohol. This leads to commitment phobia in future relationships."
Chhabria adds that it is important for men to first accept facts. "You have to go through the pain and hurt first. But in order to overcome it, you can concentrate on positive things in life."
TV actor Anuj Saxena admits, "Work soothes men. They don't like to talk about things, but they can get sentimental when they want to. And they like their space."
The best way to deal with the woman in your life dumping you — according to Askmen.com — is to not to let it happen in the first place. Their advice? "Always leave her first. Otherwise, you may live to regret it for the rest of your life!"
Mending a broken male heart
Take up tennis or squash lessons
Vent your spleen on a blog
Try scuba diving or bungee jumping
Start flirting (a massive ego boost)
Indulge yourself — go shopping
Take up tennis or squash lessons
Vent your spleen on a blog
Try scuba diving or bungee jumping
Start flirting (a massive ego boost)
Indulge yourself — go shopping
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