Justification for Paro

I am a silent member on the forum, but I have to say I love this drama!

I do not think that you are old fashioned! I, too, have been watching this show silently. Started watching an Indian soap after such a long time... Gosh, I hope it's worth it.😆

I do agree with most of the points you have brought forward. I do not question Paro's insane, sometimes ridiculous, behavior towards Rudra and the family. Either intentionally or unintentionally, the CV's are doing a very good job with Paro's character, at this point. I don't think her acting the way she does has anything to do with her being from a village and the way she was brought up. In fact, the CV's have shown her to be a very strong character in that sense. She always stands up for what she believes, even if it means going against Rudra. I think her actions are derived from her circumstances. A girl who lost everything, had no reason to live just concentrated on the hate she had for the man who destroyed her world. The hate gave her a reason to live. A way for her to cope with the hell she went through. Once the hate is gone, her emotions changed to guilt for him. Then, when she found a link to past that connects her to him, she feels they are destined to be together. I don't see love or affection between Paro and Rudra at this point. I see a psychologically unstable girl who is trying to hold on to Rudra because she feels a sense of security around him. When I saw her smiling because the family members were welcoming her, I thought she was happy because the family is accepting her. Period! She didn't seem happy because they were accepting her as Rudra's wife. As for Rudra, he is a whole new ball game. Lol! I am not angry with him either. I completely understand him acting out the way he did. He's got mama issues. The worst kind of issues a man can carry around. 😆 If I were him, I probably would have done the same to Paro, without being drunk of course. But then again, that's just me!😆

Originally posted by: anishaumer

I am a silent member on the forum, but I have to say I love this drama!

since todays episode has aired, many have hated on paro for being too 'submissive' or 'dormant' whilst a man forcibly married her.

However I have a couple of justifications on behalf of paro which I feel is the reason as to why she did not object.

1. the main fact is, Paro wanted to marry rudra, granted she did not want to marry him in this manner but she still did, she had placed him in her heart and a part of her destiny, again granted she does not romantically love him yet but nevertheless cares and respects him.

2. many members are saying 'why doesn't Paro feel remorse or guilty with the fact that Rudra got suspended from the BSD' - honestly when she first found out she did and you can tell especially on Mondays episode. However obviously her attention diverted to the drunken and deeply hurt man who was in front of her. Its quite difficult to feel remorseful/guilty about another subject when right in front of you the man you have placed quite dearly in your heart is in such a condition in front of you.

3. people then said that 'Paro should have not have been submissive when Rudra picked her up and took her in to his room and should have fought back' - one this your forgetting is that Paro was brought in a small town village where girls are taught that your husband is a form of God and it is your fundamental duty as a wife to care for them. Understandably many feminists and girls of today think that this is a very dormant approach but when your brought to the notion that your life starts with your husband and ends with him, no matter what his treatment is towards you, a wifes first instinct is to make sure he is not hurt. Again understandably people which claim this to be incredibly old fashion and backward but it still exists in todays day and age.

So when paro sees her HUSBAND drink himself into an oblivion her first instinct is to make him stop because she knows that will further damage him so she does the dutiful thing and brings him milk to sober him up. Again when he says to her if you drink the milk and I will stop, obviously shes gonna do what ever she can to make him stop because she doesn't want him to drink himself in to an oblivion.

Is that being a dormant? one can question.

4. people then stated 'why Paro suddenly got happy when she was being welcomed in to her house' - no matter what the circumstance was for the actual wedding to occur, the truth of the matter is that its done now and she is lawfully married to Rudra, So when she sees the kindness from other family members to welcome her happily she ultimately feeds of, of that happiness to. Was she happy that she got married to Rudra in this manner...No. But what Paro ultimately did was she took a bad situation and saw some light and that was that no matter what Rudras behaviour towards her will be she will be accepted by some family members and trust me when going in to a marriage there is nothing nicer when family members are accepting towards you. therefore a bit light on this incredibly dark tunnel.

These are a couple if justifications on my behalf to Paro! I know many members will think I am be incredibly old fashion and lenient towards the girl but its just my opinions and remember we all have them!

Feminists in particular will not be very happy with this post but I am very much open to debate as long as it is respectful and calm lol