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Disclaimer: I am going to keep this as neutral and as emotionless possible so forgive me if I hurt your feelings unintentionally. It is my opinion based on what happened in the past week. Mods can close this if they feel I am stepping out of line.
Edited: I am not leaving this place just so you know. anything related to that is just my example of how i feel.
This is different from my happy-go-lucky topics that I usually make and the only reason why it is not that is because Im extremely disappointed by our members here. Since we are a big family this message apply to all of us.
This past week has been the most negative weeks on the forum. I tried to keep it light as much as I could but I ended up finding myself looking for solace elsewhere than here. The main reason I even came here was to get away from the hectic, run-down life I had for over a month ago and I loved it. even now i love being here but the recent turn of events and attitude of my family here has really left me disappointed and disheartened. Due to that I'm starting to think we are just like many other forums on IF and the curse that IF has been following on every forum is starting to come true here as well. I was hoping that curse would break with our RBO family.
So I am making a post to request all of you guys as a favor, as a friend, as a family member, and if anyone of you have care for me or even love or like me a bit then I kindly requests you few things. I am listing them all here.
1. First things first: this is a Public forum. Public means that anything we write or discuss is read by all. Nothing is hidden hence the word Public. I noticed few things that I think are the sole reasons to all the gossips, "news", negativity and etc. We cannot discuss the personal life of any actors. Period! Be it assumptions or anything! (I am the biggest culprit on that and I will request all my friends to stop too just like I am going to now). Second we cannot just bash actors, be it anything. What we see is what we get, it gives us no right to bash someone like that because then we are no better than the next person who has no motive in life than to bash and what not.
2. I get that emotions are the one thing we cannot control because after all we are human beings but I have a dear request and that is please DO NOT, I mean DO NOT just act upon it all the time. Think logically before you write something here. Think it through before making any post, thread, anything. Language is such a thing that once we speak it we can't take it back, be it positive or negative. I request you all to use logic before saying anything in regards to actors, articles or anything.
3. This week was hell week for us all. I get that all the news we are getting are just making it even worse for all of us and being a psychology student understands the emotions that most of us are going through but that doesn't mean we should just through brain in the bin the first opportunity we get? All of us have been believing a bunch of crap (in my opinion) and discussing upon it time to time and that too publicly. while it is ok to discuss the show but it is not ok to discuss something that is only "news" or gossip because it creates more hype and conflicts that people start to believe in baseless facts. Take the recent article for example. I went through it and I saw many posts of people reacting on the news, a news that is gossip, that we forgot the first three rules about such articles. (You guys should watch or at least read about Shattered Glass, which is a movie based on journalism and news writing) So I'll ask you all 3 questions based on that:
a. When we do a research, I'm assuming many of us have done it, what is the first thing we are asked to look for in order to support our research?
b. What is the definition of Gossip? What is it made out of? How does it start? What should we do to avoid it?
c. Once we hear Gossip, what is the first thing we should do? Ignore it or believe it and spread it?
Well I have the answers to those questions but I thought it would be best if another IF member would answer them for me so that my post is not biased.
Shalini (rbo_d_best) answers: Thanks a bunch hun!🤗
a. Collect Facts ...Gather evidences .... And then develop your research based on it !
b. Gossip - Some unknown unreliable sources spreading rumours ... Something that spreads by word of mouth ..... Something that misses evidences ...... And also our human mind that easily believes something that we fear the most or that we dont want to believe !!!!!!
c. Turn away from it .. Dont believe it .. Be Sensible and Logical .. Rather than getting carried away !
With that said let's move to the 4th thing.
4. Please if you don't like the show based on the recent development and want to bash the actors or PH or whatever then do it via PM because we get carried away and in end we end up hurting others around here. I do my analysis Via PM because I know some don't like it, be it a minority or majority, I respect their wishes plus some of it is just plain old my wishes and assumptions so hence I avoid it. We attack eachother based on our emotions and we hurt our own family. So Please I request you that if you or we don't have anything nice to say about the subject then please avoid it and ignore it. I ignore many posts and don't bother looking into it.
lastly before I leave. I want to say one thing: I used to be very active in some places but I'm not due to some people disliking me or or my post so accepting their wishes I moved out and made my visits less frequent. But this whole week there came a point where I wanted to seriously leave IF again (2nd time) and move out of this place but then I thought logically that it happens to all of us so decided to stay put and make people see reasons.
When an outsider comes to our forum, they see the first page and if the first page is filled with thread with heavy discussion on all the things I mentioned in negative way, the image our family is taken upon as negative too. so please here my plea and don't believe in things you see or hear because at the end of the day they are going to cause conflicts and what not.
This is not an attack to anything but a Plea to you all as a family member. Don't make me leave this place again, although i won't but it sure is compelling.
Thank you.
No intentions to hurt anyone. Mods can close it if they feel appropriate.
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