Sid,
Good post...I understand ur feelings... actually, u r right...I also had the same view when I saw the engagement episode... but didnt get a chance to write it down then. when I got back, we got all these ShaNak scenes, so I forgot, LOL...
My view on the whole 'love' thing- Whether or not the person you love loves u back, and/or accepts your love, openly admits it, you have to stay true to your feelings. That's just the way it is... or else, nothing will make sense in life.
We do not have the right to insist that the person we love should reciprocate our feelings. The best we can do is hope that they do... one should pursue of course, especially where there is a hint that the other person feels the same way but is hesitant for whatever reason. But we cannot demand their love, and if they do not love us back, we cannot then get angry and transfer our feelings to someone else. Because then we will be hurting not just our hearts, but another unsuspecting person's heart as well... which is just plain wrong.
Khanak loving Shaan or telling him her feelings is immaterial (for this discussion)... Shaan loves her, he knows he cannot love anyone else so much. so for him to even accept that he will marry Natasha and fulfil his role as a husband is, to say the least, disappointing. Shows that he is not as mature as we expect him to be.
Now, coming to the promo, it won't act out that way. Not yet. I do think we might get a 'decision-at-the-mandap' scene, but not now. That will be at the end of 6 months, when ShaNak are so in love, and Taashu appears from nowhere and Agarwal creates confusion, and ShaNak separate and Shaan is about to marry Taashu and then bla bla bla... typical TV soap style...
What this promo hints at is that Khanak is probably delaying expressing her feelings to Shaan. And it will be Shaan who will get it out of her...