[QUOTE=sageflower7
I'm sorry Aish, but I don't blame Sanam, because I myself wouldn't rat out my sister to save myself. Especially since she was given the worse end of the stick in life and ended up fending for herself by stealing.
Sanam was kidnapped. By Razia Bi. She fought to come back to him and failed multiple times. She almost died being choked, being submerged in water, being overdosed.
Sanam is all about giving people chances and forgiving them. She gave Aahil many chances too didn't she?
All she is asking him is for a chance to explain what happened , which he is not granting her.
(Okay she appears as though not trying hard enough, but that's the writers' fault😆)
Why are we forgetting that she didn't run away from the wedding?
Seher did that.
I believe it is Seher's responsibility to explain herself to Aahil and apologize herself.
It's not Sanam's responsibility to explain to Aahil. But Seher's.
This issue is between Seher and Aahil. WHy should Sanam be punished for it?
I had a notion yesterday when she felt bad looking at her sister's desolation. I thought for a moment, that she was contemplating a confession.
Rehan won't punish her if she confesses, in fact he would love her more for it IMO.
I have maintained that Seher must be held accountable for her actions. I felt disappointment that Rehan didn't make her do it; that Rehan too joined the band wagon of keeping secrets from Aahil.
Friends have told me to let go of this notion, because in serials, "Yeh hota hai" things just slide away.
Doing things in secret is Tanveer's forte, not Sanam-Seher-Rehan's. They should've had everything bang out in the open in front of Aahil, instead of hiding.
But if things were done logically , then QH would have ended a long time ago.😆
Coming to Aahil...
Yes, he fell hard for her, took a long time to do it. But to his defense he really tried to make up for it when he perceived Sanam(Seher) as aloof.
You can't blame someone for being less than sharp. So, he didn't recognize that the woman before him wasn't his wife. Even Tanveer was fooled.
I absolutely get why he was so devastated. He pleaded with Sanam (Seher) to let go of their troubled past, and grant him a fresh start. He proposed to her, admitted awkwardly before her on not understanding women well. And she continued to rebuff his advances, which hurt him terribly.
Poor ego must've hurt badly. And then announcing before all that he loved her so much and she was his soulmate. He was so happy... (poor sod) even Rehan felt his happiness infectious.
Then the sky fell on his head and he saw himself married to a stranger. Imagine how devastating that is.
Then she appears, expecting him to be forgiving.
Remember sometime back, when Sanam went against his wishes and investigated about his Father's death? After a tantrum he remade the dream house he broke in rage?
She apologized, and he forgave her so quickly that she was shocked. She insisted to make it up to him properly. This is many times over that limit.
If I fault Aahil at all it is for two things:
one: For not giving Sanam a chance to explain
two: For allowing Ammi to force Sanam2 on to him as the preferred wife. For not making a stand on his own.
This became long...
IN short SaHil are in this state because Seher doesn't have the guts to go and apologize to Aahil herself.
Edit: I forgot Sanam2...
I truly thought she came thinking she had a fresh start and a chance at a happy life. If she meant bad since the start she wouldn't have tried to be nice and helped Sanam and Seher at all.
Because she was on the losing end, she is fighting to keep her right there. After all Aahil did announce that she is his official Begum, all endorsed by Begum Sahiba herself?
Her methods are wrong of course. Because she tried endearing herself to AahilJi, but he was having none of it. And having to watch his eyelocks with Sanam must be difficult.
I didn't see this earlier so couldn't reply, sorry dear...
Anyways, I think I made it quite clear in the forum as to how much Seher and now even Rehan somewhat is to be blamed for the continued discord between Sahil...
But my point was it is unfair to blame Ahil totally while all the sympathy is being bestowed on Sanam for what is happening with them.
I clearly said in my post that I am just going to talk about Sanam and Ahil and their actions with regards to their status quo right now...not others though I did touch up on others...
And I'm not forgetting Seher's role in all this at all...but when talking about leaving him at the alter I'm talking from Ahil's point of view...for him
Sanam left him so his actions are based on that...his actions are based on what has been painted out for him by everyone,,,,and ALSO by Sanam...while Sanam has the advantage of having the complete picture...
I'm simply saying that while yes Ahil is to be fully blamed for publicly announcing Sanam2 as his wife and thus putting all three of them in a polygamous situation, Sanam is more to be blamed for the
continuation of this for so long...
And yes I
do blame Sanam for not telling AHil about the twin, because she knows Ahil very well and she can easily make him just accept Seher with all the "warts" and "boils" so to speak including her stint as his flighty wife for a week...
For me now it comes off as if she just don't want to let Ahil know about the swap because she does not want her to come off in a bad light and so just expects Ahil to forgive 'Sanam' for leaving him at the wedding
without an explanation ever...
It can happen since Ahil loves Sanam, but the trust would have to be built slowly and this slowly is where Sanam is to be blamed...the easier and faster route with damage control is there but she is choosing the long route...
While Sanam's magnanimity towards family is to be admired, she is not being this magnanimous and loyal to Ahil...I would still accepet her generosity of spirit towards her sister if someone else is not being tricked, fooled and yes even hurt in the process...It all just comes down to fairness in my perspective...
Being good and pure is also about being fair and she is not being fair with Ahil at all...nor is she being fair with Sanam2 either...
Nor is Ahil being fair to Sanam2 or even Sanam either..but then I have not seen anyone overlook his role in all this, we have all been very vocal about him and his faults while Sanam is rarely blamed for anything...Ahil could take a stand and accept Sanam2 and divorce Sanam or the opposite...but here neither Sanam nor Ahil is making a stand...Sanam is still begging him for understanding without an explanation and happy to continue as his servant, while Ahil is happy to let her stay so he won't have to face whether he can let he go or not either...
Edit: As for lazy writing... lazy writing is to be blamed for pretty much every thing...for making Ahil come off as an 'abusive' jerk when he brought Sanam back; for chopping off all the shine from Sanam's character, for making Seher come off as an OTT character totally selfish and still stuck in her teens; for making Sehan selfcentric, for making Faiz a psycho out of nowhere, for making Sanam2 negative...etc...need i say more...
But the point is we can't deny how this lazy writing is making the characters come off less than desirable either...
Edited by SheAish - 10 years ago