yup...Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes
Of course...but I am not refuting the nature of the abandonment...for u and me the abandonment is the same from a third person's POV...but for the people involved it is different as time passes...and rape is a much severe offence than infidelity and abandonment...we cannot even compare the trauma of a rape victim to this...plus as I said...when a woman becomes a mother...she is a mother first..everything else later...once kids come into picture, the entire view towards life changes...so I can break up and forgive the person more easily if only my feelings are involved and get hurt...but if someone hurts the feelings of my kids...they will find themselves in a world of pain...and I don't need to be a mother to understand that...I have seen my mom, so that's enough to know how a mother thinks...so if a mother can forgive the hardships her kids had to face because a wimp turns up at her doorstep with a weak heart and no apology..after 17 years...and she goes with him...it's not even about her lack of self respect...she is a fool...