An insight on Najma

With the whole Imran thing, I don't think Najma is selfish, but I do have doubts on her love for Imran in the sense that she could be mistaking it for love (but I'm still waiting for the whole thing to play out.) In my opinion I think she is holding on to Imran due to her own insecurities. She has physical insecurities (her weight) and emotional ones (daddy issues).

We have seen since the beginning that Najma has always had a problem with her weight. She has always been self conscious about it. On the night of the shooting star she wished that she would lose weight and if she couldn't then for someone to come into her life and love and accept her just the way she is. Imran came into her life and fell in love with her. She felt accepted by him. From what we've seen, no one came into Najma's life after, and three years is a long time for someone to move onto someone else. Maybe no one else liked her for her. I don't think Najma is someone who would want an arranged marriage. At least from what I have been able to tell she has always wanted a love marriage (remember the wish and ishq wala love).

Now to her emotional insecurities which I think play a bigger role. Just like Asad, I think Najma has some major daddy issues. I have seen it from the beginning of the show. She has showed bitterness towards her father and other siblings. When Najma told Dilshaad of how her siblings would come in big cars while her brother would carry her on his shoulders walking her to school, I could sense it from then. I have actually really felt for her because I can understand how she must feel seeing her father with his other family living happily with all the luxuries and their family being complete, while her family is incomplete and and knowing it always will be. Asad still got to spend some time with his father and experience his presence, but Najma never got the chance. She has no idea what a father's love feels like. When Dilshaad came home from the hospital and Rashid came to their house for the first time, we could see how emotional Najma was (I actually had cried during that scene, it was one of my favorites). That has been the only time I have seen an interaction between the two. Asad has interacted with his other siblings and they have showed him never differentiating them. But we have never seen Najma interact with them and I think there's a reason to it. Everytime Najma has come face to face with her sisters she has felt uncomfortable. When the girls were signing up for the fashion show and NIkhat turned to face Najma and smiled and was about to say something, Najma turned around and walked away. Even at Asad's nikkah, we could see Najma hesitantly smiled at her siblings. Somewhere deep inside she has always resented her other siblings. And it's completely understandable and normal for her to feel that way.

All these things bring me to another reason why she holds on to Imran. All her life she has heard people taunting her mother. Telling her how no family would ever marry their children to a family whose father left their mother (the whole 'chori hui aurat'). She has seen and heard insults hurled at her mother even to the point others (Razia and Shirin) cursing her and Asad. It's probably really messed with her head. Najma might feel if she lets go of Imran, no one will want her and maybe people are right (as earlier stated, no one came into her life within the three years after she left him). And she probably has a fear of what everyone has said of coming true. Since her other siblings have a father over their head and no one has ever bothered their family, it will be easy for them to get other proposals and find people to marry just as things always have been easy for them.

I'm actually really enjoying the current track because so many different relationships are being explored and we are finally getting to see the depth of other characters. Many relationships are being tested as well. Brother-Sister, Brother-Brother, and Father-Daughter. I'm really hoping this Imran-Najma track brings light to new relationships and the writers move forward and show the relationship between Najma and Rashid and how it affects it (even though there isn't much of a relationship there) but it is the perfect opportunity. We see how Asad is torn between both sisters, but how about the father. If Najma and Imran wedding happens, will Rashid come to give his daughter blessings and give her away just like he came to Asad's to tie the Sehra on him (for a girl this is probably one of the most important moments of her wedding day, her father putting his hand on her head and giving her away)? I would really like to see something of the sort, maybe Najma expressing her desire for her father to give her away or asking him, him denying her, and then seeing her reaction to it. I have always wanted to see more of Najma and Rashid scenes and their relationship being explored so I'm really hoping for it to happen now. And how Najma will react if she comes to know Asad talked to Ayaan and put Nikhat's happiness before hers (Asad is the only male figure in her life, a brother and a father)?

Thanks! 😊 This is one reason I love this show and story. The writers can do so much with each and every character. And the storyline and every track allows them to. No one is really pushed to the side and just there you know.

She has the right to be selfish but she also has the obligation to make sure everything is alright. Given all that she has faced, she's supposed to be more understanding. So why is there not even an ounce of sympathy? Will you just forget everything? Behave like nothing ever happened?

Yes. She doesn't need to give a thought to her step siblings but even if it was just an acquaintance, the scene keeps playing in the head. Hard to ignore.

Yeah you're right, I was a little upset with her behavior and think she could have and should have handled things differently. It was a little irritating especially because I'm still unsure of her feelings for Imran.

But I can also understand certain things. She doesn't really know these people. Even if they showed sympathy in her eyes, what would happen? She would still go ahead and marry Imran. She'd have to get over it and she would go on about her life. It's human nature. The next day you're going to wake up and do exactly that, go about your day as if nothing happened. Yes, when she sees Nikhat, she might feel bad or embarrassed, and it will be awkward, but after that it's over. She goes the other way and continues her life.

With an acquaintance you still make nice with them and talk to them whenever you see them because you have nothing against them, but these are people she has never said a word to. For all we know though in her eyes, she probably sees them as the reason she never had a father. Of course it's not Ayaan, Nikhat, or Nuzhat's faults, but emotions can cloud better judgements. We don't see anything beyond anger and hurt. For her she might be reminded of her broken family every time she sees them. Remember when Najma first told Zoya the truth about the families, and Zoya questioned why the children didn't meet. Dilshaad came in and said because they are reminded of their broken family. When people are hurt and aching, they take it out on the wrong people sometimes, and this could be the case for Najma. Hence she might feel like she doesn't need to feel bad. I'm not defending her in my post nor am I agreeing with her, I'm just seeing things through her eyes and trying to understand her. It's not about whether she's right or wrong, just an analysis on her character and possibilities of where she could be coming from.

so true...i always wondered why there wasn't any track where Najma will play a role...but now we have it...next up will be Nuzzhat maybe??

Same! Usually when I've watched shows or Indian serials, there's not that many main characters, and they don't go into detail with others. But on this show so far everyone has had some major role. And what I love even more everyone has their skeletons and inner demons. Even Humaira is getting an interesting story, other than the love story with Ayaan, but the stuff with her sickness is starting to come out more as well. I would love for them to do something new with Nuzzhat, I don't want the same old love story though. I'd love to see something different and creative for her. I'm even excited to see Shirins back story (what happened with her and Rashid and so on) which I'm hoping we get soon. And even though I know everyone has had enough with her and hates her lol, I would love to see writers show Tanveer's past (why she became the person she did and how). I'm sure she wasn't always like this when Asad first friended her in childhood.