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rockstarrfn786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#181

Originally posted by: mochhug

Thank god she's home. I'm sorry to hear that she's still under a little depression, but I still feel she'll pull through.

Also sorry about the mix up between her Mama and her mom. My bad. Sucks either way, but I'm glad you cleared that out.

As for her being not responsive, give her time. Ramadan couldn't have come at a better time. From what you're telling me she's very devoted and believes strongly in Allah. So I'm sure that all that praying, all her devotion and participation in Ramadan will help her. She'll find peace. I'm sure of it.

Considering all she's been through, and what might happen when she does finally get in touch with us (I still feel she will, maybe not soon, but she will 😊), we should be prepared and know how to deal with whatever she says. So I guess, now, yeah I would like to know what that doorknob did to someone as sweet and beautiful as Ruksar.

I repeat, you're an amazing friend. I'm sure your presence and help will go a long way in helping her recover fully from all this.

Have faith hun. Thing will work out.

Thank you so much for having so much faith in her and her recovery. I also have full faith in her and that she will recover very soon. I really appreciate your well wishes for Ruksar shes like a sister to me and I care for her deeply. So seeing so many people on IF concerned about her well being it makes me happy to know that you guys are like her second family. Thanks so much for your dua and support.

Shazia

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rockstarrfn786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#182

It's Shazia, as I promised I would update on here about Ruksar and also tell you guys regarding what happened between Ruksar and her ex-fiance.

Before I get into that I just want to give you all a little update on Ruksar's health. She's a little better she is talking a little to me and her parents. But it's just a "hi how are you" and that's all but it's still improvement for her. She is still depressed as of now her dad is trying to get a restraining order from her ex-fiance. He has tried to come visit her and contact her but shes not interested in it right now. But I don't know why but to me she seems like to be softening up to him he keeps calling her and sending her texts and after she reads it or listens to the messages shes always crying then she just curls up in a ball and falls asleep.

Ruksar really did love him a lot she would do anything for him they grew up together went to school together but he moved away high school year and then they meet again in college. During that time period Ruksar got really ahead in life. With the help of her dad she started up a successful business and she was doing really good to support her family. She gained a lot but then he came into her life and then they fell in love and then slowly things just went downhill for her.

They were together for one whole year and then after that problems started to arise. Ruksar should have been smart and left him the first time when she caught him kissing her best friend but you know shes a very forgiving person and doesn't hold grudges against anyone ever for long she forgives people immediately.

After a couple months her business all went downhill and she lost all the money she made and saved in that because of him. She also got falsely arrested because of him because he put illegal drugs into her house but those charges were dropped because she had a really good lawyer but there was no way to prove that he did it. After that when she got out she was almost molested by his friends when she was at college on campus. Thanks to some other of her other friends they were going to meet her to carpool with her so they saved her in time.

After all that slowly the business that she was running successfully her ex took it over with her best friend who he was cheating on her with. When that happened he also started and took all her friends from her, so her friends all abandoned her. That time due to all the stress she also gained a little weight and teased and emotionally abused her about that. Things were bad for her all over the place. An then after many of these incidents then she finally realized he wasn't any good for her and she broke the engagement off with him.

He was like a leech he took all her money and destroyed her personal, social, and business life. That time Ruksar did go into depression and it was so bad that she tried to commit suicide many a times her parents then had to get her admitted. There's always a limit and a point of how much a person can bare and Ruksar had her breaking point when he came back the last time and had a talk with her and that's what led to her depression she did run away from home and we found her 1 week later she was in really bad state. Things were really bad but after 2-3 months she came out of her depression and she was slowly getting better but that time she had a hard time pulling through with many things. That time she wouldn't talk to anyone wouldn't even sit with her family at all. Also that time her grades and everything dropped and it was hard for her to bring her GPA back up. College classes were hard for her and all the accomplishments she made in a span of less than 2 years he destroyed her whole life.

But you know things where bad and she pulled through last time and now hes back again trying to destroy her life all over again. He's a little bas***d I hate him and it's hard to see Ruksar suffering so much because of this I just wish she pulls through this. It's going to be very hard I know because after her accident her mental, physical and emotional state was really weak. And at a vulnerable state like that he abused her even more.

But I want to thank you guys for all your support and concern just pray for her that she gets better soon and that she makes it through this. Your duas all work wonders.

I still don't know when she will be back on IF or if she will be back but I will keep updating about her health if that's what you guys want.

Thanks once again for all your support and concern it truly means a lot to me.

Shazia

Edited by rockstarrfn786 - 12 years ago

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teddyyy

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Posted: 12 years ago

#183

Thank you so much for updating us constantly! Seriously, it's truly appreciated. I'm really glad to hear that she's becoming a bit more responsive towards you guys. Small steps, but she'll get there, she just needs time. Your love and care for her, along with her family is all she needs right now. She's always in my prayers and I'm sure she'll recover soon. It's the holy month of Ramadan, Allah won't disappoint us. If He helped Ruksar through all those troubles, He will be the one to fix things this time as well.

As for her ex, I've never heard of a more low man in my life. I wish he faces the troubles he put dear Ruksar through and only then will he acknowledge how he ruined a girl's life. His deeds will never allow him to be happy in life. His "winning streak" is soon to be over, because Ruksar has the duas of many people, and with such loving friends like you, he won't be able to harm a hair on her head. I'm glad you guys are getting a restraining order against him-ugh he honestly pissed me off so much, I cried.

Ruksar has been through so much and that all proves how strong she is. Shazia you truly are a gem of a friend for helping her through all of this. Thank you so much again and she's always in my prayers (:

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kohli4ever

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Posted: 12 years ago

#184

thanks for the updates! 😊

InshaAllah she'll recover completely very very sooon!

that idiot of a man... 😡.. justice will surely be done with Ruksar!

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Monica

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Posted: 12 years ago

#185

Thanks again for updating us on her health. And yes, I'd still love updates on her progress. Like I said before, I still believe she'll come out of this. And it's not problem hun. Ruksar is such a sweetheart, a talented writer, and from what I'm reading an extremely strong person. I consider myself lucky to know her. (well, kind of).

That guy is truly a bas***d. I would say a whole slew of other profanities, but I know I will get reported and IF will ** them out any how. So I'll just say this. SCREW HIM. I TOTALLY understand why you hate him. That's not a human, or a person. He's a coward, and pathetic excuse of a human being. I'm gonna stop myself, because what I read is really pissing me off.

Aww I can tell she's a sweet person. And the fact that she's so forgiving, is more of a reason for her to be in this world. We need people like her. I stared tearing up with what I read about her past. Poor thing has already been through so much. I genuinely think that this will be her last hurdle. She knows now he's not good for her. I know you see her melt a little and cry after reading his messages, but like you said, she still thought she was engaged to him when she woke up. It's like she's reliving it. I don't blame her. But she needs to be reminded that he's not good for her. That her life was finally getting on track with him gone. She'll see it slowly. She'll pull through. I STRONGLY believe that.

Like you said, she's progressing slowly. It may be slow, but it's progress none the less. Like I said before, Ramadan came at the best time possible. She'll see it. I know she will. And your support and her family's support will help her.

And thanks to you again. She truly is lucky to have a friend (or sister (; ) like you, who cares for her soo much and feels her pain along with her. Please please please keep updating on her health.

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Sana70

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Posted: 12 years ago

#186

Shazia Thanks 4 the updates ! I hate that idiot man 😡 Thank God she is lil. better,she's in my prayers everyday

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Revelio

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Posted: 12 years ago

#187

First of all thanks for giving updates even under so much pressure. And my god! Never in my life did I think all these things could actually happen in real life. I was so shocked to read all of this! Ur right about that man, he's a truly undeserving pig. Is he even a human? I feel so bad for ruksar, for trusting a man like him. My prayers will always be with her and plz keep us updated on her health. I really want her to get back up and slam that cow of a man in the face. Looking forward to hearing from u.

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Dhani

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Posted: 12 years ago

#188

God bless her

she will be fine soon..

I'll pray for her😊

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rockstarrfn786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#189

It's Shazia again.

I am again truly sorry for the late update. Things have been really busy and crazy these past few weeks. Ruksar's ex is just a real pain right now. I mean he just never learns or knows when to give up.

It's so good to see her like this. We went to go take a walk together and she opened up to me about how she was feeling and how she was holding up and everything but I did ask her about this it wasn't just something random out of the blue. She did good she showed me the texts that her ex has been sending her on a daily more say an hourly basis to her. He's just Oh my god a disgusting human being. I mean he has the audacity to go say in the voice mail that they are both made for each other and that he loves her and that it's all her parents plan to just get them separated.

(An this is after Iftaar) After the walk when we came home she was just in her room and her ex got inside to pay her a visit. Let's just say the visit was not a good idea it went bad really bad and he just what he did he went to far. I ended up calling the cops. He was arrested . After that Ruksar did end up having a breakdown and was all over the place. I tried all that I could do but it was hard really hard to pull her together. She just snapped I mean I have never seen this side of her ever before like I was really shocked and surprised. She cried and cried and fought back and struggled against us and due to the mental stress and weakness she fainted. This all happened four days ago.

I would have to say the breakdown and her anger was so uncalled for but after that she's been showing a great deal of improvement. She's doing better. I mean shes interacting with her family more she's getting out of the habit of staying locked up in her room the whole day. I mean shes just getting back to her daily routine slowly.

Yesterday she was talking to her brother that lives in Oregon over FaceTime and her niece and nephew were just so eager to talk to her and see how she was doing and they've been waiting for to get better so they can come down to visit. An she talked to them and its been so long but thanks to those little munchkins she was smiling and laughing in a very very very long time. So it was decided that last night they would come down since it does good for Ruksar and her getting better.

An since this morning she's been smiling and laughing and just her usual self. I've truly missed seeing her like this I mean it's been a while since I have seen her this happy. Looking at her right now I would say that she isn't depressed anymore. She is at the doctors currently for a check up. I hope that brings back even better news. But I can see that slowly we will all have our new and improved Ruksar back who is so much happier then before. I am so happy to see her like this.

I want to thank all of you guys that have been checking back on here with her health and how she's doing. It means so much to me. All your duas and prayers are being answered because she is doing so much better.

If you still want updates on her do let me know. As for when you guys will be hearing from Ruksar then I honestly have no idea when she will be back on IF and if you guys will hear back from her. It's hard to say I mean I did mention it to her recently and she just brushed it off. But I do have a feeling you guys will be hearing from her very soon. I just know it's like my gut feeling.

And mochbug, I am sorry I don't know your name just your username. But I really want to thank you greatly from the bottom of my heart. I have noticed from ever since she got into the accident that you are one of the most consistent person on here commenting about her and in regards to her health and her struggles. I am so happy to know that Ruksar has an amazing wonderful person like you in her life. I am sure she will be happy to hear from you. Thank you so much for all the support and the dua you have sent for Ruksar and all the care and concern that you have for her it means so much to me. There is so much I would like to say to you but I just really can't think that much right now since I am so tired. Thank you though!

Please forgive me for anyone else that has been following updates around for a long time. I will take time out and go through it and send all of you guys my personal thanks and regards. Please do forgive me I really appreciate all of you that have commented and that are following the updates for Ruksar it means a lot and I truly appreciate all your guys prayers and duas so very much!

So if you guys want further updates do let me know. I can also say you will hear back from Ruksar soon its my gut feeling and also just like mochbug predicted.

Shazia

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Monica

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Posted: 12 years ago

#190

I literally teared up reading this. Thank you the personal thanks. And it's my pleasure. I am just so so so so so so so so happy that she's getting back to her regular self, free of her ex and smiling and laughing. I'm so happy right now. Seriously, you have no idea. You just made my week. I knew my feeling couldn't be wrong. She always seemed like a really strong person to me, and even more so after you told me all that she had been through. And now I'm positive, she can take on anything. It really heart warming to see that she's opened up to you, and that she's trying to get on her feet.

As for her coming IF, like I said I think she will too (glad to see my gut feeling is contagious!). But if she doesn't anytime soon, it's ok. Her health and well being, and being able to get back into her routine are way more important. Just really happy, like SO HAPPY. That she's better.

As for her ex's visit. It was good I think. I think she needed that breakdown to realize just how badly he needs to be out of her life. Any normal person would have conscious, and leave the person they've hurt so much alone. But no, this thing is not normal, because he's not even human.

She's so lucky to have you hun, and I'm so so so so happy for her and for you, since you've been there since the get go.

Thanks again for all your constant updates, and if you could keep' em coming that'd be great. I look forward to hearing from Ruksar soon :)

P.S. I'm Monica btw :)

Edited by mochhug - 12 years ago