Discuss about THE SLAP Here! NO New Topics!

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Posted: 12 years ago
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As you guys are aware, we have tons of topics on the same thing. And that is the slap that Asad gave Zoya. So in order to keep all opinions on the same thing, the Dev Team has decided to open one single topic where the slap can be discussed.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I don't watch this show, infact have only seen one episode because I find the Zoya chick to be pretty hot. However I was surfing the net today and saw an episode where this guy slapped Zoya aur bechaari ka khoon bhi nikal diya. 😭

How can he slap? In the times where violence against women is all time high, what kind of message are they conveying to their audiences by men hitting women? Now I don't care what the back-story is but physical violence CANNOT be ever justified regardless of any ifs and buts.

I wished she beat the crap out of that guy right there and then in the hospital, by keeping quit and rolling over was a direction in poor taste.

From the usual saas bahu bullshit, for once I saw a female (a hot one BTW) who was out of her saris and zewars and had this next girl attitude. She wore regular things and acted like regular people. I saw that she had confidence when she spoke and had a good ambassador of who todays girls need to be.

But then the producers push her under the bus and make her feeble and weak just like all others. We are suppose to feel for her sorry ass while admiring the manly strength of the hero. And then you get all praises and kudos for that, but if you decide to speak out all you get is character assasination.

People try to justify why the slap was deserved, how she secretly enjoyed and all that bullshit that really make my shake my head in disbelief. But let me ask you this, what was the need for him to slap that girl? Was it because of his mother? If yes then unless she was physically going and harming the mother I see no need for the "hero" to step in and give the thrashing.

Was she hurting anyone out of malice? Was she going and pulling some ventilator or poisoning her injection? If not then how dare he get involved and call it as defending his mother?

Directors and producers of this show please dont insult our intelligence by coming up with these BS justifications -- I wasn't born yesterday!

The above is copy and paste on my thoughts on this issue and where I stand.
Edited by TheBoss - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Considering the amount of shit that has been occurring in the country, it's only sensible that TV shows are representing women with a source of empowerment. Portraying stuff like this is ludicrous. The show should be portraying women as strong individuals, not as a doormat. That slap was uncalled for. There are numerous women/men who are out there watching the show, acts of such kinds, not only allow men to harbor the feelings of justifying violence against women, but subconsciously it may seed the mentality of women to think that it's normal/acceptable for them to be laid hands on. So many women out there are living a life of such kinds. It's unfortunate. The TV is a source through which these group of people can be enlightened on their rights, though it's highly disappointing as to what sort of message these sort of incidents in daily shows are representing.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I agree. At such a delicate time it is absolutely unnecessary and wrong to show a male protagonist slapping the female lead. I am sick and tired of seeing men in Indian shows committing all sorts of atrocities toward women and then the girls still end up falling for them. Asad preached about his religion and the "right" way to live; yet he slapped a girl? A lot of people are justifying him by saying that "Zoya deserved it," "He slapped her because his mom was in danger and he feels that she is responsible for his mothers condition" and all sorts of other things. But that is not the way the world works. You don't fight fire with fire or take someones eye for an eye. Showing violence against women for the sake of entertainment is never okay. At a time like this the production house should be creating stories or concepts that help people understand that men should treat women with respect and that hitting a woman is never an accepted act.

Personally, I think the whole slapping, cornering and physical tension should be eliminated from shows. One should only be shown slapping or in a fight when a person is in danger or as a means to show how to defend yourself. It should not be okay for men to slap women and should not be okay for females to slap men. The whole physical tension between the main leads of the show is shown through aggressive behavior from the male lead. I am not sure how romantic such an approach would be in real life. It also promotes the idea to young women that they should be submissive and if a guy like Asad is behaving so erotically toward you it is because you have discovered the secret path to their heart. In reality, such things are not true. Erotic behavior does not symbolize feelings of love and should not be promoted to do so either.

Finally, I am disappointed with the way the production house has shown Zoya's response to the slap. By downplaying the slap and having Zoya not confront Asad they are promoting physical violence against women instead of telling their viewers that as a female, if you are slapped by a male you should stand up for yourself. I really do beg television producers to give women more esteem and give them sufficient roles that show case the strength and power of women. Furthermore, instead of enforcing stereotypes television shows should become a medium through which people are educated of how to treat women.

RIya
Edited by princessonline - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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If there are already older thrreds open from before than why not discuss on there...no offence but what's the need of opening this thread?
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: shaz2009

If there are already older thrreds open from before than why not discuss on there...no offence but what's the need of opening this thread?


No offence intended either but I am confused why this is being done...and then the threat of dire consequences? Most of us on the threads that have discussed the slapping opened by one of us who did not support it engaged in a civil discussion - I am lost. I saw multiple pro-slap threads that have not been shut down...very confused by all this...sorry for speaking my mind here.
Edited by Laila2009 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Laila2009


No offence intended either but I am confused why this is being done...and then the threat of dire consequences? Most of us on the threads that have discussed the slapping opened by one of us who did not support it engaged in a civil discussion - I am lost. I saw multiple pro-slap threads that have not been shut down...very confused by all this...sorry for speaking my mind here.


I agree with this. Now, we've lost the thread (pun intended šŸ˜‰) of our discussions. I was really disappointed by this decision.

BUT! Hey, I feel strongly enough about this to cut and paste my responses onto this thread.

I feel we should keep this conversation going. What say folks?! Please paste your thoughts from the threads that have been shut down. Let's keep at it...it's important.
Edited by narangi314 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: narangi314

I agree with this. Now, we've lost the thread (pun intended šŸ˜‰) of our discussions. I was really disappointed by this decision.

BUT! Hey, I feel strongly enough about this to cut and paste my responses onto this thread.

I feel we should keep this conversation going. What say folks?! Please paste your thoughts from the threads that have been shut down. Let's keep at it...it's important.


Sure, and we are never the ugly people here, so I do not know why we should be at risk of the dire consequences. So let us go for it...šŸ˜‰
Laila2009 thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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One of the biggest issues i have is how this slap has been justified as valid because a life was put in danger. Anger is justified but simply slapping someone is wrong no matter what. the person who did this was a gun man and his uncle - go after them. Don't take it out on the person who is there. The justification of the slap really bothers me. This is simply not done. Foul language, yelling etc - fine..this was uncalled for.

The goal of the writers is to build a romance...how do you build a romance on a abusive encounter - an ugly slap? The writers have simply had Asad feel bad and then hand her some coffee Sad...it just bothers me to see how this incident is going to be romanticized.

A real man never slaps a woman...if he cannot get his point across without violence, then he has a real issue and by making Asad slap Zoya, his character has been ruined...probably way beyond repair for me and that has ruined this show for me, my sister and friends...we might continue to watch...but not with the same enjoyment.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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The Feb. 4th episode of QH was regressive TV at it's worst. It sought to normalize an act of violence. What's even more obscene is that it tried to portray violence as part of romance between a man and woman. Such portrayals only perpetuate the cycle of abuse against women: abuse-apology-forgiveness-abuse-apology-forgiveness...ad nauseum, ad infinitum. This is dysfunctional and unhealthy and socially irresponsible. It is NOT entertainment.

As for "justification" - there was none. In my book, the only time violence can be justified is when it is in self-defense. That does not apply here. As for this act being "natural", there too I will strongly disagree. Yes, we are all subject to our baser natures. But what makes us civilized is our ability to control ourselves. What distinguishes us from other species is our ability to make ethical decisions - to know right from wrong.

All that we saw on Feb. 4th was brutish act of violence. It was not provoked, it was not justified, and it was certainly not romantic.

Why am I making such a big deal of this?

Because I believe that what we see on TV and in movies and other media, has social consequences. There is enough scholarly research that connects societal attitudes (including violence) to media. Therefore, it is important to me to be an informed viewer, to be an informed consumer of entertainment. Often we are told by the entertainment industry, that "we make such movies, or such shows because that what sells, that's what you buy." Well, I don't want to buy this. So I make my voice heard. I want to make sure that makers know there are people who feel strongly that the abuse of women cannot be the subject of entertainment or cannot be taken lightly and irresponsibly.

Sure I might be in the minority now, but I am confident, that one day that will not be the case.

Mira
Edited by narangi314 - 12 years ago

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