Can I just Say Something? - Page 2

Zoya is like a breath of fresh air when compared to other female leads.I honestly find it really annoying when female leads stammer for every goddamn thing and act all coy and submissive. She is messy and a little interfering. But am glad she is not perfect. Am desperately hoping they dont make her a docile sacrificing bahu in future😊

I looove ZOYA...each n every single bit related to her...

I get that some don't like her messy ways, and the way she's always stepping on Dilshad-Asad-and Najma's toes. But honestly, that just makes her more endearing. She doesn't act like a proper guest, she acts like they are really her family. There's an apnapan to her behaviour that I'm sure is the reason why Dilshad and Najma like her so much.
Even Asad, after having yelled at her for stupid reasons, feels bad right away. Because they all know Zoya is very well-intentioned and quite harmless.

I love her character, and I find her behaviour completely acceptable. I know its unfair to label people as taking part in regressive thinking. But when you think about it, why does her lack of guest-like etiquette bother us so? Its almost unheard of for a girl to behave that way. And its because of the some of the questionable values and norms we've had hammered into our heads by society (and sometimes our own families). This type of thinking its a consequence of paternalism, whether we admit it or not.

I struggle with on a day to day basis as well. Every time guests come over, I go into a giant dilemma about how much time I have to spend sitting with them, and if I for some reason, am not in the room when my mom starts to make chai (cuz thats supposed to be my job right?), then I feel horrible. I start to think that people will think bad of my parents if I don't behave perfectly.
And you know what? Its about damn time this type of self-doubt and holding oneself to unreasonable and quite unnecessary standards stop.

Cudos to Zoya and Creatives⭐️

Originally posted by: Charishma

I love her character, and I find her behaviour completely acceptable. I know its unfair to label people as taking part in regressive thinking. But when you think about it, why does her lack of guest-like etiquette bother us so? Its almost unheard of for a girl to behave that way. And its because of the some of the questionable values and norms we've had hammered into our heads by society (and sometimes our own families). This type of thinking its a consequence of paternalism, whether we admit it or not.



Cudos to Zoya and Creatives⭐️

Charishma,

I can say with complete certainty that her lack of guest-like behavior does not bother me because she is a girl. It bothers me because if I were hosting her I wouldn't like an outsider overstepping my privacy or dirtying my house, be it a guy or a girl. I'm stating my dislike of this aspect of her (I do absolutely love her over all) despite not being the chai-making kinda girl. I'm not a rebel but I hardly follow the chai banao, serve the guests and sit on the side with your mouth glued shut rule of the conservative, paternalistic desi society. I'm a little offended that you are classifying those of us who don't like messy guests (not messy "girls") as regressive.

I love the fact that she is confident, bubbly, loud, always laughing and I love the fact that she had the guts to stand up for herself during her wedding. I dislike her disregard of cleanliness in a guests house and her constant interference such as always going into Asad's room (and again, not because he's a guy but because he's her host and he is entitled to privacy if he desires it).

For example, flirts like Ayaan roam Indian roads dime a dozen. Its almost considered a norm for guys to have a roving eye. A regressive minded person would find his flirtatious ways acceptable coz 'that's how guys are/larka hai chalta hai'. But you know what...I absolutely dislike Ayaan, if not despise him, for his flirtatious ways despite how typical they are.

Every person have right to decide whether he/she like or dislike the character. So you're no one to question someone's maturity on that basis. Just because you like her character, doesnt necessarily mean that other people have to be fond of same character.

I LOVE Zoya! She is different from other female characters because she seems more real than reel. Zoya isn't goody goody, submissive perfect bahu material and it's refreshing to watch. But let's not forget her heart which is free from ill will towards other.

I adore Zoya. She brings so much LIFE into each episode. She is different and I like it.

@ Charishma ..brilliant post ...you know I always find it surprising that women themselves are so intolerant of a slight deviation from a "perfect woman" prortrayal...