Does Avantika deserve Harish?

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Hibernated

Posted: 12 years ago

Well, looks like every one are waiting for their union. It should just start with Avantu apologising. That's it? Sub khush? I may be the lonely voice. But still, I want it to be heard.

This lady went away from his home without giving him any explanation. She separated him from his son and kept arguing every time, it is she who brought up the kid. (Hello, Harish no way was responsible for that).

She has problems with everything in him. The way he dresses up, the way he talks, his casual way of taking life in leisure ... everything irritates her. . She never hesitates to speak rudely with him, alone or in public.

She can misunderstand anybody. She does not need to give any explanation. She can hurt to any extent. Afterwards one sorry or hug should sort out everything.

Oh! I forgot. She is beautiful. Rich. Dresses well. Why should Harish take her in after these many years. Does she truly deserve him? I know, It's just a soap.

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Sabrina the Witch

@shesherkobita

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

Hello Mahi...🤗

No he doesn't ... He deserves somebody better...but..there is a BUT..

Here's my take... I have seen some couples like that...the woman is rude, belittles the husband constantly...but somewhere there is an INSECURITY in those women where they actually crave the love from the husbands ...they push them to the edge but still expects unconditional love... It's a sadistic attitude in them to push them away...

We can go into a deeper psycho analysis but its only a soap... If it wasn't a soap ...I would say the fact that Avantika's mother died when she was very young left a vacuum in her life along with an insecurity that the loved ones will Leave... They usually marry beneath themselves ( personally I don't believe in conventional STATUS but just for the sake of argument, Harish is beneath her status)...this is to ensure that the husband will never leave her. But the duality is her reminds her constantly that he doesn't dress well, doesn't have money etc.but deep inside she only wants HIS unconditional love, no one else will do. She is extremely insecured...

If Harish understands that insecurity then he cannot leave her...he loves her despite of all these complaints...he is a confidant man...if he was an insecured guy himself he would've left this crazy woman a long time ago. But he isn't...he knows if he leaves Avantika , she will break into million pieces...thats why he never left...they belong with each other..it works for them..

I don't know what CVs think of them or whether they think that deeply but I would like to think that's what's going on with them...same with Adi.. He needs Pnakhuri like he needs the air to breathe... Only difference is he is NOT rude to her..he has somehow learnt to overcome that deficiency...maybe because unlike Avantika both his parents a are alive and he feels more secured than his mom.

Sorry about the rambling... Love your post.

Edited by shesherkobita - 12 years ago

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-sakshi-

@-sakshi-

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

Keep aside the ego of avantika... she is a nice person

she is rich , dresses up well but than she fell for him & married him as she weighed love over money & status .. the only & main problem was that she didn't trust him & walked out of his life

she needed a man like harish - loving caring n strong

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cherrypansy

@cherrypansy

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

Ver well said in all the above posts...

I would say that most times compatibility doesn't make the marriage success...it is the trust ! Even If harish was matched anantika's expectations...but lack of trust had failed it.

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Sameer Mariwalla

@sameersaagar

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Posted: 12 years ago

Harish & Avantika now share one thing; that everything should be best for Pankhuri & Adi; This could be a new chapter in their relationship

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645435

Hibernated

Posted: 12 years ago

I totally agree with you ...

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@hateme2

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

Friend, I agree with you 200%.

I have shouted much with exactly those points.

Lakin gareeb ka baat kon sunta hai.

Her exotic make up, her stylish ear ring, her designer saree etc. etc.

Once I posted, 20 years down the drain. Check the link below,

http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=3384862

She does not deserve Harish.

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ankur281

@ankur281

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

No way...I even wonder how Harish fell in love with her and vice versa..😕

Anyway you should have opened a poll on it...I wanted to see how many would have voted for "Yes"...😉

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807116

Hibernated

Posted: 12 years ago

Thanks for all your replies.

@Sabrina,

I understand the insecurities of Avantu (missing Mom at an young age). But her siblings have gone through the same. They don't express their insecurities in such an irrational way. Anuj respects Sheela, despite she has failed in some class (I don't fully understand Hindi).😕 I have come across people like Avantika who marry people below their level. But their behaviour is exactly opposite in public. Despite fighting badly when they are alone, they want to portray themselves as the luckiest to others. They keep praising their bfs/husbands unnecessarily (may be another way of venting their insecurities out). I did not see that in Avantika.

An understanding husband who loves despite all the short comings ? A hypothetical concept of human beings. Bottom of the heart, everyone are selfish. Mother in law feels bad, if her son does not support her. She has some expectation over the love she gave him all these years. We want our kid to achieve something and we take pride in it. We want to seek prize for our upbringing. This world is capitalist and love is also a commodity. Better not to expect anything unconditional.😉

@Sakshi, piyualka

You reminded me of Silsila dialogue. 😃Rekha : Amit mera pyaar hain. Jaya : Amit mera vishwas hain. Finally, Jaya's trust won her Amit. Harish-Avantu relation does not have a firm foundation. It lacks trust.

@Sameersagar,

Avantika had a change of heart only now. All these days she felt, Pankhuri leaving Adi serves best for Adi. 😡So concern for Adi-Pankhu was not a common interest between them.

@Ankur,

Poll? Yeah, thought of it, but left it (I felt majority will say, "she still loves, so she deserves" and will break my heart. )🤣

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My gussa is getting thanda after she made kofta yesterday. I am having a change of heart now!

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karnati200

@karnati200

Beginner

Posted: 12 years ago

#10

Originally posted by: usrfan

Well, looks like every one are waiting for their union. It should just start with Avantu apologising. That's it? Sub khush? I may be the lonely voice. But still, I want it to be heard.
This lady went away from his home without giving him any explanation. She separated him from his son and kept arguing every time, it is she who brought up the kid. (Hello, Harish no way was responsible for that).

She has problems with everything in him. The way he dresses up, the way he talks, his casual way of taking life in leisure ... everything irritates her. . She never hesitates to speak rudely with him, alone or in public.

She can misunderstand anybody. She does not need to give any explanation. She can hurt to any extent. Afterwards one sorry or hug should sort out everything.

Oh! I forgot. She is beautiful. Rich. Dresses well. Why should Harish take her in after these many years. Does she truly deserve him? I know, It's just a soap.

Of course she deserve more than him.Any girl will not tolerate thinking her husband and her sister has illegal relation. That is Harish responsibility to clarify when Avanthika Questions him He kept quit and he let his family go out and let Avanthika suffer all these years. If they think telling to everybody is problem at least they should have told to Avanthika. Even in this Prethi also at fault. She is not ready to tell to her family what Kilash did to her but she is ready to see her sister family falling apart.

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