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Originally posted by: JanakiRaghunath
This is not about whether domestic life or career is greater. I know people today have a very low opinion of women who stay at home, and that's so wrong on so many levels. How is that unhealthy? If caring about one's domestic life is unhealthy, then so is caring about one's career.😕 It all depends on one's interest, and I'm not at all against Paridhi seeking a career but I AM against her turning into a lying and selfish person to get what she wants. That's called obsession. And obsession is not healthy for anything. Personally, I think Paridhi has lived a way too pampered life, and after marriage she should learn that it comes with responsibility. She cannot be as independent as before, because BOTH a wife and husband should invest in their new relationship while giving up some of their freedom. In my opinion, both Paridhi and Prateik have failed in their duties so far. Prateik is not a good husband to Paridhi, and neither is Paridhi a good husband to Prateik. People claim she has adjusted to their lifestyle. How has she adjusted? She always whines and complains about doing even simple housework like making coffee, though it is Vidhi and Aarti who take on the more complicated jobs. She's not even grateful. They know she doesn't like housework so they've adjusted by giving her less and taking on more themselves, but still she becomes so bitter when she's asked to make a simple cup of coffee. Women like that annoy me so much. Once they get some education they turn their nose up on housework. Even men aren't like that. They actually appreciate women both in the kitchen and it the office.Don't get me wrong, I also dislike Prateik for being such a wimpy and unsupportive husband, but I am not going to sing Paridhi's praises or weep with her because she's suffering. I used to feel sorry for her but now soon she's going to suffer the consequences of her own actions. I will never claim that she was justified in lying to everyone and faking such a horrible nightmare, because she was not. Paridhi acted utmost selfish in yesterday and today's episodes. Prateik also is annoying me greatly😡. I sympathize with Paridhi's frustration that he cares more for his Bhaiyya and Bhabhi's happiness than hers, which any wife would feel, but I do not sympathize with her for being "forced" to lie to everyone. Why? Doesn't she have a mouth? If Prateik is not talking to his parents, can't she? If she can't, she has no right to get angry at Prateik either as both of them are pretty wimpy and like to take the easy way out of difficult situations. Sorry, but I hate both of them right now.
there's nothing wrong w/ being a stay at home mom. i would expect vidhi and arti if paridhi is working to take on the more complicated jobs bc balancing the 2 is hard. paridhi may complain about chores but she never refused to do it. shes adjusting yet her behavior has gotten worse bc she cannot work at all. when she was secretly working she never showed any disrespect to the in laws. given time she would have stopped complaining. and paridhi shouldnt talk to the in laws bc pratik is the one who promised her that he would deal w/ the work situation. yet her own husband her biggest confidant fails to support her. w/o his support she is nothing in the house in scindiya view. if she takes it upon herself to go talk to the in laws; i gurantee that pratik the coward will bow down to his parents wishes and she will be back to square one. so y bother when u already know the answer. papa scindya will refuse to even discuss this with her instead it has to be her husband bc he is sexist liek. that
furthermore, while being domesticated in itself is not a bad thing, the fact of the matter is u need an eductaion to survive bc god forbid soemthing happens to ur husband, there is no gurantee that ur extended family will take care of u. even if they do, if u wish to do something that they do not agree w/, then bc they are ur providers u will have to listen to them. u r always in their debt. where w/ a husband he will see u as an equal decision maker despite him providing, that is not the situation w/ extended family no matter how close u may be. the whole point of the feminist movement was to be free from a mans stranglehold and that was thru education. furthermore, if ur whole life is about just ur kids and ur husband, then what happens when ur kids get married and have their own lives. its not good to always be around ur husband bc u start suffocating eachother. furthermore, while paridhi may work and do household responsibilities, how come nobody expect the men to do the same? why can they too not help out in the household. i noe pratik does but i dont think he is working. if arti was working, i doubt anybody would ask yash to help out in the household
