Personal question on zabardasti ka ehsaan

How do you handle people who do stuff for you which you may not want?

I recently had my aunt talk to a friend of hers about a job I wanted at a particular organization.

I didn't want her interference. When I said no to her, and refused to interview with her friend,

she got upset and shot me off emails about my being ungrateful and then wrote more stuff "I pity your parents, your employer, your neighbour, your colleagues, and your friends (that is if you have any). You are rude, disrespectful and ungrateful."

and I just would like a really tart reply to that statement. 😆

Thank you in advance!

You told her about your preference of getting tphe job on your own, she should understand

and support you instead of being nasty. Ideally she should have asked you before talking to her

Friend about the job. I firmly beleive in older relatives showing some respect for he feelings of

Young mature adults. You can firmly express your opinion and make her understand with out

Spoiling relationships.i deal with my nephews thiscway. They are like my own children.but

When they do not want my interference I back off. I deal with them like they are my friends.

Every body has a mind anfd they want to develop in their own way. That is what makes them creative

And strong.

I'm not sure what to suggest. I remember having a similar problem a while back, though in my case, it was more the person not taking no for an answer rather than them calling me rude for not accepting the favour. Basically, my housemate and I wanted to go to a particular town for a Christmas break, and the owners of the company I work for happened to have a hotel branch in that area. When I went to put in a leave request and explained that I wanted to go on holiday to that place, one of my bosses offered for us to stay at their hotel free of charge. However, I declined, as their hotel was in a small village near the major city we wanted to visit, and we would have had to get a train every morning in order to get into the city... whereas the hotel we had picked out was slap bang in the middle of the city centre. Even after explaining my reasoning, though, my boss didn't understand why I didn't want his hugely generous offer. In order to skirt 'round this and avoid awkwardness, my housemate said that she would book the hotel we had picked out and I could tell my boss that I couldn't accept his offer as my housemate had misunderstood my message to her and already booked the hotel 😆 Not the most honest/forthright way to go about things, but it saved all of us from needless issues.

I suppose being the kind of person I am, my response to your situation would be to apologise for any misunderstandings caused and say that I did not mean to cause offence and merely wished to get the job on my own merit rather than through any kind of sifarish. But that's me - I apologise for everything 😆 So I'm afraid I can't really help with devising the tart reply you require! I suppose you could word an apology in firmer terms... something like, "I really appreciate your offer of help, and didn't mean to come across as rude, but as a matter of personal preference, I would rather apply for this job on my own without external help."