Was JW Over the Top with Tarun?

I was wondering about Jai's interaction with Tarun since he got back from london and found out about the OCD. Was Jai's action correct with Tarun his friend. Would we knwoing a friends ailment treat that friend so harshly.

I know it's harsh but I am agreeing with Jai. He needed to cut Tarun out of Bani's life. Seeing in from jai's perspective

1. While in India he always saw Bani and Tarun in a huddle and he felt they were keeping something from him

2. While the ONS reveal happened Tarun who was his friend completely cut him off at his knees even saying that he would block any steps that Bani took towards Jai. I don't know but if my friends husband cheated on her but I knew that my friend was pregnant, the incident happenedn when they were almost divorced, the husband was a good man, the husband agrees what he did was wrong and cannot remember how it all happened and if I saw my friend trying to work things out I would not stop her but support her in any way possible if she thought it was the right thing for her. I would not say that my friend is not capable of making decisions and that's why I am making them and her staying away from her husband is the right thing. Here is was even worse becaue tarun was JW's BF and he saw what JW when through during the divorce alimony thing and he knows JW's is a good man. I lost all respect for Tarun here. Even adi supported bani but he did not butcher JW.

3. JW in london found out that Tarun had a dangerous decease but he has been cured

4. In the tapes he heard Tarun confess that he loved Bani and would do anything for her and even be violent

5. JW comes back and the first thing he hears is that Tarun calledd bani 30-40 times - classic obssesive behavior

6. Tarun walks in and goes directly to Bani and when Jai asks him to leave politely at first he completly ignores JW and keeps on trying to reach bani. Tarun at that point could have easily told about sahil and what he found to JW

7. Next day in the garden JW finds bani scared out of her wits and asking Tarun to leave her alone and Tarun keeps on going at Bani scaring her more and more

From JW's perspective he has a pregnant wife who should not be stresssed and a friend who has a potentially dangeorus disease who can fatally harm his family. i think his actions were justified.

I see a lot of posts saying that Taruns love is pure and he has not done anything to harm JB or get close to Bani and it is all pure.

- Why was he involving Bani in the sahil murder case.

- Why was he calling Bani out at all odd hours and dragging her to solve the case. There are tons of other people who could have been involved.

- Why ask Bani to keep things from JW when is was not necessary at all.

All tarun was doing was to be in proximity to bani and keep her involved with him in some shape. If Tarun's feelings for bani was so pure he would have kept away from her. But he did not. I have no sympathy for him.

Pure love with no expectation is what Bani had for Pushkar. As soon as she found out about Pia and Pushkar she moved away. Tarun was not a good friend to JW and he is not a good friend to Bani. No friend asks another to keep something major from their spouse and sneak about behind the spouses back.

The actions JW took was to nip Taruns obssession in the bud. He never said anything about the Tarun Bani friendship before he found out about tarun's OCD. But now he needs to protect his family,

What does everyone think?

That is true actually 😊 he never did say anything before.Especially since that banis pregnant now she needs to take care of her.

However you have to feel sorry for the tarun he has not done anything wrong and only wants to protect bani.If jai does think tarun might harm bani surely he should have been more careful than get agressive.

Originally posted by: Ektas_Angel

That is true actually 😊 he never did say anything before.Especially since that banis pregnant now she needs to take care of her.

However you have to feel sorry for the tarun he has not done anything wrong and only wants to protect bani.If jai does think tarun might harm bani surely he should have been more careful than get agressive.

Nina,

If he wants to protect bani why not go tell JW everything. Why tell Bani and stress her out more when she is pregnant and it's not good for her. JW doing jassosi to save bani is a lot better than bani doing jassosi while pregnant. Anythign going wrong she could loose the baby. I don't see how tarun is protecting Bani.

meghna

Originally posted by: m3ghna

Nina,

If he wants to protect bani why not go tell JW everything. Why tell Bani and stress her out more when she is pregnant and it's not good for her. JW doing jassosi to save bani is a lot better than bani doing jassosi while pregnant. Anythign going wrong she could loose the baby. I don't see how tarun is protecting Bani.

meghna

I dont get that either😕and he tells her to come by herself. Jw is doing the right thing from his side. I just felt abit sorry for tarun because i dont think he actually means harm and that jw is gonna provoke him into doing something stupid

Megs,
Great minds think alike. 😆.I feel that Jai was right in is decision to keep Tarun away from Bani after TS's disease came to his knowledge but I was waiting for this step to be taken prior to the discovery of Tarun's illness.One must know where to draw the line in every relationship.Even if one conclude that Tarun's love for Bani was pure as a dew drop still he crossed over the demarcation that differentiates friendship from marriage. There were many a times where Tarun behaved as if Bani was his life partner and not Jai's. He questioned her stepsand actions that even Jai never did.

He really made me angry over his non efforts to bring JB togther which Munna very rightly pointed out after giving him the verbal warning first time.

Then his taking Bani into confidence and not others really killed the cat.Why not trust Jigs, if not Munna.She along with Aditya had every right to know the reason of their sons death and what abouyt Rano. Sahil was her legal spouse. There are a number of times he acted like Bani's husband and Jai as the third party to their relationship.

Why was he so angry at Jai's return to WM and with what right did he questioned Bani regarding the same?
During the RR wedding he dragged Bani to a corner to discuss Sahil' case and when Jai's barged in, TS threw glances at him like Munna broke their(T-B) intimate moment together. There were many incidents where Tarun crossed the line and I will attribute some fault to Bani too as she should have informed him that he is/was Jai's friend first and then hers. That he should not overlook the fact that Jai is the thread that connects them

And what took the cake was Tarun's indifferent behavior towards JB's marriage revival even after being very well aware that Bani is pregnant with Jai's child and thats what she wanted

Originally posted by: m3ghna

I was wondering about Jai's interaction with Tarun since he got back from london and found out about the OCD. Was Jai's action correct with Tarun his friend. Would we knwoing a friends ailment treat that friend so harshly.

I know it's harsh but I am agreeing with Jai. He needed to cut Tarun out of Bani's life. Seeing in from jai's perspective

1. While in India he always saw Bani and Tarun in a huddle and he felt they were keeping something from him

2. While the ONS reveal happened Tarun who was his friend completely cut him off at his knees even saying that he would block any steps that Bani took towards Jai. I don't know but if my friends husband cheated on her but I knew that my friend was pregnant, the incident happenedn when they were almost divorced, the husband was a good man, the husband agrees what he did was wrong and cannot remember how it all happened and if I saw my friend trying to work things out I would not stop her but support her in any way possible if she thought it was the right thing for her. I would not say that my friend is not capable of making decisions and that's why I am making them and her staying away from her husband is the right thing. Here is was even worse becaue tarun was JW's BF and he saw what JW when through during the divorce alimony thing and he knows JW's is a good man. I lost all respect for Tarun here. Even adi supported bani but he did not butcher JW.

3. JW in london found out that Tarun had a dangerous decease but he has been cured

4. In the tapes he heard Tarun confess that he loved Bani and would do anything for her and even be violent

5. JW comes back and the first thing he hears is that Tarun calledd bani 30-40 times - classic obssesive behavior

6. Tarun walks in and goes directly to Bani and when Jai asks him to leave politely at first he completly ignores JW and keeps on trying to reach bani. Tarun at that point could have easily told about sahil and what he found to JW

7. Next day in the garden JW finds bani scared out of her wits and asking Tarun to leave her alone and Tarun keeps on going at Bani scaring her more and more

From JW's perspective he has a pregnant wife who should not be stresssed and a friend who has a potentially dangeorus disease who can fatally harm his family. i think his actions were justified.

I see a lot of posts saying that Taruns love is pure and he has not done anything to harm JB or get close to Bani and it is all pure.

- Why was he involving Bani in the sahil murder case.

- Why was he calling Bani out at all odd hours and dragging her to solve the case. There are tons of other people who could have been involved.

- Why ask Bani to keep things from JW when is was not necessary at all.

All tarun was doing was to be in proximity to bani and keep her involved with him in some shape. If Tarun's feelings for bani was so pure he would have kept away from her. But he did not. I have no sympathy for him.

Pure love with no expectation is what Bani had for Pushkar. As soon as she found out about Pia and Pushkar she moved away. Tarun was not a good friend to JW and he is not a good friend to Bani. No friend asks another to keep something major from their spouse and sneak about behind the spouses back.

The actions JW took was to nip Taruns obssession in the bud. He never said anything about the Tarun Bani friendship before he found out about tarun's OCD. But now he needs to protect his family,

What does everyone think?

well said .........

I agree with u😊

Megs,

Jai was definitely not wrong in keeping Tarun away from Bani. He should that as it's his responsibility but the thing that irked me was the way it was dealt. Throwing him out by using securities was very cruel to me. I was hurt not only by Jai but also Bani. I mean both of them could have dealt with the issue in a better way. I am not saying Tarun's love is so pure and stuff but Tarun could have been dealt better. For me, Jai's and the GFN WM inhabitants' act was very inconsiderate.

But there are some points; I would love to give a different explanation.

Tarun not standing by Jai during the divorce issue was kind of okay with me. I thought it was natural reaction from a person who was highly disappointed by his friend. Firstly, Tarun knows how much Jai loves Bani and verse-visa. I think Tarun respects Jai a lot. But when Jai did such a thing, he disappointed everyone. The disappointment, the anger and the disbelieve that Jai could do such a thing lead to the probably inconsiderate reactions from Tarun and for that matter massi. Their reaction only goes to show how much highly they were thinking of Jai. In the anger and disappointment, Tarun was reacting rather impulsively. Added to that, his soft-corner for Bani increased his anger and hence, blinding him and his friendship with Jai completely. The things he said to Jai and the reason he wanted Bani to be away from Jai was because he did not want Bani to get hurt again and again. Again his soft-corner for Bani came in and made him act impulsively. But he never tried to make Bani change her decisions. Like when Bani brought Jai back home, he only questioned her but never pushed her against Jai. Even I would question my friend if I think she is hurting herself even more by getting involved with the person who has hurt her. For me that was a natural reaction.

As of involving Bani in Sahil's case, I think Tarun would not have called Jai due to the souring relationship between them. He would not call Jigs either as Jigs would have created a scene against Rano and Bani which Tarun would not want obviously. He is not really close to Rano and seems like he does not really think that Adi can solve issues. That leaves us only with Bani. But I have no explanation on why he wanted Jai to not know the truth and that is the only part that leads me to think that probably his love is not really pure.

I can understand Jai's stand and he was kind of threatened by Tarun's OCD history. But hey, he was cured. So far he has not been abusive or threatening to Bani or Jai. So why deal with him so badly just because he had a history of OCD and he could possibly becoming one again.

So far I think Tarun has not intentionally tried to separate JB nor has initiated them against each other. I would like to wait a bit more and then judge whether Tarun is malicious or not. But I would like to add that his love is not so pure either.

My two cents

Cheers,

Meena

Originally posted by: mahimn

Megs,
Great minds think alike. 😆.I feel that Jai was right in is decision to keep Tarun away from Bani after TS's disease came to his knowledge but I was waiting for this step to be taken prior to the discovery of Tarun's illness.One must know where to draw the line in every relationship.Even if one conclude that Tarun's love for Bani was pure as a dew drop still he crossed over the demarcation that differentiates friendship from marriage. There were many a times where Tarun behaved as if Bani was his life partner and not Jai's. He questioned her stepsand actions that even Jai never did.

He really made me angry over his non efforts to bring JB togther which Munna very rightly pointed out after giving him the verbal warning first time.

Then his taking Bani into confidence and not others really killed the cat.Why not trust Jigs, if not Munna.She along with Aditya had every right to know the reason of their sons death and what abouyt Rano. Sahil was her legal spouse. There are a number of times he acted like Bani's husband and Jai as the third party to their relationship.

Why was he so angry at Jai's return to WM and with what right did he questioned Bani regarding the same?
During the RR wedding he dragged Bani to a corner to discuss Sahil' case and when Jai's barged in, TS threw glances at him like Munna broke their(T-B) intimate moment together. There were many incidents where Tarun crossed the line and I will attribute some fault to Bani too as she should have informed him that he is/was Jai's friend first and then hers. That he should not overlook the fact that Jai is the thread that connects them

And what took the cake was Tarun's indifferent behavior towards JB's marriage revival even after being very well aware that Bani is pregnant with Jai's child and thats what she wanted

I tottaly agree with you
Jai's behaviour towards tarun is quite right.
Tarun already crossed his limit many times.
he told bani that she soen't tell anything to Jai.wat is the meeaning of that>
After knowing that how much Jai loves Bani and verse-visa
then he has feeling for bani.its desgusting.
Also he questioned Bani many times as a husband like manner,Why?Tarun is as disgusting as Pia.
he used to Jai's best friend.he is behaving like a lover no friendship here. he destroyedthe meaning of freindship.
he can't become a good friend then how can he be value of love.
he is just obecessed with Bani and his obsession came out when he confessed is feeling feeling to Bani infront of every one and wo bhi in a shouting way .its just proved that he is obcessed with Bani.
i have no sympathy for tarun

I feel Jai was right in doing what he did.After knowing about Tarun's disorder and his confession of love for Bani,any husband ,who loves and cares for his wife,would have done exactly what Jai did.So,I don't think Jai was wrong there.and if Tarun's love is really pure,he should just stay away from them.