A tale of two relationships - Page 3

Originally posted by: Storybrooke

I can see the benefits in both a love marriage or arranged marriage, but for me, an arranged marriage has to have something like this, where you have a year or two (or more, but does that happen in arranged marriages?😆) where you simply get to know the other person and have an idea at least of who you're marrying. And you get to consent to it; it's not forced. If it's an arranged marriage where you've never seen the future spouse before or have never spoken to them before...I don't understand marriages of that kind.


In this story, I also prefer Rudra and Laila's relationship. I think it's because Rudra has already grown from his experiences. He's clear in what he wants, and hence I feel their relationship is more reality based.

@NB

"But I understand this is the fate of so many young girls back home. I hope their child like belief in such marriages is upheld and their husbands give them the love & respect they deserve."


Very aptly said and I can't tell u how scary it is to get married to a virtual stranger as I had an arrange marriage where I never spoke to my husband before marriage... I pray to Allah as well that all the girls who have an arrange marriage should get the love and respect of not only their husband's but of their in-laws as well bcz in an arrange marriage the in-laws play a bigger role than the husband.

I believe all said and done it's fate first and foremost, then it depends on the individuals. Life is a gamble as it is.

In my family & relatives minus one person every marriage has been arranged.
The Islamic way is the groom and bride see each other, speak (there has to be a third person in the room), after that if it's a yes or no from either side, the families take it forward n so on. Also prior to taking the proposal forward , before the meeting, check is done about their background, history, characteristics etc.

It's a one off meeting. But there are many pple who don't even allow their children to see the prospective bride or groom at all.

I guess it depends on how you approach the marriage. Even as a single person life deals out a lot of blows. The only thing that is constant in ones life is change. As part of married couple, the tragedies n turbulence's may be double, but then again so is the happiness, peace, satisfaction.

In Paro's case their family not knowing ANYTHING at all about the groom is quite SCARY. Although, many of us liked the sweet romance that was shown, how do we know that after the wedding it wont b revealed that Varun was involved in the smuggling too.

Whereas in Rudra Laila case it is a physical r/ship, no emotion involved...