Marriage is for self or for whole family?

After professional oriented debates it's time for relationships, as per interests.

Marriage is an institution, a life long bonding a commitment for life, before going further deep basic question.

Gender Unbiased:

Do you consider marriage is bond between individuals or its something where family members play a important role? In other words Marriage is bond of individuals or family?

Elaboration : If u love someone so much that even if, NOT as per family's expectation will go for it or will keep family in mind before getting deep into relation which might end up in marriage.

Marriage by the definition per se is a bond between two people to be there for each other in the good times and bad. It's a promise to another individual to grow old together with.

But in India it certainly goes beyond the union of two people. It essentially is a union of two families. When you marry you don't just marry one person, you marry a whole new family. It's been this way for years and I like it this way.

When i get married, i would want to have good in-laws. That's not too much to ask for, is it? I would also want to have frinedly relationship with the spouses family, after all its going to be my 2nd family!

I see nothing wrong in marrying the family. The only problem may arise when the family of the spouse is not very understanding and also meddle in my relationship with my husband. That's the only drawback that i see!

Preeti

[quote=Preeti]I see nothing wrong in marrying the family. The only problem may arise when the family of the spouse is not very understanding and also meddle in my relationship with my husband. That's the only drawback that i see![/quote]

Erm...Preeti.. unfortunately that is one of the MAJOR drawbacks of marrying the family 😊 It is extremely fortunate for those people of getting good husbands and in-laws as a package, but i wonder if the probability of such situation is high and is spread amoung average people....

Good in-laws can prove to be positive force in one's life. But I am personally not quite-so-comfortable with marrying the whole family. Handling one husband can prove to be so difficult 😕 How about whole family 😕 ...and my parents.. where they go?? 😕 EEEEEE! I think marriage is a H-U-G-E responsibility.. and i shiver at the thought of one. May be i get comfortable with all this with age🤔 or may be not... i think its better for this teen to step out of this debate 😳 I'm quite clueless at this 😕

Originally posted by: raj5000

After professional oriented debates it's time for relationships, as per interests.

Marriage is an institution, a life long bonding a commitment for life, before going further deep basic question.

Do you consider marriage is bond between individuals or its something where family members play a important role? In other words Marriage is bond of individuals or family?

Elaboration : If u love someone so much that even if, NOT as per family's expectation will go for it or will keep family in mind before getting deep into relation which might end up / (LEAD TO sounds better? 😆) in marriage.

Marriage is a bond that needs good amount of work as it is.😆 No one (especially an Indian 😳) should underestimate something that opinions, interference and influence of family members could bring to a perfectly lovely relationship.
If the bond is strong, it will last and in fact get stronger after enduring adversities 👏👏. However, to begin with, it is always a good dream to wish to have families supporting the marriage 😃 .
Negative family matters 🤢 could turn your perfect life into a melodramatic bollywood movie you loved to ridicule.. 😆😆

May God Bless! 😃

Marriage itself is a huge step well handling ur hubby is enough and to top it all the in-laws just like to meddle in your life. 😕 It's very rare for anyone to have broad minded in-laws who would just let you and your hubby solve out differences, instead they would love to gossip and tell their relatives of how actually you fight.

As long as you have a good hubby who supports you in everything you do it will be a blessing. 😉

Marriage is between two families.Both the families need to understand each other and should give time to adjust with the new atmosphere.Husband and wife can adjust fast and be in love more if both the families support them.In India marriage is for increasing relationship between the two families along with the husband and wife.So it is not about only girl and boy it's about families .Life will be more easy and full of love ,care if not only bride groom but also families are supporting.

I generally do not write in this section but somehow after reading this topic I can't stop myself writing in here.

Anshuman ji my point of view is :

Yes Marriage is priamrily the bond between two people to stick to each other in thick & thin and take care of each other. According to me that's the necessity to have a healthy and long lasting relationship. But human being is suppopsed to be social so in the end we need all kind of realtions to survive/enjoy the life. Therefore I think it's a bond between two families too. As each individual have love for their own blood related family and if we respect that and kind of share our love with other family too, that makes life easier for all of us. Believe it or not there are times when because of family the relationship between couple becomes tensed....Just my POV.

I believe real meaning of marriage is love, trust and someone you wish to grow old with and then look back at life with no regrets.

This topic reminded me of movie where Salman khan was happily married to karishma with kids and despite that he had an affair with Sushmita. when karishma came to know about this she said that she will not suffer for what her husband is doing. If he want to spend his life with other women and call that a home then that other women should take care of his other responsibilities which as a wife she used to take care of..."his dog, kids and mother". very nicely she said in hindi "agar ghar basana hi hain to uske bacho ka khayal rakho, uske kutte ka bhi khayal rakoo aur maa ka bhi"... So in a nutshell...family is part and parcle of marriage... it's what we used to joke in college..buy one get one free 😉

Meaning of true marriage is love, trust, respect, good communication and willingness to work in making and improving of the relationship between two individuals. Both sides of Family ofcourse plays part in it. But I think the ILs and families can let them know that they love and care for the couple. They are there as their support line but will leave them alone to enjoy their marriage and make them strong. I think first 5 yrs of marriage life is extremely important for the couple.

With all cultures marriages are between two families besides the individuals. Someone wrote b4 that we are social animals and can't survive on just two of us. It is a two way game. If u want to be left alone in your marriage than u lose the support (Positive) at the same time u dont have Negative involvement of IL either. But if boundries are set from the get go it can be a beatiful relationships between families.

Having mutual respect between the newly married couple and both set of ILs it could be a positive thing if one works at it. But for anything else to happen the marriage between the individuals have to be strong with proper understandings of each other and their values-wishes.

Marriage is WIP IMHO. 😳

rightly or wrongly, most people imo focus on negative aspects in a relationship. one bad word wipes out 10 good deeds. given that, when we have various cast of characters introduced as families into marriages, there are more opportunities for screw-ups. that's why i think it is best to keep the definition of family narrow and dump the various tayas, chachas, mamas, etc. and new-found relatives who somehow manage to show up for free festivities and create problems. Of course, we cant be forgetting their female counterparts now, can we? they are the real players, no? 😉 😆