hey everyone! I am back with another analytical post...this time its on Buaji... me and my mother happen to debate about buaji whenever she comes on screen, cos my mum finds her annoying while I try to look beyond her taunts and try understanding where she is coming from. so thought to put my thoughts in this forum and see how many agree with me...lol
Buaji!! yes we all hate her taunting our innocent rajji...but lets put the fact that we really like rajji aside and try to understand where buaji is coming from and understand her reasons behind disliking rajji and putting her through hell. see if we can justify her actions.
to begin with i feel buaji is very protective about angad and soham...maybe even more than her own daughter - she cares more about them than she does for her own daughter. reason - i think the fact that angad and soham's parents are both dead - and their father was her real brother. I think she feels a responsibility towards them that she has to fulfil and will go to any extent to fulfil it. its that feeling of "ye mere bhai ki santaan hai, agar ye khush na rahe toh main mar kar apne bhai ko kya jawaab dungi" and its this that makes her so protective about them. With regards to angad, she is mentally satisfied that he is happily settled but with soham that's not the case - she is still angry over the fact that her youngest nephew was deceived by the family of his lover. notice she always addresses soham as "mera bacha, mera puttar" - she's feels a motherly love for him and no mother would accept her son to live in a loveless marriage and wouldn't be nice towards the girl after knowing that her family had deceived soham in getting married to her. yes rajji is not at fault, but her family is and the way buaji and soham punish the family is through rajji. I am not saying its right, I am just trying to point out that u can't really blame buaji for disliking rajji
buaji once was talking to kukki at night saying that rajji has proven she's a good daughter in law - and buaji has no doubt that rajji like simran will keep the house and family binded together - but what buaji rightly pointed out was that all this is meaningless if soham isn't accepting rajji. and its true, what is the point of rajji proving to be the ideal daughter in law if soham isn't accepting her as his wife, I mean her relation as a daughter in law is only valid through soham and he's the one that isn't ready to accept her.
when rajji told buaji that rano died, buaji again said a wise thing which i felt for a second made rajji think but then went straight out the other ear, and that was that buaji fails to understand why whenever soham is upset or in trouble...why is bani always around him. and she said "mujhe nahi pata is mein acha kiska hai, liken bura toh tera he hai" - and she's right... rajji is the one that's losing in this - she doesn't quite understand simran's advice that she needs to put a stop to bani and soham's meetings - regardless of how genuine their reasons are - their meeting one another, talking to one another, being their for one another through their problems is putting a strain on rajji-soham's relationship as its not allowing soham to get over bani. simran and buaji clearly dislike soham-bani being around one another yet rajji seems unaffected by any of it - I mean how else are they meant to explain to rajji that this closeness between soham and bani isn't good for soham nor for rajji. notice how before the weddings, bani and soham never spoke and now they are so close - bani speaks to soham more openly- she tells him things she doesn't tell rajji... rajji her sister... her best friend. doesn't that speak volumes of how deep soham and bani's relationship has become? and that's not a good sign for rajji.
buaji's decision of wanting soham to re-marry may be because she feels the only way soham can get over bani is when he settles down in life to be precise when he marries someone else - yes he's married to rajji but rajji is bani's sister... buaji thinks the only way soham will move on in life is when he is totally disconnected from bani in any and every possible way but being married to rajji means bani remains connected to his life some way or the other.
Buaji isn't a villain - I actually don't see her as a bad person- she has valid reasons for what she does - I feel somewhere she does feel rajji is a great girl, but just not the right one for soham quite simply becos rajji will be a constant reminder of bani to soham - soham will always remember the deceit he received from bani's family when he sees rajji. and that's going to make him sad and being his bua she doesn't want that - she's just concerned about his happiness - she even said she agrees that rajji isn't at fault and this marriage breaking will not be good for rajji but at the end of the day she has to think about her puttar's happiness - just like desho thought about her bani and jas' happiness. isn't that common? I mean don't we all think about ourselves and our loved ones - not strangers - yes rajji to buaji is a stranger - an outsider, someone who was thrown into soham's life unwillingly and through deception - its quite a bit to digest. put urselves in buaji's position and imagine if the same thing had happened to ur relative, ur brother or cousin - no matter how nice or decent the girl was u just couldn't accept her - becos she'd b a constant reminder of the deceit her family in this case her tayji gave. š” so I think buaji's anger and taunts are to quite an extent justified. she doesn't think bad of rajji and doesn't want bad to happen 2 rajji - at the end of the day she'll be doing rajji a favour through this separation - rajji will be freed from a loveless marriage.