Originally posted by: MannieXO
Bani - In her eyes Sohum and Rajji are married (I'll get back to this later with what I mean by this). Bani is wrong for the way she's getting her younger sister's husband involved in her problems. Bani is a married woman and with the decisions that she's making it seems like she wants her marriage to survive. If she intends on staying married to Parmeet, then why is she spending so much of her time with Sohum, a guy who she clearly knows has so many feelings for her. My opinions of Bani have not changed. Bani is wrong for the way she's taken advantage of Sohum to get her goals accomplished. The post I wrote about Bani being selfish, I'm not taking back anything I said about her; I still think she's selfish and doesn't deserve that much sympathy. Yeah it's sad and wrong what Parmeet did, but it's wrong how she's hiding the truth from her entire family and lying to them.
the mini desho - the less said the better- selfish desho ki selfish mini version... 😆 she doesn't deserve sympathy - esp when it comes to using soham to get her ticket/visa for Canada. she clearly knows soham loves her esp after he confessed that he can't accept rajji when he loves her. if I was in her place i'd stay 10 metres away from the guy, avoid coming before his eyes - becos her being here and talking abt parmeet is a constant reminder to soham that she could have been his. its hard to move on from ur first love if that first love is before ur eyes constantly - sometimes u need that distance to give way to distances between the heart/soul. bani's reasons for hiding the truth from the family are lame - she doesn't learn from her mistakes - yes she's worried abt her father- but tht doesn't mean u lie to evry1... tell every1 else and not ur father... she saw what her lies did b4 - it broke jas-vikas alliance - she should have been honest... what a bad way for her family 2 have found out abt her being thrown out the house?? 👎🏼
Sohum - We all felt sorry for him initially when he got betrayed by Desho and got married to Rajji. We all felt sympathy for him at that time but most of us lost sympathy for him when refused to stop thinking about Bani and kept mistreating Rajji. The way he's manhandled Rajji, that's wrong and he loses some sympathy points from me there. I get he's frustrated being in an unwanted marriage but taking his anger out at Rajji like that is wrong; that's not the way to solve problems. But is Sohum really wrong for refusing to move on? I know in the past I've said things like Sohum should stop thinking about Bani and just move on with his life with Rajji. However, I've changed my opinions about the situation. As I mentioned earlier, in Bani's eyes Sohum and Rajji are married. Not just for Bani but in society's eyes as well Sohum and Rajji are married. But are Sohum and Rajji actually married? No, they're not. The marriage was a betrayal on Desho's part. Sohum took part in the laavan (the phere/ marriage vows) with Bani, or so he thought it was Bani under the veil. Therefore the marriage is invalid since in reality he got married to Rajji instead, but still probably legal since Desho probably found a way to trick Sohum to sign the marriage certificate. Yes Sohum is a bewakoof for not properly making sure he is getting married to Bani, but with the way Desho and her sister-in-law orchestrated the wedding, how is Sohum at fault for this invalid marriage?
Why are we cussing at Sohum for not honouring this marriage? Why should he honour an invalid marriage? How is Sohum wrong for telling Rajji to leave? Yes it'll ruin Rajji's life but I don't think he's wrong. Put yourself in Sohum's situation. Imagine if you got forced to marry someone or got tricked into marrying someone just like how Sohum did. Would it be fair for you to be stuck in that loveless marriage and forced to stay married? Would it really be wrong if you told your spouse to leave you in this situation? I for one would not accept the betrayal that was thrown at Sohum.
Sohum is wrong for the way he's going about with this situation. He has every right to leave this marriage but he's not doing it the right way. Yes he's made it clear to Rajji he doesn't want to be married to her and Rajji unfortunately isn't properly getting the message to her head; if she did then she would have gone home by now. Sohum needs to stop expecting Rajji will go back home on her on, he needs to grow a spine and take care of the situation. If he really doesn't want this marriage then he needs to take the matter to court. He has every right to get this marriage dissolved through an annulment since the marriage was fraud (I think that's the correct term for it, correct me if I'm wrong). Desho made the mistake, she and her family will have to face the consequences and clean up the mess for Rajji if Sohum chooses to annul the marriage. Yes it sucks for Rajji she was at no fault for the marriage happening but why should Sohum be forced to stay married to her and stay miserable?
About Sohum's obsession with Bani- I won't say Sohum is right or wrong for the way he constantly thinks about Bani. You can't stop a person for the way they think. If Sohum wants to spend his whole life only thinking about Bani and stay frozen in the past, not move on in life, then fine that's his choice. I'll still judge him because I'm that judgmental type of person to be frank but still Sohum can go ahead and do that. But Bani being a married woman, it's wrong the way he's interfering in her life. Go ahead and keep Bani in your thoughts but Sohum has no right to be in Bani's life atm.
soham is someone i'll always feel bad for becos he loved bani to an extent which I feel no parmeet could ever love, he was over the moon assuming he was marrying her but sadly it wasn't her whom he married. being in a marriage to a girl who's the sis of the luv of ur life is hard. I don't blame him for not wanting to accept rajji. but that doesn't mean I agree with him slapping rajji. it was wrong- he shud understand tht rajji did what she did to save herself from being kicked out of the house. I missed a few episodes so i'm not aware of whether or not soham knew abt buaji's KC shart? if he was aware then he should have done something abt it i.e. spoke 2 buaji and explained tht he's accepted rajji as his wife. if he wasn't aware of it, I feel someone in his family either rajji or simran should have informed him so he would be able to do something.
I have said this before and will repeat again, for soham, bani comes before everyone else...I feel even if he does fall for rajji eventually, there wil always b a part of him tht loves bani and he'll always put bani before rajji. rajji will always be second best. There is a reason y they say u can never forget ur first love.
Rajji - brace yourself for this one, I will tell you straight up right now my opinions about her have changed. As I mentioned earlier the writers tend to make us feel extra sympathy for the female leads (yes I consider Rajji a female lead atm since she's getting so much screen space and importance) and that's the case for Rajji. Is Rajji really that deserving of all the sympathy we've all been giving her? I don't think so anymore, I may sound harsh but I don't feel sorry for her anymore. Yes it's a shame she's stuck in a loveless marriage (or should I say a one-sided love?) which wasn't her fault at first but what is she doing atm? Lately she's been trying to gain her right over Sohum by constantly calling him and trying to spend time with him outside the house. Whenever I saw her doing that, there was just something about it that really bothered me and annoyed me but I couldn't figure it out at first why I felt that way. But now I know why; I realized it's because Rajji is forcing this marriage on Sohum and that's wrong. Why is she staying married to guy who clearly doesn't love her but loves someone else (and that too her sister Bani!). Isn't it wrong what she's doing? Put yourself in Rajji's situation. Would you do that to a man? I wouldn't. I wouldn't stay married to a guy who wasn't even aware that he was marrying me. I would do that right thing which is to set him free and walk away from the loveless invalid marriage. What's the point of torturing yourself and keeping the other person also unhappy? That's why I don't feel sorry for Rajji anymore. No one is forcing her to stay in this marriage, she's made the choice herself; she's made the choice to constantly hear Bua ji's taunts and get hurt by Sohum.
Now in my previous post I said I see Sohum-Rajji as endgame and I still see that as a possibility. However, Rajji needs to give Sohum space, stop forcing this marriage on him, stop forcing him to accept her as his wife, and just be friends with Sohum and let him slowly fall in love with her (I say slowly because obviously his Bani obsession won't allow him to do that fast).
rajji is caught in the middle of soham-bani's adhura pyar... she knew both loved one another - yes bani too - I feel a part of bani did like soham maybe loved too becos she was crying when he was drunk and telling her to move on. I feel a part of her had wished things were different between the two. but that was then. Bani is someone for whom her mummyji's happiness meant everything. and hence she moved on rather quickly with parmeet - I feel she's learnt to love her husband despite not even spending time with him. she consciously wants to move on from soham in fact ask her now and she has moved on becos she always thinks abt parmeet and not soham. while before marriage she did think abt soham. but that's not the case with soham, hence rajji is stuck in a marriage where her husband doesn't want to move on.
rajji did want to walk out of this loveless marriage initially when she found out the truth - but then she didn't have her families support and by the time she did - she was convinced by simran that she should give her marriage ago and that she is now soham's wife and this fact can't be changed
we all sit here saying, soham should move on from bani, and rajji should walk out of this marriage with soham - but its easy for us to say, imagine if we were living in Punjab, would we really say and do what we are saying now? no, it may be the 21st century but as they say larki kiliye zamaana kabhi nahi badalta - it doesn't change for the girl - even today in many parts of the world, a divorced woman or a woman who's hubby has left her isn't given much respect - she's looked down upon - people don't want to know her or support her - hell her own family turn their backs on her - that's why many women choose to remain in abusive relationships, just hoping that one day their husband will change. rajji is no exception - she's someone who believes in making a home, maintaining respect of her in laws and maayka - she knows if she stays home then people will talk and her family will feel ashamed- we've seen jas and vikas' relationship as an example - they turned down the rishtha becos bani was thrown out of her in laws... a petty reason but a reason good enough for them to break the alliance. my basic point is that rajji would never walk out of this marriage - no girl like rajji would - she's living in a village and is a very family orientated girl...she's not one of those modern independent women that can live alone and don't care wat the society says - she does care hence will remain with soham and now she's fallen for him so will go out of her way 2 be with him.
in conclusion if anyone is to be blamed its desho and her NRI sapna, and hence the punishment is to shoot her... now who's going to do the honours of shooting this desho?😡😆
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