confused about marriage

Hi All,

Please give me your valuable Suggestions. One of my friend is facing lot of confusion regarding marriage.

She is physically challenged. She got polio attack when she was kid. She has problem with one leg. She can walk and she can do her work independently. She is Engineer and working in reputed firm.

She had struggled a lot in her life but still could able to make gud career and she a very nice person.

When it comes to marriage, parents are very specific about caste and they are looking for a normal guy who does not have any physical problems.In her caste it is very difficult to get a educated guy. She is getting some offers guy does not have job and not much educated and every one clearly knows that those guys are coming for money and property.

My friend is very confused now weather she has to marry a normal guy who comes for money or due to some circumstances or a guy who is physically challenged like her.

She is unable to decide and very much confused.

If a normal guy is ready to marry her then is it gud to trust that guy(since we donot know his intention) ?

With out marriage also she can lead her life.

what decision she as to take now ?

Please give your valuable suggestions and please give practical(frank) answers.

I request every one give their opinion about this problem(MT,Klueless and other please post your views).

With Regards

bharathi

Really You are a true friend.......i think in that situation ur friend should take some time .......her parents should not take any action in hurry...becoz its the question of her life.she is a working women and in this world there are so many good men who never thinks about money or anything else.so she should wait for some time....... and if someone is having some health prob like her but he is in good job and he belongs to a good family so her parents should accept him becoz they can understand each other and they can respect each other feeling also.......and if someone who is normal person and he is going to accept her only becoz of money her job so she or her parents should think about it......becoz in marriege we have to understand each others feeling and should respect their feelings......
best of luck for ur friend future...........hope her every dream come true
neha

hi..well this is definately hard..but tell her not to get into marriage quickly and too take time and her make her decision if she wants to have a good marriage...she should not hurry into the decision and meet the man a few times before if he loves her 4 whta she is and she believes so he does she should marry him but only after meeting him many times becoz then she will know how he is...this is my solution hope it helps
sanju 😳

Your friend is normal except it is a challenge for her to walk due to Polio in her childhood, I don't think she should feel less than anyone else, as a matter of fact she may have more than some people (her education, a good job), so first of all let her understand (you are her friend so you can speak to her) that there is nothing wrong with her. Some people can walk, but are too lazy to even walk, they have to sit on electronic riders to take them around. So I cannot emphasize enough that your friend is no less than anyone else.

Now about marriage. Marriage is the bonding of two people, two souls, two families, and most of all two minds. The mind is known to function in an unpredictable manner and so we have to be very careful about the mentality of a person if we want to spend the rest of our lives with them.

I would not dwell too much on this, as it is too long to explain, so if you need more info, PM me. Right now I can tell your friend, 4 things.

She is not a lesser person.
She does not have to consider her inability to walk properly as an agreement to her marriage
She does not have to choose someone who is not working or educated 'just because'.
She does not have to choose someone who is normal, again 'just because'

Tell you friend do not rush into marriage 'just because', let nature take its course and Mr. Right (with a little bit of wrong 😆)will come into her life.

Tell her not to compromise, she will know the right person when she see and speak to him. If parents want her to meet someone, that's fine, just spend some time talking and observing him, you will eventually know. If you see someone and feel attracted to him, again, spend the time to talk and observe and you will know if the person is right for you.

At the moment she is working and can take care of herself, so let her take her time and she will certainly be bless with a life-time companion who is truly worthy of her. I wish you and your friend sincere blessings and hope may God bless you!