Caught red handed

Hello,

I am new here, but I did browse through this place a several times. I just felt like discussing an issue which I am sure was faced by several mothers just like me.

My teenage son seems to be going through his hormonal surge, and I found him red handed masturbating while watching the notorious program "Get Out" which airs in TLC. Not to mention the embarrassment.

Don't get me wrong, I am not into judging him and it was certainly not a plan. We sleep at those times and I just came out for water silently so that I don't wake anyone up, and noticed that the TV was switched on in the sitting room where my suputra was drooling without a pant.

I asked "kya karrahe ho..." and it was chaos. He tried to make excuses and I silently went away. Since then we just don't talk much and he doesn't even look at me. What worries me if it was done some harm; moreover I have an indigenous teenage girl from Manipur in my home, who is the daughter of my friend from the Meetei tribe. She is here to study.

We are Jaat Punjabis and honor for us is a huge thing. I can't just shoo away the girl for what terms we have with their family in our bad times in Manipur.

I know its a small thing, but still I thought I'd read if you have something to say :)

Why would you embarrass him further by asking him kya kar rahe ho? Masturbation is natural, sure he shouldn't have done it out there in the open where anyone could have walked in on him but you could have been a little subtle or funny about it? Poor kid is probably embarrassed to the hilt now. Also, I don't understand the connection between this masturbation episode and the girl in your house. Just because he masturbates does not mean he would molest or rape the girl. You speak as if you have no faith in your son. Is he a sex addict? Has this happened before? If yes, perhaps counseling is in order. I'd say just go talk to him in a calm and neutral tone and ask him to be discreet next time. I'm sure he'd oblige.

There is probably no connection with the girl and my son, rather I'm just being nervous. These days the children are going crazy and one never knows what happens next when you have a pretty girl from Manipur in home with a young boy. I trust my son, but it just came to my mind. It comes to a mothers mind I suppose.

No my son is not at all any sex addict, neither does he have bad records. The sitting room has the TV and that pulled him I suppose; the TLC channels shows some shows late at night with women in skimpy cloth (or no cloth) which boys drool over I guess. But I hope this gives him a lesson.

Masturbation is a natural phenomena? I thought it used to be considered a sin ...

About me asking "Kya karrahe ho...?" ... what else should I have asked half asleep seeing my son bottomless rubbing his penis and drooling over bikini blondes on the so called travel channel late at night? It is not a pleasant sight to see.

Originally posted by: asha_parekh

There is probably no connection with the girl and my son, rather I'm just being nervous. These days the children are going crazy and one never knows what happens next when you have a pretty girl from Manipur in home with a young boy. I trust my son, but it just came to my mind. It comes to a mothers mind I suppose.

No my son is not at all any sex addict, neither does he have bad records. The sitting room has the TV and that pulled him I suppose; the TLC channels shows some shows late at night with women in skimpy cloth (or no cloth) which boys drool over I guess. But I hope this gives him a lesson.

Masturbation is a natural phenomena? I thought it used to be considered a sin ...

About me asking "Kya karrahe ho...?" ... what else should I have asked half asleep seeing my son bottomless rubbing his penis and drooling over bikini blondes on the so called travel channel late at night? It is not a pleasant sight to see.

I know it's natural dear, but so is irresponsible activities by young people.

Originally posted by: asha_parekh

There is probably no connection with the girl and my son, rather I'm just being nervous. These days the children are going crazy and one never knows what happens next when you have a pretty girl from Manipur in home with a young boy. I trust my son, but it just came to my mind. It comes to a mothers mind I suppose.

No my son is not at all any sex addict, neither does he have bad records. The sitting room has the TV and that pulled him I suppose; the TLC channels shows some shows late at night with women in skimpy cloth (or no cloth) which boys drool over I guess. But I hope this gives him a lesson.

Masturbation is a natural phenomena? I thought it used to be considered a sin ...

About me asking "Kya karrahe ho...?" ... what else should I have asked half asleep seeing my son bottomless rubbing his penis and drooling over bikini blondes on the so called travel channel late at night? It is not a pleasant sight to see.

Originally posted by: hit_homerun

Whatever happens , it's unlikely he would do so in the hall again 😆

Good Luck 😊

Originally posted by: McNinja

Sometimes when the feeling is right, you just gotta get in there. Hall or not 😆

Feeling, what feeling, it's all the hormones and they can only be controlled with belans. "Few belans a day, keep your son's tool intact" 😎