What are your views on "Punar Vivaah" meaning"ReMarriage" ?
Marriage is more than just a ritual. When one takes the seven 'pheres' around the sacred fire, he is making seven promises to his partner - to be with her in good health and bad, to stick with her through all situations and to love her emotionally and physically. These vows are being made not only to the partner, but also to god. What is my point? Marriage is not simply a game. It is a lifetime of togetherness and promises. It cannot and should not be disrespected in anyway. Therefore, a 'punar vivah' must only happen when conditions are dire (say, if physical abuse occurs, etc). Because marriage is such a committement, it is necessary that both the husband and wife compromise and learn to live with one another.
Do think Raj is making a wise decision in making Sarita remarry?
No, I don't think Raj is being wise in getting Sarita remarried. As mentioned above, marriage is a sacred ritual. If he wasn't planning on living upto and keeping the promises he made during his pheres with Sarita, he shouldn't have married her in the first place. Also, in many ways, Raj is already in love with Sarita. He, however, is not willing to accept that this is the case and hence, he coins his feelings for Sarita with the term of mere friendship. So I don't believe that Raj is making a wise decision in getting Sarita remarried.
If you were struck in a position like Sarita, what would you do?
There is a hindi proverb that states that if you love someone, you ought to let them go free. If they return, then that love is yours and if they don't, then that love was never yours in the first place. I really do agree with this statement and feel that Sarita is doing the right thing for the most part. She is letting Raj go free by getting divorced and breaking all relations with him. I would do the same if I were in her position. However, I do feel that asking him to choose the groom for her punar vivah is a bit much.
If your answer to the above question is fight for her love meaning Sarita should fight for Raj? Then tell me, will Raj ever be able to love Sarita fully?
Although my answer to the above question is not as mentioned here, i will still respond to the second question, "Will Raj ever be able to love Sarita fully?" The answer to this question, I suppose, depends on each person's definition of love. To me, love is simply showing kindness and care towards your partner. It is compromising for him/her. It is doing those small things (cooking, candlelight dinners, movies together) and showing appreciation. If this is love, then isn't it clear that Raj is already in love with Sarita? If Sarita gets remarried, do you think she will be better off?
No, I don't think she would be better off. It is not easy simply breaking off one marriage and starting another because marriage is different from simply being in love. It's a lot more complicated and intense than that. For example, marriage involves committment. It also involves the joining of two families. How can one simply forget about their first marriage then? I don't feel that this is at all possible. In reality, if a person like Sarita were to get remarried, I feel that she would always be wondering: "Was my decision right? If I had stayed with Raj for some more time, could he have fallen in love with me? Could we have had a family, children, grandchildren together?" So in summary, no, I don't feel that if Sarita would be better off if she got remarried.
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