Hi Ronit
Very interesting topic.
Let me start by saying this show made mockery of the basic values/principles that are respected worldover - one of them being relationships in all its forms. Marriage is of course one such relationship. They were trying to show that outdated rituals have no place in the modern world and what they ended up doing was exactly the opposite.
Gigi and Her husband
I don't think I can comment on this as I did not really see any great aspect of it but it clearly showed the impact broken marriages have on the childern.
To me this really showed how women in the guise of being respected were disrespected. On the surface she had eveything a woman would want, a well to do husband, a nice home, a son, status and respect.
But scratch the surface and we have a woman whose husband physically abuses her, dominates and dictates what/who she can and cannot do/meet, disrepects her by frolicking with other women in their home and expecting her to turn a blind eye whilst still performing her duties as a wife. They say childern learn what they see and in this case the saddest thing was that Digvijay saw how his father treated his mother and women in general and as a result learnt to treat women in the same way.
Personally I did not understand the purpose of these characters in the show but leaving that aside...
I understand that when you have been a marriage for a long period you are not going to be loved up and passionate as you were when you first got married but there would be love and affection. It would be more inherent in the way you treat the other person rather than hearts and flowers.
It was obvious that they had been married for awhile so why they had waited until now to start a family was a mystery.
Anyway here it looked like that Bhushan had absolutely no interest in Suman as a woman or as a wife. Now that may have been because she was always bullying him!!! But no matter how weak or disinterested a husband may be there is no way he would openly allow his wife to be with another man especially moving that man and his wife into their house. Nor would he let his wife make his family's life hell.
To me they represented what many arranged marriages are like. Two people who on paper should be perfect for each other - similar age, background etc but do not work in reality because of personalities. In most cases the couple make the best of it. I think that was the case with TVS and Reva. They were not ideally suited in terms of personality but they made the best of it. It would have lasted if Reva had not had an accident and thought to have died, TVS had not come back to Mawari and had not met Sugni.
Clearly the character of Reva was not well crafted so we had someone who was suppose to be mentally ill, who supposedly suffered from amnesia and when she finally regained her memory instead of contacting her husband contacts her brother who tells her husband is getting married again so instead talking to her husband she pretends to be mentally ill and arrives at one of the family's property and somehow a loyal servant finds her. She then became a manipulative woman who would do anything to retain her status and the lifestyle she was accustomed to!!!!
Equally TVS was shown to have cared about Reva, wanted to do the right thing by her but when he realised she had pretended to be mentally ill (although how someone can pull that off for 8 years is difficult to understand) and the harder she tried to hold on to him the more indifferent he became to her and her feelings - his anger towards her, him telling her time and again that he wanted nothing to do with her, telling her that Sugni willl only come into this house as his wife, mocking Reva after his confrontation with Adini on Karva Choth, to the end when he was physically violent towards her.
These two were what would commonly be called matched made in hell. I felt sick when MS told Reva to have a child to strengthen her marriage. Thank God TVS could not be soo easily manipulated!!!
Sugni - Aditiya
To my mind, this was an unnecessary marriage ie there was no need for this marriage. It was not God's will as was suggested but their stupidity. It was a marriage borne out of Sugni's hurt pride/ego and Aditya's desire to be with the girl he loved.
Was it a marriage of convenience? I am not sure because I don't think the 2 people in the marriage knew what it was. Perosnally I think
- for Sugni it was about proving to TVS that she may love him but she would rather spend rest of her life with someone else than break his marriage; and
- for Adi by the time the marriage happened it was not about saving TVS's marriage but him being with the girl he loved. He knew Sugni was not in love with him but he also knew that for her marriage was for life so it was just a matter of time before he got what he wanted - spend the rest of his life with Sugni as his wife. That is why he was quick to believe and accept that Sugni did not love TVS, did not want to be with him.
To my mind this was the one marriage in this show that made mockery of the institution of marriage more than any other because it was entered into in anger, for revenge, to save a dead marriage, to save family from being torn apart but that is exactly what it acheived because every relationship was destroyed.
What's that old saying - the path to hell is littered with good intentions. That was certainly the case here.
Vikram And Sugni
I said at the beginning that if these two got together they would be a force to be reckoned with because they would have it all - strong morals and principles, wealth, the ability to connect with people from all walks of life and fundamentally love, mutual respect, fierce loyalty, strong emotional bond that transcends everything and a strong relationship that has been tested to hell and back.
This show must be the only one where all of the characters started positive and became nagative to varying degrees so that towards the end (before the leap) it was question of who being the least negative rather than who was the positive !!!!!
Edited by payal7 - 12 years ago
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