Truth?

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

Do people deserve to know the truth, even if it isn't in their best interest, and who determines what is someone's best interest?

Originally posted by: DonnaHarvey

What is in my best interest? Only I know best.

Should you tell me the truth? That is your call to make.

Is you telling me the truth in my best interest? Your answer will reflect what you believe and not the reality.

Everyone is slave to perception.

There is no right answer. Nor are your and my perceptions always mutually exclusive. But assuming otherwise is also wrong cause nothing is certain.

To put these confusing words simply, I do not have a definitive answer. Most likely, I will fight you if you tell me and I will find you if you don't. No one will win. That is human nature.

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

Is it someone who you care about .. is it important for them to know the truth?

Will you lose sleep if you don't tell them the truth?

Does your opinion matter to them .. will they believe you if you tell them the truth?

Has their decision affected you in someway .. and you care about the relationship you share with the person?

If its yes to all, then maybe its best you tell them.

As for the second part, parents think they know what is best for their kids.

Once we grow up, we think we know what's best for us.

Once we are in a relationship, our better halves think they know what's best for us.

Once our kids grow up, they think they know what's best for us.

I don't think anyone will know what's best for them until you do something and realize it was a good or a bad choice... or you know from previous experience that its a good or a bad choice. You might think you know what's best for you, but maybe someone else who has gone through the same situation might know more than you do .. so it never ever hurts to take a second opinion. Most of the times people get mad at you for being honest, only because it has hurt their ego, but once they realize you were right and you have helped them, they will thank you.

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

With reference to the bold, your looking out for your best interest and not the other persons...

Let me pose the same question in another way, when telling the truth should you be bother about the other person's best interest at all? Isn't telling the truth looking out for their best interest?

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

Do people deserve to know the truth, even if it isn't in their best interest, and who determines what is someone's best interest?

Originally posted by: zorrro

Not sure if I understood it correctly. An example may help. Lets say I am besotted with a girl. Taking that as the truth do people deserve to know it ? 😕 Does the girl deserve to know it? Would that be in my interest ? Would that be in her interest?

Who will determine and how?

Let me try to answer -

I dont think people deserve to know it as it does not involve them or do they?

The girl is involved so perhaps she deserves to be told as otherwise she may never learn of it. Woud that be in the boy's interest? Perhaps as he gets it off his chest.

However, if the girl gets ofended and cuts off all ties then it may not be in his best interest

Woud it be in the girl's best interest? I havent a clue to that one- duh 😕

So Aarya, I dont think there can be any right answer for the question you asked.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

So Miss Aarya is searching for the truth here. lol.

Well good luck. On issue of wheteher we should tell the truth or not my take is that it depends upon its impact. Some truths are transient and in those scenarios we dont have to tell person that if the impact of telling that truth will be negative. I mean it doenst make sense.

In general we should but if it is going to have a negative impact then we should weigh the need