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Posted: 12 years ago
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Shruthi, you will not be able to see that kind of passion in this relationship which you saw in Alaiyepayuthe.

1. The reason being this is a serial which has a joint family setting. The movie did not have.

2.There they were in love before marriage here they have gradually fallen in love after marriage. So the two situations are not comparable.

3.Here I maintain if Suraj takes the initiative like that day, Sandhya will go along with him. Physical closeness will bring them closer to each other. After that you will see the passion you are expecting. The acceptance which you find missing now will show openly.My point is unless they become physically close,there is no possibility of passion coming in. If I am not mistaken in the movie after marriage they did become physically intimate. Only after that the fierce passion came in. Here also I am expecting the same. Without one the other will not happen. Till than they will be good friends not husband and wife.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Shruthi, I am with you regarding being in the dark about Sandhya's true feelings about this marriage. She may not know either. I agree with Uma, that she may only discover what she feels if Suraj takes the initiative. Suraj is unwilling becaunse he senses her confusion and also because of the IPS thing. I could tolerate it till at least Suraj was shown pining. There was hope Sandy may one day feel the same. Now he has turned stone cold. There is not much to look forward to in this show any more for me!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: UMDU

Shruthi, you will not be able to see that kind of passion in this relationship which you saw in Alaiyepayuthe.


1. The reason being this is a serial which has a joint family setting. The movie did not have.

2.There they were in love before marriage here they have gradually fallen in love after marriage. So the two situations are not comparable.

3.Here I maintain if Suraj takes the initiative like that day, Sandhya will go along with him. Physical closeness will bring them closer to each other. After that you will see the passion you are expecting. The acceptance which you find missing now will show openly.My point is unless they become physically close,there is no possibility of passion coming in. If I am not mistaken in the movie after marriage they did become physically intimate. Only after that the fierce passion came in. Here also I am expecting the same. Without one the other will not happen. Till than they will be good friends not husband and wife.


totally agree umaji
it happens in every marriage only after physical intimacy , there is passion in the eyes, they are still in freindship level, both are finding it difficult to break the shackles or rather who will break first
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Posted: 12 years ago
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My sensible censors are ON so would love to share my POV on SoorYa's relationship.🤓.

I've time to time strongly defended SoorYa's relationship - as a divine/platonic thru my poetry and by arguing with senior gangs. I'd like to take my words back n I've to agree with them that SoorYa's relationship is highly unrealistic which CV's are portraying on-screen. How can any young girl stay from if she has a sweet husband like Sooraj or vice-versa is out of my brain power to understand.😒.

Also, It's proven fact that physical relationship always helps to relieve the stress.😲.

Male's mind programmed like that they always believe/understand physical form of love while females seeks for emotional strength from her partner.

In SoorYa's relationship I believe Sooraj has to take initiative slowly but steadily to excite Sandhya like do all playful things o/w how will sandhya will be excited?🤔.

P.S:- Senior gang don't laugh at me. Experience is the best teacher.😃.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@Umaji couple of points I disagree with you regarding Alaipayuthe. The song Snehathine happens before physical intimacy. The pining of Sakthi to intimate with Karthik is beautifully told in the below lines of this song
" Sonnathellam pakallile purive, nee sollathathum iraville purivu( What ever you have told me are the secrets of the day, you are yet to share with me the secrets of night 😊). Umaji this was the most passionate song in the whole movie more passionate than kadhal sadu kudu which shows the actual physical intimacy.
In SURYA's case I am not talking about the time before Singapore track. It is after Singapore track, after they are slowly becoming closer. I couldnt feel the intensity in her love. And that Oct episode when he tries to come close to her and he holds his hands. The saddest part for me in that episode was her silence. After that episode when Sooraj went on asking her what is the problem she kept mum. So he took his own intrepratations for it ie she is trying to sacrifice her dream by doing her wifely duties.She topped that up by another bhasan of hers on karva chauth " mein achi patni, achi bahu banna chahti hoon, woh sapna sandhya kothari ka tha, sandhya rathi ka nahi..blah blah 😊😊
Does she think Sooraj is an idiot who believes what she says, cannot read her eyes, the pain in them. So he took the decision based on what he interpretated. She didnt make any attempt to change perception also. Hence my whole point she has to open up, else with current perception about her inhibitions Sooraj is not going to take initiative.

One more thing Umaji pining happens from the heart , physical intimacy is the secondary part of it is my firm belief. Else how could I see the intensity of love in Kamali's eyes in Kaadal kotai when she has not even seen her lover once.
Also as I am also married please dont kill me, my experience also had been the same 😊. Even during the courting period( I had an arranged marriage and the time I am telling is after engagement) if I didnt get a call from him I used to miss him like anything. I still remember the incident one month into our engagement. He ha told me on friday he is going home. But for whole saturday i was not getting him. Whenever I tried his cellphone the message I was getting was " Phone number switched off" . I was worried. My hesitation didnt allow me to speak to my mom, I was not in a position to call his home, question was what will they think if I call and enquire. But each passing minute was a pain to me as I was also not getting the call from him. It was my youngest aunt who helped me that day. Seeing my face she felt something wrong and asked me. I am free with her and I told her the issue. She said dont worry. She dialled his home number, introduced herself and told she just called to speak to my would be in a cheery voice to my sis-in- law. When he came she spoke for sometime and handed over the phone to me.
Problem was his mobile phone was having problem and it had been given for repair. he wanted to call me but was hesitant as how he will call from the landphone 😊😊.
The point I am telling is someone could read from my face my dilemma.
Sandhya to Sooraj ke saath hain for past 1 year plus. I have never seen her pining for him, except the SV2 segment. That is why I told she has to communicate 😊😊 so that Sooraj feels more open and they can build their relationship.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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i too agree with you shruthi
it is sandy who has to take the intiative now and explain him that physical intimacy and studies can go hand in hand
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Shruthi, you have not read my first comment properly. I have clearly stated there that Sandhya has to talk to Suraj. That has to be done. What you are expecting from Sandhya will not happen, I maintain. Every individual is different. Sandhya was compelled into this marriage and seeing the goodness of Suraj fell gradually in love with him. As that is the circumstance you have to make the best of it. The passion, the acceptance the pining which you are talking about will take so much time that by the time if it ever happens they will be separated. If they don't take the relationship forward now when they are living together under the same roof, what hope do you think is there when she goes for training for 2yrs and has to undergo vigorous physical training from dawn to dusk. Now let me repeat what I said in my first comment. Suraj ideally should give up his obsession for IPS and his linking it to DBC. He is not able to do that. Next step Sandhya talks to him about family planning and the need not to wait. Don't expect her to talk about her passion and narrate a few romantic poems. She won't do that because she is not like that. For that you have to have a romantic predisposition which she does not have.We have to accept it. Let them decide not to have children till her posting but be physically close. What I have stated is the practical take on it based on the circumstances they are in. This is how majority of arranged marriages work in India. I also know it will not play out this way as the CVs will do it when the TRPS drop. So on this we have to politely agree to disagree. ( By the way Sandhya hugged him tightly when he came to see her in Ankur's place, so you can't really see she is that unromantic also and she has also on occasions given her proof of missing him)
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Posted: 12 years ago
#28

Originally posted by: -Amlu-

My sensible censors are ON so would love to share my POV on SoorYa's relationship.🤓.

I've time to time strongly defended SoorYa's relationship - as a divine/platonic thru my poetry and by arguing with senior gangs. I'd like to take my words back n I've to agree with them that SoorYa's relationship is highly unrealistic which CV's are portraying on-screen. How can any young girl stay from if she has a sweet husband like Sooraj or vice-versa is out of my brain power to understand.😒.

Also, It's proven fact that physical relationship always helps to relieve the stress.😲.

Male's mind programmed like that they always believe/understand physical form of love while females seeks for emotional strength from her partner.

In SoorYa's relationship I believe Sooraj has to take initiative slowly but steadily to excite Sandhya like do all playful things o/w how will sandhya will be excited?🤔.

P.S:- Senior gang don't laugh at me. Experience is the best teacher.😃.


Wah wah kya baat hain Amlu..Itna badlav...Loved the line in red.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: PadBear

After watching this show, I've forgotten that I'm a married woman myself! 😲

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: -Amlu-

My sensible censors are ON so would love to share my POV on SoorYa's relationship.🤓.

I've time to time strongly defended SoorYa's relationship - as a divine/platonic thru my poetry and by arguing with senior gangs. I'd like to take my words back n I've to agree with them that SoorYa's relationship is highly unrealistic which CV's are portraying on-screen. How can any young girl stay from if she has a sweet husband like Sooraj or vice-versa is out of my brain power to understand.😒.

Also, It's proven fact that physical relationship always helps to relieve the stress.😲.

Male's mind programmed like that they always believe/understand physical form of love while females seeks for emotional strength from her partner.

In SoorYa's relationship I believe Sooraj has to take initiative slowly but steadily to excite Sandhya like do all playful things o/w how will sandhya will be excited?🤔.

P.S:- Senior gang don't laugh at me. Experience is the best teacher.😃.

Words of wisdom from a newlywed...👍🏼

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