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rayadallie

@rayadallie

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Posted: 12 years ago

#51

Originally posted by: daljeet101
awww dont worry, it will come with time. I guess you still enjoy the relaxation.😃

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rayadallie

@rayadallie

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#52

Originally posted by: Sakhile
Oh, Daljeet don't wait for a boyfriend to add sparkle to your life. Sparkle any way. Create your own happiness, the boyfriend will then just be the cherry on the top.

Yes Rayadallie, you have to work at keeping the spark in the relationship so that the chemistry does not fizzle out. So just as in chemistry you would have to keep addiing chemicals to keep the sparkle, so too in relationships you would have to add new and interesting things to keep spicing the relationship up.

Most Definitely😉

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#53

Originally posted by: Sakhile
Yes, soapwatcher, every relationship must have something magical in it to keep the interest and the relationship alive. Relationships are after all forever changing. If they don't then stagnation sets in and the relationship may just die a very painful death.

Very wisely spoken.

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Kalapi

@Kalapi

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#54

Originally posted by: rayadallie
'chemistry is a connection, a bond or common feeling between two people. It starts very early in a friendship/relationship. Positive or negative chemistry is often one of the first feelings two people have about each other. It can be verbal or nonverbal, conscious or unconscious.' I rest my case here on the Chemistry issue.

With respect to background music, fireplace and rain etc, all I would say is that some of us do live in this century and some of us do share chemistry with our husbands/partners and we do create a romantic atmosphere, we do play music, we do light candles, we do sip wine while relaxing in our bath tubs. Chemistry and love grows deeper as two persons share their everyday lives. Some of us probably are in different relationships with different levels of chemistry or some of us just feel that love is just a thing of the pass. And yes some of us do share a kiss with our husbands/wives infront of the kids. Its all in life and reality. Children do not learn about romance and sex in the home and they learn about it on the road and hence, the many problems the world face today. Some societies need to change those customs and traditions to suit the world that we live in or the children of tomorrow will become more and more rebellious to such customs.

I just thought that I would mention those few words here as sometimes I get the feeling that people just try to put a good argument down and deliberately attempt be little other people opinions rather than respect it. It is not always a good thing to do. So lets agree to disagree.

My last comment on this topic.

Rayadallie, let me first say, I am not trying to shoot your argument down nor am I here to belittle you. In fact, I am very happy for you that you have an active love that is constantly manifested by kisses and candle light dinners. But, to me these are manifestations of love, not really Chemistry as we define in the Telly world.

Now, what you and your husband does might be a common thing for you, but does it mean that those who isn't kissing on the street or in front of kids or holding hands walking down a street doesn't have love. Let me give you a personal example very close to me, my parents. They fell in love and married against their parents wish in an age when love marriage was rare in India. All throughout my life I have never ever seen them kiss nor hold hands, but the bond that they share is so strong (touchwood) even to this day and that bond have made them battle things together that could break any relationship - ranging from economical, personal insult, health wealth - it is an endless list. So, saying that culture which doesn't encourage public kisses or public display of affections needs to change, isn't necessarily correct or right - nor, does it means that there isn't true love prevalent in these cultures - on the contrary, the manifestations might be totally different - and that love might be manifested in taking care of the spouse different, buying her gifts, or even being dutiful towards him/her and the kids.

Besides, I am sure you will agree that if your spouse didn't respect you or were compassionate towards you - any love could have been meaningless. Think it this way, in Sleeping with the Enemy, the hubby loved his wife so much, he literally loved her to death...now, he did love his wife, but will that be enough. To me, a balance is what makes a relationship. And above all, the understanding between to people who are committed and wants to work on any relationship - actual results in a successful relationship. In this regards, a happy marriage between 2 ppl might simple mean watching movies together, or going out camping together with the kids or relaxing by the sea as a family. Not necessarily there is a right or a wrong way in making any relationship work, as long as the ppl involved in it, wants it to work. Of course, purely, my POV...

Edit: There is diversity everywhere in life and accepting that diversity does goes a long way and as in most cases in life, no one way might be the right way...there may be multiple right way in love and its manifestation too...we shouldn't try changing a culture saying that is wrong, rather the path forward is accepting the diversity saying love has multiple way of manifesting...again purely, my POV...

Edited by Kalapi - 12 years ago

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