A part of me feels so bad for Sarsujaan. I think the reason why he's saying he doesn't want to get married/love is because of the pain he saw his mother go through with his father. She probably never received an ounce of love from him - well maybe 1 ounce since Saras was born, but notice there are no siblings!!!! - Anyway, since he saw his parents go through such a loveless marriage, he never found a good role model in his father. To top it off, even after his mother died, his father married so early and speaks to saras about his mother as: "tumhari ma," in a very strict, unloving tone - as if he never loved her in the first place.
This, I feel, is why he is so dejected and torn when it comes to love. Bechara.
on a side note...I'm so embarrassed!!! I Just posted this new topic in the Qubool Hai section by accident, since I watch that show too. I realized that I was like OH MY GOD!! Everyone in that forum must've thought I was crazy!! LOL