Originally posted by: PreetD
I definitely think that my mental disorder line of thinking was a bust and a conversation with Shri left me contemplating another theory I had had a while ago but I had discarded for some unknown reason (likely because work has kept me too preoccupied to think too deeply on the subject too often).
I wondered if RK was so self-destructive that he would destroy this relationship for a sense of self-preservation in the future. There are many examples to be found in American soaps and television where a couple (or one person in the relationship) will decide to end a relationship before it can run it's natural course in fear of what might happen if they don't take control of the situation. Jason and Elizabeth (the great love story of General Hospital that never really got a fair chance) have been in love forever but because his was a dangerous life he and Elizabeth (after many incidents) decided that they couldn't ever be together for the safety of the children but as fate would have it their son died in an unexpected accident that had nothing to do with Jason's dangerous life style. House went off the rails on House M.D. and sabotaged his own relationship with the woman he loved when she was facing death (she survived I believe).
If you'll recall from the night of the un-wedding RK compared their love story to that of one in the perfect movie. RK is an extremely filmy man, he himself said that he's the one that decides the endings to his movies. Often in his musings/conversations he refers to real life in the form of reel life (eg. Padmani and Malik's love story being compared to a great picture). So here's RK, he's had everyone that he's ever loved taken away from him. Even though he's been assured that Madhu would not leave him this does not mean that fate might have other plans. Madhu may never willingly leave the RK that she loves but there are many things that life can throw at us that can separate us from our loved ones (death for example - which became all too real a possibility). Perhaps part of this fear too was that Madhu may not love the darker parts of him, which he was doing a good job of hiding but were still very much a part of him, and might leave him if he did something that crossed the line too far.
Was any of what he experienced with Madhu a lie? Nope.. He fell and he fell hard everything he experienced was extremely real (the reactions he had to her while they were married and living together in love are similar to the ones he has now when he senses she's in pain). It was the greatest romantic film and it was his real life, only being RK he had to control the ending. He couldn't take the chance (especially after a few near misses where he thought he could have lost the woman he loved beyond reason) that anyone but him could dictate the ending of this love story. Before fate or Madhu could separate him from the love of his life he wrote the perfect ending and ended it himself. What does he take away from it? All the beautiful and sweet memories of his love he can think back on fondly in his own private moments. What he didn't anticipate correctly was just how difficult it would be to move on peacefully with just the memories. It's one thing to execute the perfect plan but an entirely different thing to deal with the aftermath.
Why was he so harsh to Madhu? He needed her to buy it, the 4 slaps were a convenient reason to use as that had what had started him on this journey of love to begin with. Had she not slapped him he would never have married her and thus never have fallen in love with her. He needs Madhu to leave it be, not question his motives as the woman was so in love with him that anything but the harshest, most devestating reason would not persuade her to leave him. She had already forgiven him too many things easily, every time he thought he might lose her she came right back. Right now Madhu is dealing by being strong on the surface but the poor girl is heartbroken and still putting the pieces together, she cannot see beyond her own pain to notice that perhaps there are ulterior motives behind RK's actions, just as he had planned.
What RK had not counted on was Madhu coming back into his life. I'm going to use a terrible example because I hate both the books and movies but have seen them because my sisters love them, but in the Twilight books Edward leaves Bella in a terrible manner making her think he doesn't love her to protect her and is content in the thought that as long as she's alive and happy somewhere in the world he'll be fine. Similar thing here, RK instead has done this for his own self-preservation (in his mind). He's not left Madhu alone, only without his love. She still has all the emotional supports she's ever had, if not more. There is still love and family surrounding her so in his mind he's decided she'll be fine, he's made sure that everything was right in her life. If he truly wanted her to pay would he not have kept her around so that he could continue to dictate everything in her life? He's let her go, maybe in a few years she'll meet a nice man and fall in love again, have a family (all things he told her he wanted to rob her of the morning after their wedding).
Seeing Madhu in front of him every day reminds him of the pain he's caused her and prevents him from just keeping hold of the happy memories and starting on the next chapter of his life. Every day he needs to now put up an act, the act that he put on during their un-wedding. The fact that he's an idiot for thinking he has any sort of real control in these matters is a whole other topic, thing is he thinks he does. As people have noticed, he's not the same RK he used to be, he can't revel in his victory because he wasn't actually really victorious in anything was he? She did change him (and this is partially something for the audience to hold onto as well - a light in the darkness so to speak) and were it not for RK's need to have complete control over everything in his life he would be with Madhu, loving her openly and accepting her love.
As for Madhu, she's a young girl who's faced heartbreak for the first time in her life. She's never not had love from those around her so for her to be confronted with the fact that the man she loved beyond all reason was not really in love with her is a hard pill to swallow but she's doing the best she can with it. I'm not even going to get into the dress debate as a few people have already voiced my thoughts on the whole thing. You have to look beyond the surface, think about everything she's dealing with and how she's still holding it together in the face of all of that. There are two ways people deal with any sort of emotional blow, you can curl up in a ball and cry it out or you can go out and deal with it head on. Madhu decided that for her the best course of action would be to go out and face it head on and if that meant seeing the source of her pain every day then why not? What better way to conquer that pain and crippling feeling than facing it head on every single day and conquering it a little every single day? Is she going to have a breakdown every now and then? Of course, that doesn't make her any weaker, just human.
What Madhu didn't expect in all of this is the mixed signals that man keeps giving her. One minute he's cutting her down and the next he's the caring man she fell in love with. What game is he playing. It would be much easier for her if he would just be the jerk that he wants her to believe he is at least then she wouldn't be forced to try and reconcile the man he keeps trying to be in front of her and the man she glimpses during his weaker moments.
Anyways, I don't know if I made any sense here, it's late and I talked a lot today about this topic and sometimes it's hard to get the sentiments you express verbally written down with the same feeling hours later.
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