Is saying 'Sorry 'enough?

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Hi Friends!!

Sometimes we hurt people unintentionally .Later we realise our mistakes and say "Sorry".Is saying "Sorry" enough???

I just want to know your thoughts on following things.

Do you people get angry?

How do u react when u r in anger?

What r ur anger management techniques?

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word

SORRY?

Cheers,

Mythili

Edited by mythili_Kiran - 18 years ago

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

There are several cateats.

    The offence should not have been done knowingly. Even Jesus said: Forgive them Father for they know not.... If a qualifier like that comes in play between God and His Son, I believe we are perfectly within our rights to refuse to forgive offences done knowingly. The apology should be sincere and non-presumptive. Saying things like,'Abe saley sorry bol diya na? Phir kya hai?' dampens the spirit of the forgiver(I have actually heard a person saying this.
  1. Amends should be made'and anything that can be done to reverse the effect of the offence -to whichever extent possible, should be done!


Of course most mature people know that people are not perfect so they expect others and themselves to make mistakes and offend others. Mistake, apology and forgiveness is part of being human.

I had the same question a few months ago - in a different context.
Is saying 'it was a mistake' enough?

Yeah I've seen it and got scared if my post also gets that type of response.Is saying 'it was a mistake' enough?

Thank you u opened the account.That post of yours zero replies😆.I thought of replying in it but my mind did'nt permit me as it is temporarily out of order.

Cheeeeeeeeers,

MMMMMMMMMythili Kiran

Edited by mythili_Kiran - 18 years ago
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Posted: 18 years ago
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in frndship !! sorry hona hi nhee chahiye
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Posted: 18 years ago
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Do you people get angry?
yea...of course...all the time 😭

how do u react when u r in anger?
I usually say whatever that comes on mind....like how much the person has hurt me...but if the person realizes that they have made a mistake then I calm down...and am nice again...but if they keep saying that they r right...while they r actually wrong then I get more mad... 😡 and say something that usually hurts the other person a lot

what r ur anger management techniques?
Don't have any...but I usually tell myself that maybe the other person who has made me mad is just having a bad day.

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word SORRY?

well it depends on what they have done...if he/she is someone that keeps hurting me and keeps saying sorry then of course I wouldn't forgive him/her, but if the person is someone that is usually nice but has made only this one mistake then yea I can forgive him/her

btw nice topic 😊


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Posted: 18 years ago
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Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Hi Friends!!

Sometimes we hurt people unintentionally .Later we realise our mistakes and say "Sorry".Is saying "Sorry" enough??? Depends entirely on the condition! Otherwise criminals could have get away saying sorry!😆

I just want to know your thoughts on following things.

Do you people get angry? Yes, ofcourse!! Are you a calm lady?😉

How do u react when u r in anger? Like a blasting pressure cooker( is what someone told me once lol)

What r ur anger management techniques? Laughing therapy ( as in muunnabhai mbbs lol)!! Well, sometimes, you 'feel' you don't need to control your anger because what you are doing IS right and you got the right to be angry at the other person!😡 But sometimes, you might be wrong, and you might regret after! That is the situtaion where you really need to calm down, because you might lose something very dear (referring to the book 'The Hero's Walk').

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word

SORRY? Well again, depends upon the situation. Forgiving is teh hardest! I rarely do that, and as time passes, the other person ..doesn't care if someone is angry with him/her you know! IDK.. you shoudl give us a specific situation, then only I can tell!!

Cheers,

Mythili

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Sometimes we hurt people unintentionally .Later we realise our mistakes and say "Sorry".Is saying "Sorry" enough???

if it was unintentionally, sorry might be enough but it depends on the seriousness of wat we have done

Do you people get angry?

of course i do n i am short tempered

How do u react when u r in anger?

i increase my voice n shout n its scary, my sis told me

What r ur anger management techniques?

i wud like to know sum coz i dun't have any

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word

again, depends upon the seriousness of wat she/he has done. if itz a small thing, i wud of course forgive but if it lead to very serious probs then i won't. it also depends upon the person who has done it. if itz my frnd, i wud. but if itz my enemy, no ways😆

Edited by del_geo - 18 years ago
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Posted: 18 years ago
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Do you people get angry?
yes I do

how do u react when u r in anger?
Usually I say whatever comes into my head and I try to justify my view, only if I think I am right, like if we were arguing on smt, but if they are being nice then I won't be mean

what r ur anger management techniques?
I just try to calm down or maybe not talk to the person during that day if I am really hurt

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word SORRY?

Yes I will forgive them if they say sorry and really mean it, the most important part is that they actually said it meaning that they care for my feelings too but if its saying it and not meaning it and keeps hurting my feelings then i will probably not forgive them.


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Posted: 18 years ago
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everyone gets angry once in a while..some get angry more often. whether or not someone has done it intentionally, if the person HONESTLY regrets his/her actions, then i think there's no reason why one shouldn't forgive them. but getting over your loss and pain is totally unrelated w/ whether or not you forgave the person who hurt you.
if the pain is related to how that person treats you or thinks of you, then you are the one to judge and decide...that should relieve the pain.
and if the pain is b/c the person hurt YOU, that is, your ego or your property, then it's only upto you how you rebuild urself and get out of it.

no one hurts you w/o your own permission. and if they honestly feel bad, they'll act like it and make amends in their behavior.

personally when i feel like i did sth wrong, (which i very often do cuz i'm only human, and so is everyone else...we all need to understand that and accept it), instead of actually utterring the word 'sorry,' i will make changes and do something to fix the harm i caused the person. and i think that's what apology should be.

but sometimes when we say that it's hard to forgive a person, i think it's more like we want to say we dont wanna get into it again b/c we're afraid of getting hurt again. there's really no way you can FORGIVE someone else....one's own self does that job when you regret ur actions.
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Posted: 18 years ago
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Sometimes we hurt people unintentionally .Later we realise our mistakes and say "Sorry".Is saying "Sorry" enough??? No I think it dependz on ur seriouzness scale of ur mistake... if itz bad then u shud probably do sumthing elze along wit just sayin sorry...

I just want to know your thoughts on following things.

Do you people get angry? Yes.

How do u react when u r in anger? Angry lol.. I just get frustated and dependz on wht made me mad... like if im angry at myself then i just stay quiet 4 a long time but say ifz itz like my younger sister i wud yell at her hehe

What r ur anger management techniques? Umm patience datz pretty much it 4 me😳

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word? Ummm yea of courze cuz sumtimez itz their habit so they cant control... i cant do nething bout it rite?😉

greattttttt discussion topic👏

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Sometimes we hurt people unintentionally .Later we realise our mistakes and say "Sorry".Is saying "Sorry" enough??? I just want to know your thoughts on following things.

It happens that we say things that we might not mean in heat of anger and than realize it and we are sorry

Do you people get angry? Yes, everyone as there moments

How do u react when u r in anger? I try not let it get the better of me, however, there are times when cant control and just let it out.

What r ur anger management techniques? I try to reason it out and see is it as serious as I think(not easy though)

Do you forgive the people who hurt u unnecessarily after they utter small word? 👏 Yes that is part of life and usually if I know that they are sincere

Edited by prietyny - 18 years ago

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