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Whenever Rachna - Gunjan topic comes up, everyone says Rachna is not matured like Gunjan. But recently I have been wondering, even Gunjan is matured enough or not. Yes, she is bold unlike Rachna and takes decision. That does not make one matured. One has to weigh pros and cons before taking a decision. Gunjan never seems to do that. If you want someone to trust you, be truthful. Gunjan does not realise the importance of communication. Few instances that bugs me.
Cannot recognise people : We might not bump into Mintus everyday. But Vihaans (who try to take advantage with deception) are our daily reality. From the gentleman sitting next to us in a public transport whose hands "accidentally" touches our body, from the nice uncles who tweaked our cheeks when we were kids, from a handsome looking boy who shocked us when he rubbed us on a busy road and vanished before we realise what happened, we learnt to recognise such "gentlemen". We grow up to a stage, where we can recognise a fake hand shake by our colleague.
A grown up girl would have never felt comfortable with the physical advances of a boy who is engaged to somebody else. She would cleverly distance herself from the boy and pity for the girl who is going to get married to such a flirt. If the girl who is getting engaged happens to be her close friend she would warn her. If she is her own sister, she would definitely put her foot down and tell her mom to break alliance with such a boy. Even if Vihaan did not have a grand plan of breaking the engagement, a girl would not tolerate such behaviours. Gunjan seemed to too naive to notice Vihaan's advances.
Taking things on her own: She refused to marry Mayank, fine. Why on Earth, she managed to get Mayank married to Charu without his consent ? She might have decided to respect Charu's sentiments getting hurt on her wedding day. But has she done anything good to Charu? She has got her married to a wrong person who does not love her. (In what way it is different from Mayank's mother actions, who also did not bother about Mayank's feelings?) Same way she is trying to unite Rachna with Vihaan, when she has realised Vihaan is not in love with Rachna. Gunjan many times take impulsive decisions which are wrong. Her decisions not just change her life but unfortunately dictates others life too, which she does not seem to realise.
Lack of communication skills : She wants others to understand her, but she refuses to communicate properly. (I have started to watch SSLK only from December during mahasangam episodes. I have browsed earlier episodes of Rachna-Rajeev but not the full SSLK. So, I may not be fully correct). Am I right, she refused to inform anything to Mayank during Rachna-Vihaan misunderstanding/confusion episodes? She does not give any explanation of Vihaan's closeness to Mayank. She attends Vihaan's party when Mayank wanted her to be with him, instead lies to him. Then she complains Mayank does not trust her. She repeated the same thing with Rachna, when she started to hide about Vihaan. Her heart might be good, but trust will not be built on unnecessary lies. Understanding needs communication at the beginning. I am not saying Rachna or Mayank are good. I am just saying, Gunjan also needs to learn a lot.
Third, her boldness. It is admirable. But she can't calculate the dangers. I can't state, whether her act with Mintu was appropriate as I have not fully watched those episodes. But I am about to watch this hotel scene which she had entered wrongly. Sorry. If she were to be my daughter, her actions would worry me more than making me proud.
This is an incident when we were in school (we had just stepped into teen). We heard boys in our class went on their own to a hill station (a bit remote) nearby. We girls also decided to copy them. When we requested the class teacher she not just refused, instead bluntly told us she can never authorise such a trip. If at all we go, it is going to be a private tour with our parents permission. We were so angry then. We discussed, "Are we not adults? Matured? Why do these people impose their decisions on us?". When I look back, I smile. Tomorrow, I wouldn't be allowing my child too. To me, Gunjan is also a vulnerable teenager. My request to Gunjan, "Please, decision over Rachna's life, consent Shayl. If you need to leave Shayl's home, inform dad."
Anupamaa
